Developing Maturity and Ability to Use One's Mind

[Thought Art]

Developing a Mature Mind

Developing a mature mind and relationship to reality is essential to living a good life. In fact, I have learned that the ability for us to be successful is directly correlated with how mature our mind is.

Essentially, if from birth you magically had the maturity of someone with massive life experience... someone who self reflected, learned, self actualized you would easily ace life. But, because we are born in ignorance we have to go through the trials and tribulations of developing wisdom. In my case, this has been the trial of developing wisdom through massive failure. I have tried, and failed so many times in my life. But, at the same time I think one think I had that was special is that I have tried a lot of things in life and do my best to expose myself to lots of different information and experiences. I think to the degree that I am wise is because of all these experiences and my open minded approach to learning. However, I do not consider myself wise to the depths and completion that I hope to one day be. In many ways I am foolish.

I think it's important to discuss that there are key areas that make up our lives. They are:

1. Relationships
2. Finances
3. Career/Business
4. Hobbies
5. Spirituality
6. Health and Fitness
7. Education

Each of these areas requires foundation levels of study, and direct experience to begin developing wisdom in them. It can take years to develop wisdom in these areas. I think it's important that if you are reading this, and you are interested in becoming wise that you make the commitment today that you will develop a mature, wise understanding and relationship to these areas of human life. 

Some examples:

1. A wise person in relationships understands enough about human relationships both theoretically and experientially that they are able to go about building relationships in a healthy conscious way. They know when to let people into their lives and when to have healthy boundaries. They are wise in the way of relationships and cultivate healthy relationships in their lives.

2. A person who is wise in finances knows the difference between foolish financial practice and wise financial practice. The wise person saves money, invests, builds wealth and uses money to free themselves from meaningless work, or better yet wage slavery. The wise person realizes the importances of studying healthy financial habits, wealth creation and investing.  A wise person is also aware of how scams work and can easily spot and avoid them. 

3. A wise person in the area of business is realistic about the amount of work that is required with building a business. They know that building a business is challenging, takes time, takes money, has risks, and requires a lot of emotional labour for it to become a reality. They go about business is a way that is thinking, 5, 10, 15 years down the road. Generally a wise person is thinking long term. 

4. A wise person realizes the importance of developing hobbies as they add to the enjoyment of life. They also realize what types of things are better off a hobby, than what is better pursued as a career.

5. The wise person goes about spirituality in a slow, deliberate manner. They know when it's the right or wrong time to pursue spirituality. For example, if you are young then spirituality needs to be done in the context that you also have many other goals, pursuits and karma to burn through. They are careful with psychedelics, and do all things in moderation. They are wise to avoid cults, religions, and ideologies. They root their spirituality in wisdom, and balanced, healthy epistemology. 

6. The wise person realizes the importance of proper nutrition and exercise and invests in that from a young age. They realize that if they want to be able to afford healthy foods, gym memberships etc then they must find a way to earn enough to make that a reality. They only eat junk food in moderation if at all. They use food and fitness to elevate their happiness. 

7.  A wise person realizes that their education, intelligence and understanding of reality that is embodied is the deciding factor on their happiness and ability to enjoy life.

I personally think I am in the early phases of understanding what Wisdom is, and implementing the principles of wise living in my life. I have a lot to learn, and many challenges to overcome that I created simply due to being unwise with many of the above categories. Wisdom, is really the key to all human problems. Wisdom grounded in a deeply profound self love. 

I have a lot of work to do. I need more discipline. I need more planning. I need more long term thinking. I need more experience. I need more money. I need more success. I need more relationships. So much to work on. 

A wise person, I think.. see life as a game. They know it's a passing dream. But, they realize they want to honour it and enjoy the time they have here on earth despite so many challenges that humans face... or create for themselves simply due to their own foolishness or the foolishness of others.

Become Wise.

 

 

Edited July 28, 2023 by Thought Art

[Spiral]

I’m terribly immature when it comes to work and home chores. 

In the sense that I want to do as little amount of work as possible. Only to instead get stressed about being found out.

How do I become more mature in this regard?

[Spiral]

10 hours ago, Thought Art said:

2. A person who is wise in finances knows the difference between foolish financial practice and wise financial practice. The wise person saves money, invests, builds wealth and uses money to free themselves from meaningless work, or better yet wage slavery. The wise person realizes the importances of studying healthy financial habits, wealth creation and investing.  A wise person is also aware of how scams work and can easily spot and avoid them. 

This can become a trap however, in which you are naively cheap and retire at 35 only to find that lives becomes sort of meaningless without meaningful work.

Balance is needed.

Edited July 28, 2023 by Spiral

[LastThursday]

@Thought Art that's a decent high level list. I would add emotions and mind to the list. A lot of immaturity comes from impulsive emotions not being kept in check (chimpery!) and a lack of self awareness and consequences of your actions. 

I'd say the most important ones in the list are relationships and health/fitness as well as mind and emotions. Those together are like the operating system of humans. Master those and everything else becomes a lot easier.

[Thought Art]

Most of my problems right now are the result of:

1. Lack of maturity 

2. Lack of Wisdom

3. Lack of integrity 

4. Lack of emotional Control/ intelligence 

5. Trauma and addiction 

6. Being a fool

It takes years I’m learning to self correct both these behaviours and the damage they have caused. 
 

Start Now.

 

Edited July 28, 2023 by Thought Art

[CARDOZZO]

Thanks for that.

[Thought Art]

Wisdom Mood

 

[itsadistraction]

Great post keep them coming @Thought Art

[Thought Art]

@001 Thanks, I kindly disagree. 
 

I think there are many degrees of wisdom  and there are wise ways of interaction with each of these domains of human existence. I personally think that developing a healthy body is wise when you look at all the benefits that come with proper nutrition and exercise. 
 

You might say, “Well, lots of people who go to the gym aren’t wise” yeah? Well, who is wise. The person who goes to the gym 3 times a week and feels good and looks attractive? Or the person who neglects taking care of their physical body? I think going to the gym, or yoga studio, or dance hall… can be a wise decision. However, if you are wise you will do what works for you. 
 

Notice that many people who meditate also are not necessarily wise. I am not saying that going to the gym makes you wise in all the ways. Wisdom is a broad and nebulas notion. Meditation can contribute to wisdom, meditation can be a wise decision. Meditation though is not itself wisdom. That goes for any single example I could provide.

Yeah, mediation and contemplation IS what I did when creating this post. I was contemplating for me, examples of how I personally contemplate each of these areas of human life and what I think wise interaction is with each of these domains. You may come to different conclusions and may follow your own wisdom. 
 

I kindly disagree that physical fitness is avoided by wise people, or couldn’t be a wise decision someone makes in their life. I also disagree that wise people don’t create these sorts of lists when contemplating wisdom for themselves.
 

The listing of examples of wisdom wasn’t meant to be absolute or exhaustive. 

Edited July 30, 2023 by Thought Art

[Yimpa]

On 7/28/2023 at 8:25 AM, Thought Art said:

6. Being a fool

I pity the both of us