WTF is Emotional Intelligence?

[Mysterious Stranger]

Does such thing really exists? This thing called Emotional Mastery. 

If you could boil it down to one phrase, what is it? 

What its main characteristics? 

How vital it is for Success? 

[Carl-Richard]

Some few things that came to mind:

Emotional regulation: are you able to experience an emotion and then return to a normal level of activation by yourself over a short period of time, or are you like a baby that needs external help?

Emotional awareness: are you able to identify that you're having an emotional response at all?

Emotional diversity: do you experience a wide range of emotions? Many men experience something called emotional colorblindness: they only experience or express their emotions as one emotion (anger).

Emotional insight: are you able to identify the influences (internal and external) behind the emotion you're experiencing and how they feed into the emotion?

Emotional oversight: are you able to understand the role that different aspects of your life has on your emotions (e.g. friends, family, health, life purpose, etc.), and are you acting on that understanding?

Edited August 15, 2023 by Carl-Richard

[Osaid]

All emotions are intelligent in that they respond to what you believe you are experiencing. 

I imagine a monster under my bed  > perceived theat > emotion (fear)

When your clarity of perception increases, what you experience becomes more real and refined, and so with this your emotions also become more refined as a result, as your emotions are in porportion to exactly what you experience/perceive.

"Refined" simply meaning: You don't get emotional over things that do not exist.

Someone who is enlightened will have close to perfect emotional control. They will be at peace sitting by themselves in a room. They might perceive fear ONLY when something to fear exists, as an example, a loud unexpected sound, or perhaps being attacked by a bear. The emotions are in tune with what is real.
 

[Hojo]

Not letting other have any effect on your emotions. always remain stable

Edited August 16, 2023 by Hojo

[Nilsi]

According to Jordan Peterson it’s literally Agreeableness (Big 5 Trait).

[ivankiss]

It's being conscious enough and knowing how to handle any emotion that arises, instead of being sucked into the heat of the moment and making a mess.

It is not the absence of difficult emotions. Rather the ability to tackle and transform them. Or even, hold space for them until they naturally dissolve.