How do I find a "positive lesson" in major traumatic events in my childhood?

[oldhandle]

I posted this first in the Life Purpose forum but maybe that's a mistake - I posted it there because I'm working through Leo's course and I'm stuck on this part.

But the title is basically everything. I was born with a deformity that needed years of surgeries which caused me unexplainable amounts of physical and mental pain. My dad died when I was 5. I'm being asked to find a "positive lesson" in these instances and I'm honestly coming up with nothing - they were negative and life would have been surely better without them. Can anyone assist me? Thank you. 

 

[Raze]

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MFdiI_OaNPI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lD1ny_Q8sKo

[oldhandle]

Thank you very much for these replies.

[TheCloud]

@oldhandle I don't think you have to find a LOT of value in your past experiences.  You don't have to find enough to justify them or make them make sense.  Just find something.  I think the point is to be ABLE to find a positive lesson in it, even if it's awful and traumatic.  It's for you to be stronger than the things that happen outside your will.