You Can Have An Authentic Relationship With Anybody If You Can Suspend Ur Agenda

[Mesopotamian]

I lately have this realization that You Can Have An Authentic Relationship With Anybody If You Can Suspend your Agenda

And it's your personal agenda in this worlds that prompts you to judge people that you bump into throughout your life.

You're basically biased towards serving that agenda whatever it is.

If you want comfort, or personal growth, or progress, or money, all of those are agendas, so you're going to sacrifice connection with people and anybody who can remotely slow down your agenda. 

What do you value more? do you value your personal agenda? or you value authentic connection with others? 

Sometimes your agenda will distance you from people, and you end up lonely, and you mistakenly think that when you succeed with your agenda, you will be loved by others who will appreciate what you've acheived.

 i would like you to consider that in order to feel loved and feel authentic connection, you need to let go of your personal agenda altogether. 

Here's an example:

[gettoefl]

my agenda is to be a beacon of truth

furthermore i don't speak truth to others only myself

it may seem i am answering your concerns in fact i am cementing my truth in my mind

from this perspective i am attached to nothing connected to everything

no one is more valued by me than another

i like you whether you're an ex nba center playboy or a brutal dictator of a communist regime

you are welcome at my table and if i have something to say i will tell you the truth no matter the cost

everyone is my family though of course i have energy for only a few people per day

so i will spread my seeds very mindfully

Edited August 14, 2023 by gettoefl

[Mesopotamian]

@gettoefl that sounds lovely, yet do you really have a dictator-like person whom you can have an authentic or genuine connection with yet?

 

[gettoefl]

Just now, Mesopotamian said:

@gettoefl that sounds lovely, yet do you really have a dictator-like person whom you can have an authentic or genuine connection with yet?

 

indeed and her name is mum 

[Mesopotamian]

3 minutes ago, gettoefl said:

indeed and her name is mum 

that's interesting, although moms are to be abandoned in my opinion. She either want you to get married, have kids, and serve the purpose of continuation of human race, or either she would want you to make life beautiful by being creative and finding solution to the problems of humanity.. you ideally can't do both.. 

Most moms are from first type, and it's ok to leave them..

[Sugarcoat]

Ummm this to me sounds like your “agenda” isn’t authentic to you. If it is it should start permeating everything in your life and everything about you to the point it’s no longer even an agenda, which sounds like something hiding in the shadows. And people you connect with will be part of your “agenda”, connecting to it as it’s so intimate with all that you are,  don’t see it as a hindrance