Posted August 10, 2023 3 hours ago, Princess Arabia said: I think men are the ones that care what their friends and people in general think more than women. That's why most go for looks because of how it makes them look to others. Beautiful women are like "arm candies" and makes them look like "the man". I would literally think the opposite growing up, when I was walking around with a gf I thought "everyone must think shes lucky to be with me as im so good looking, smart and desirable". ? How is this post just me acting out my ego in the usual ways? Is this post just me venting and justifying my selfishness? Are the things you are posting in alignment with principles of higher consciousness and higher stages of ego development? Are you acting in a mature or immature way? Are you being selfish or selfless in your communication? Are you acting like a monkey or like a God-like being? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 (edited) 6 hours ago, StarStruck said: Perhaps you are an exception to the rule. Most women care what their girlfriends and family thinks about the guy. I used to care then realized I'm not going to live my life by the opinions of others and when I new people are assessing someone I'm with I just see how lost in conditioning they are. The other day i introduced by gf to my larger family and can see there "standards" are based on not understanding the struggle of finding someone with REAL compatibility with you. It doesnt matter what her job is, or her looks or her social skills, its really hard to find someone compatible with me, so of course she will not meet some stupid standard. Edited August 10, 2023 by integral How is this post just me acting out my ego in the usual ways? Is this post just me venting and justifying my selfishness? Are the things you are posting in alignment with principles of higher consciousness and higher stages of ego development? Are you acting in a mature or immature way? Are you being selfish or selfless in your communication? Are you acting like a monkey or like a God-like being? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 19 minutes ago, integral said: I used to care then realized I'm not going to live my life by the opinions of others and when I new people are assessing someone I'm with I just see how lost in conditioning they are. The other day i introduced by gf to my larger family and can see there "standards" are based on not understanding the struggle of finding someone with REAL compatibility with you. It doesnt matter what her job is, or her looks or her social skills, its really hard to find someone compatible with me, so of course she will not meet some stupid standard. I like a girl but she has tattoo’s and shit. It doesn’t fit in my family culture but then again I’m not close to my family. I just don’t want her because of me. Not because of my family. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 @Princess Arabia when I got you corned you weren’t serious anymore Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 2 minutes ago, StarStruck said: I just don’t want her because of me What do you mean by this? Do the tattoos bother you? How is this post just me acting out my ego in the usual ways? Is this post just me venting and justifying my selfishness? Are the things you are posting in alignment with principles of higher consciousness and higher stages of ego development? Are you acting in a mature or immature way? Are you being selfish or selfless in your communication? Are you acting like a monkey or like a God-like being? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 27 minutes ago, integral said: What do you mean by this? Do the tattoos bother you? Yes. Tattoos also come with a certain mindset and culture. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 14 minutes ago, StarStruck said: Yes. Tattoos also come with a certain mindset and culture. I knew a girl with lots of tattoos and she was one of the sweetest I've ever known ? Nothing will prevent Wily. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 1 hour ago, integral said: I would literally think the opposite growing up, when I was walking around with a gf I thought "everyone must think shes lucky to be with me as im so good looking, smart and desirable". ? Thats when you're young and naive. When men get older, they get hit with the reality of the dating scene and realize the dynamic is different from their younger days. Know thyself.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 4 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said: Thats when you're young and naive. When men get older, they get hit with the reality of the dating scene and realize the dynamic is different from their younger days. What reality? 14 minutes ago, Schizophonia said: I knew a girl with lots of tattoos and she was one of the sweetest I've ever known ? I know what you mean Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 1 minute ago, StarStruck said: What reality? I know what you mean That women are the Prize. That's why men compete for them and chase them. There are so many signs that indicates this, and men who realize this are the ones that usually win, but most don't get this till they become old and grey or never do. Boo hoo. Know thyself.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 9 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said: That women are the Prize. That's why men compete for them and chase them. There are so many signs that indicates this, and men who realize this are the ones that usually win, but most don't get this till they become old and grey or never do. Boo hoo. Hmm I hope you are joking again. Beautiful girls are in abundance. High quality men are in scarcity so go figure who is the prize. Hot girls ride the magic school bus between the ages of 15-25 when her sexual prime and fertility hits peak. After that it is no magic school bus but Uber. As a guy you can still rock the dating market as a 30 year old if he got his shit together. If you are 30 as a girl the landscape will look very different for her. