The narcissist's prayer

[martins name]

Found this today. I think it's genius. Here it is:

The Narcissist's Prayer 

That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it.

[SamC]

Super cool! Where did you find it?

[martins name]

@SamChttps://youtu.be/OdBbzcVlhws

[Ulax]

Dayum you found my mum's prayer

[Ulax]

2 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

My mum's prayer too. 

Most narcissists want you to seek their approval. Never give them that. Never let them enjoy that benefit. 

They are nobody to approve you. 

 

@Buck Edwards Agreed. Can be hard though, in my experience, because of the attachment style you develop towards a narcissistic parent imo.

[Ulax]

1 minute ago, Buck Edwards said:

Yes I agree. I developed a codependent attachment stile. That caused me severe suffering. They make you do that. They want to be the boss. Then you're forever left seeking their approval. You can break it by letting yourself be free of their judgement. Best to not give them attention and feed their narcissism. Best to act like they don't exist, that's a death to their ego. Crush their ego as much as possible. 

 

@Buck Edwards Ye dude i get you. I'm disorganised attachment myself. Maddening too once you are aware of your style but then you still see yourself have the same strong desires

[Ulax]

6 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

I developed disorganized behavior myself. It happens over time. 

A narcissist can never understand someone's vulnerability. 

How do you deal with the narcissist in your family? What did you do for it? 

@Buck Edwards I developed pretty severe cptsd as a result of my upbringing. Which has left me rather reliant on my parents financially for the time being whilst I heal myself. So, I sort of studied a lot about narcissistic people's patterns of behavior's, and I work to manage their emotions so that I get the support I want.

I've distanced myself as much as possible otherwise though, both emotionally and physically.

[Ulax]

@Buck Edwards How about you dude?

[Ulax]

@Buck Edwards You watch Dr Ramani on youtube?

[Ulax]

@Buck Edwards Okay dude, all good 

[meta_male]

Sometimes I wonder how much of their mindset I've picked up over the years.