Should I be able to look through my partners phone?

[The Redeemer]

Part of me believes people keep secrets on their phone. Is this useful knowledge to know when dating someone?

[PlayOnWords]

No.

[nhoktinvt]

absolutely not.

[meta_male]

No, this is insecure behaviour on your end.

[Thought Art]

Nah

[The Redeemer]

9 hours ago, Thought Art said:

Nah

@Thought Art

I feel like you guys don't want to investigate this aspect of reality.

[Buck Edwards]

You can snoop on it when they're not around, but it's not a healthy indicator. It means either you don't trust them fully or that they did something awkward to make you auspicious, both situations being equally bad. If you love someone and they trust you too, then there would no need to be suspicious of them in the first place. 

I'd prefer a situation where we both sit down and say to each other - hey you can look into my stuff anytime you want and I won't mind. You can see it right now if you think I'm being sneaky and hand over my stuff. Just as a "build openness" exercise. This is not easy for partners as often people have a side to themselves that they don't wanna reveal to their partner, for example a gambling addiction. 

The only way to cultivate trust is to be completely open, transparent and vulnerable and it's beautiful. 

Don't be sneaky about it. Leads to bad consequences later. 

 

[The Redeemer]

1 hour ago, Buck Edwards said:

You can snoop on it when they're not around, but it's not a healthy indicator. It means either you don't trust them fully or that they did something awkward to make you auspicious, both situations being equally bad. If you love someone and they trust you too, then there would no need to be suspicious of them in the first place. 

I'd prefer a situation where we both sit down and say to each other - hey you can look into my stuff anytime you want and I won't mind. You can see it right now if you think I'm being sneaky and hand over my stuff. Just as a "build openness" exercise. This is not easy for partners as often people have a side to themselves that they don't wanna reveal to their partner, for example a gambling addiction. 

The only way to cultivate trust is to be completely open, transparent and vulnerable and it's beautiful. 

Don't be sneaky about it. Leads to bad consequences later. 

 

Part of me believes she is running an online empire without my knowledge.

I tried being honest and upfront, but it goes both ways.

Edited August 14, 2023 by The Redeemer

[Buck Edwards]

13 minutes ago, The Redeemer said:

Part of me believes she is running an online empire without my knowledge.

I tried being honest and upfront, but it goes both ways.

You should have open communication. Asking a forum gives a bad look already. 

[The Redeemer]

1 minute ago, Buck Edwards said:

You should have open communication. 

I am aware of that. There is no way for me to control her lack of openness though. Like I said it is a two-way street.

I ultimately will have to end things and move on to a girl who is honest and open. It is a mistake on my part for even putting up with such a woman.

[Buck Edwards]

2 minutes ago, The Redeemer said:

I am aware of that. There is no way for me to control her lack of openness though. Like I said it is a two-way street.

I ultimately will have to end things and move on to a girl who is honest and open. It is a mistake on my part for even putting up with such a woman.

Nobody can decide that for you. 

[The Redeemer]

20 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

Nobody can decide that for you. 

Yes, decision itself will take over.

[MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI]

19 hours ago, The Redeemer said:

Part of me believes people keep secrets on their phone. Is this useful knowledge to know when dating someone?

I'd never ever let any human look through my devices as Your business is your business. 

[MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI]

5 hours ago, The Redeemer said:

Eh...I am aware of that.

There is no way for ME TO CONTROL her lack of openness though.

Like I said it is a two-way street.

I ultimately will have to end things and move on to a girl who is honest and open.

It is a mistake on my part for even putting up with such a woman.

Dude, you amaze me how you use and weaponize Leo's concepts. "Two-way street"... Can she look through your phone and laptop and storage?

Edited August 15, 2023 by MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI

[The Redeemer]

2 hours ago, MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI said:

I'd never ever let any human look through my devices as Your business is your business. 

My business is your business and your business is my business.

[The Redeemer]

2 hours ago, MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI said:

Can she look through your phone and laptop and storage?

Abso-fucking-lutely.

[The Redeemer]

2 hours ago, MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI said:

Dude, you amaze me how you use and weaponize Leo's concepts. "Two-way street"... Can she look through your phone and laptop and storage?

Privacy should be abolished.

[meta_male]

9 hours ago, The Redeemer said:

I ultimately will have to end things and move on to a girl who is honest and open. It is a mistake on my part for even putting up with such a woman.

Your actual mistake is demanding honesty and openness from a girl while acting immature. You'll miss out on that with the next one too.

[integral]

5 hours ago, The Redeemer said:

Privacy should be abolished.

So you seem to think consent shouldnt matter if it gets in the way of getting what you want.

• Then I should also be allowed to have sex with you when ever I want when im horny regardless if you want anal sex from a man or not (like you stated you believed in other thread)

Does all this sound good for you? You Consent to that? 

No obviously you do not agree. So your statements at this point are like a child throwing a temper tantrum when they dont get what they want.

Completely lost in egocentrism. 

Edited August 15, 2023 by integral