Why i have hurted the girl of my dreams multiple times

[evgn]

I have hurted the girl of my dreams multiple times... 

First i broke her hearth by breaking up with her. She loved me, she was the person that loved me truly, she was the person who was going to to everything for me, she was the girl of my dreams.

Why i sabotaged our relationship with her multiple times..... I do not know what is happening to me..

 

[Raze]

Get ifs therapy 

[evgn]

I will blame myself that i hurt this girl till the end of my life..

[Sugarcoat]

Self awareness can help with answering such questions ??

[evgn]

3 minutes ago, Raze said:

Get ifs therapy 

Actually yes, i feel like a different cold person sometimes when i am with her.. she is the sweetest thing in the world. I dont feel like myself

[Phil King]

she'll get over it

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• Attachment Issues: Individuals with attachment issues may struggle with forming and maintaining healthy relationships. This could stem from early childhood experiences that have shaped their ability to trust and connect with others.
• Fear of Intimacy: Some people have an intense fear of getting close to others due to a fear of vulnerability, abandonment, or being hurt. As a result, they may sabotage relationships as a way to protect themselves from potential emotional pain.
• Avoidant Personality Disorder: This personality disorder is characterized by a pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, and hypersensitivity to negative evaluation. People with avoidant personality traits may struggle with forming and maintaining close relationships.
• Borderline Personality Disorder: Individuals with borderline personality disorder often experience intense and unstable relationships. They may have difficulty regulating their emotions, which can lead to impulsive actions and relationship instability.
• Depression and Anxiety: Mental health conditions like depression and anxiety can impact a person's self-esteem, decision-making abilities, and relationships. These conditions might lead to behaviors that unintentionally hurt others.
• Low Self-Esteem: Individuals with low self-esteem might engage in self-sabotaging behaviors, believing that they don't deserve happiness or healthy relationships.
• Impulsivity and Emotional Dysregulation: Some individuals struggle with controlling their impulses and emotions. This can lead to impulsive decisions that hurt both themselves and those around them.
• Substance Abuse: Substance abuse can significantly impact judgment, behavior, and relationships, leading to behaviors that are harmful to oneself and others.

 

[Raze]

4 hours ago, evgn said:

Actually yes, i feel like a different cold person sometimes when i am with her.. she is the sweetest thing in the world. I dont feel like myself

So try it 

[Princess Arabia]

Maybe you don't feel deserving of her love or maybe you like challenges and she's not a challenge. Maybe.

[evgn]

1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said:

Maybe you don't feel deserving of her love or maybe you like challenges and she's not a challenge. Maybe.

Both true. When we start dating i feelt like i am so far away from her league. I mean she is more attractive than me for sure.

Second. I started taking her for granted after saw that she fall inlove...

[evgn]

I am not evil nor bad person, i am just mentally ill..... She would never understand that

[evgn]

5 hours ago, Phil King said:

she'll get over it

Yes, but i cant..

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, evgn said:

I am not evil nor bad person, i am just mentally ill..... She would never understand that

I wouldn't take it as far as mental illness. A lot of people are this way, maybe in a different context. It's just not that obvious or realized because some people don't receive genuine love from their partners, just conditional, so it's rewarding in that way because both needs are being met. If most were experiencing your situation they would probably withdraw too, like we do with God.

[LSD-Rumi]

@evgn Maybe you should now focus on doing some therapy or shadow work.

Let go of thinking about her now. Don't get attached to one girl. The problem here is not that you lost that girl. The problem is why you lost her. If you don't treat the underlying problem it will occur again.

Edited August 20, 2023 by LSD-Rumi