Group paradigms and resisting negative social conditioning

[StarStruck]

So I decided to join this self help group for ex addicts. Before joining this group I was doing fine but after I joined it I was doing worse. It was a really interesting experience to observe in myself. 

Before joining I was productive, working on my business, no uni so I had time for fun stuff. But after joining that group I basically copied the paradigm of the “looser club”. I know I shouldn’t be using such terms but for the sake of clarity I did. I was going to those groups 2-3 times per week and each meeting lasted 2 hours. 

Social conditioning is so powerful guys. If you hang out with low consciousness people you basically adopt their energy. It is almost impossible to resist not being influenced in the same way you can’t stay clean if there is a literal shit storm happening in your living room. These people who were joining these groups were all fine people. People with a good heart and who were doing their best but I felt sad too how they are stuck in low consciousness paradigms. They are basically spinning their wheels. Those groups are basically echo chambers. 

If you really want to heal from addictions or improve you must not join a looser’s club. It is not a value judgement. It is just basic social dynamics. When you join a group your unconscious basically downloads the values, code of ethics, and vibe from the group. You have to find a group that is up the scale, not down the scale so the group can lift you up. For me the group pulled me down. For people who are very low like heavy depression and close to suicide such groups might come in handy so in no way I’m poo pooing those groups and making value judgements. Just sharing my introspection and observations. 

I could clearly see some people basking in their negativity. Joining such groups had a profound influence on my. It is almost like the group vibe lulls you into negativity. I was conscious of it and I tried not to be influenced by it but it is very hard to not get influenced by a group vibe. I wonder if there are people who developed the skills not to get influenced by group think and how you developed that skill. 

Edited August 26, 2023 by StarStruck

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