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 Just now, StarStruck said: Hmm I hope you are joking again. Beautiful girls are in abundance. High quality men are in scarcity so go figure who is the prize. Hot girls ride the magic school bus between the ages of 15-25 when her sexual prime and fertility hits peak. After that it is no magic school bus but Uber. As a guy you can still rock the dating market as a 30 year old if he got his shit together. If you are 30 as a girl the landscape will look very different for her. I'm not joking this time and I don't sit around saying to myself I'm the prize, it's just inherent. I need do nothing. It's not just about physical beauty either. Notice you had to say "high quality men", that's like saying "health food". I can tell you're very young and a bit naive when it comes to this topic, which is ok because of your age. A female at 30 is no way past her prime, in fact she's just reaching it and can maintain that well beyond her 40's if she takes care of herself. Prize in this sense is more about worth than looks and not just monetarily. I won't get into that just do some quality research as to why inherently this is the case. The sooner you understand this the better your relationships will be and the happier you'll be in relationships. Don't go following your buddies or Andrew on this issue because you'll get left behind wondering why. It's a particular dynamic that's inherent, not in the sense that you think I'm saying, but when you understand it, and treat women as such, you'll have women gravitating towards you more in a real way other than just your looks. Know thyself.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 20 minutes ago, StarStruck said: Hot girls ride the magic school bus between the ages of 15-25 when her sexual prime and fertility hits peak. After that it is no magic school bus but Uber. If you have a gf, r u going to leave her after she's 25? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 (edited) 1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said: That women are the Prize. That's why men compete for them and chase them. There are so many signs that indicates this, and men who realize this are the ones that usually win, but most don't get this till they become old and grey or never do. Boo hoo. If all women are 'the prize' just because they're women, why should a man choose you over other women? Why shouldn't he be a total player womanizer and enjoy as many 'prizes' as he wants?! On a serious note, if women believe that they're the prize just cuz they have a vagina, this feeds into the wider issue of women's sexualization and objectification. Please don't let your gender/sexuality define your worth, please rely on other things for it. Edited August 10, 2023 by mr_engineer Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 (edited) 1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said: That women are the Prize. That's why men compete for them and chase them. There are so many signs that indicates this, and men who realize this are the ones that usually win, but most don't get this till they become old and grey or never do. Boo hoo. I am absolutely certain im the prize and that mindset is what gets girls. What your saying is the opposite of what couches teach men. Believing that I have no value is a really bad mindset. I could be homeless and be 100% sure im the prize. ? 1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said: treat women as such, you'll have women gravitating towards you more in a real way other than just your looks There is a conflation happening that if you think your the prize then your a asshole basicly that doesnt threat women right. Thats not what the mindset it about, being mature and loving is a separate line of development that co-exists with having the mindset that "I am the prize". Both men and women should think they are valuable that's healthy way to go about it. When i was younger i didn't think my gf was not valuable, I just felt really good about myself(and always will) and i thought she was beautiful to and loved her. It wasnt a arrogance kind of out of balance value dynamic. Edited August 10, 2023 by integral How is this post just me acting out my ego in the usual ways? Is this post just me venting and justifying my selfishness? Are the things you are posting in alignment with principles of higher consciousness and higher stages of ego development? Are you acting in a mature or immature way? Are you being selfish or selfless in your communication? Are you acting like a monkey or like a God-like being? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 (edited) 5 hours ago, Aaly said: If you have a gf, r u going to leave her after she's 25? If you had a husband, would you leave him if he lost his job and had to work at McDonald’s? You wouldn’t have married him if he worked at McDonald’s, but still you probably wouldn’t leave because you developed a bond. It’s the same. Looks may get him in the door, but a connection is developed that makes them stay. Edited August 10, 2023 by Raze Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 1 hour ago, Aaly said: If you have a gf, r u going to leave her after she's 25? No. But would you leave your husband if he had suddenly no dick on him anymore? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 @Princess Arabia so ou are not joking this time? I’m on your side you really need to stop flipping paradigms. If a guy followed your advice he would have zero confidence and zero game. You have a very masculine perspective and perhaps it is working for you perhaps it is not. Perhaps it works with feminine guys but most guys aren’t feminine. From my exp: the moment a girl understands she is the prize in the relationship you get dumped. Most girls are hypergamous and they want somebody worthy (equal or more worth, not less) next to them and that is why I said what I said in the beginning. Males can actually date a girl from McDonald’s if she is hot or and sweet. A girl who got her shit together won’t even look in the direction of a McDonald’s worker. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 1 minute ago, StarStruck said: the moment a girl understands she is the prize in the relationship you get dumped +1 its ridiculous and true, when nothing has really changed, she just feels differently. ?♀️ How is this post just me acting out my ego in the usual ways? Is this post just me venting and justifying my selfishness? Are the things you are posting in alignment with principles of higher consciousness and higher stages of ego development? Are you acting in a mature or immature way? Are you being selfish or selfless in your communication? Are you acting like a monkey or like a God-like being? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 10, 2023 10 minutes ago, integral said: +1 its ridiculous and true, when nothing has really changed, she just feels differently. ?♀️ The most tragicomic part of it is that they are oblivious and ignorant about it themselves. Even amongst the so called high conscious ladies on this forum like diamond net who is a sweet lady but totally clueless and misguided. SD green ladies are something else. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
