Pursuing ones own truth

[effortlesslumen]

How can you be honest to yourself without doing it from a standpoint of selfloathing? So you are not sugar coating the facts but also dont turn this process in a fatherly act of "education." I know you could remind yourself you are doing it out of an act of self love but is this enough? I wonder because induling in borderline selfhate would not lead to the truth even the goal would be truth. Any tips would be appreciated. 

Edited July 17, 2023 by effortlesslumen

[Yimpa]

When you stop bullshitting yourself is when the real change can begin.

Good luck undoing decades of bullshit, though! You best have a reality check on your expectations on how challenging this will be. I’m not calling you out specifically.  Rather, I’m actually also just starting to come to this realization after more than a decade of confusion. 

Edited July 17, 2023 by Yimpa

[bensenbiz]

By getting rid of everything that u are not.. guess what it is? layers of fear 

[Yimpa]

Just now, bensenbiz said:

By getting rid of everything that u are not.. guess what it is? layers of fear 

You don’t have to get rid of something that has no meaning for you.

[bensenbiz]

9 hours ago, Yimpa said:

You don’t have to get rid of something that has no meaning for you.

Explain

[Yimpa]

6 hours ago, bensenbiz said:

Explain

For example, I was born Catholic. But I left it at age 14. I don’t have any trouble not attending church every Sunday because it has no meaning to me whatsoever. 

My family would have a panic attack if they missed mass for a month. 

[bensenbiz]

Got u, so u mean: just getting rid of attachements