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Sexual desparation

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47 minutes ago, Javfly33 said:

Look for meet-ups in your city. Meetup.com is a great place and ive gone out a lot and meet lots of people there. But don't stay at home pitying your situation. Do actions and choices every day towards you feeling better and your goal, that desperation is your inner intelligence saying to you there is a desire that is NOT fulfilled. Do not avoid it.

  

Oh yea meet-ups are great

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8 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Interesting . That’s unique indeed  : )

When you say “ having sex with someone below your standard” what do you mean? I mean what is the reason for having sex with someone? You must be attracted to them right? So if you’re attracted to someone then they aren’t “below your standard” , because then your “standard” is just some idea you have and isn’t actually what you actually are attracted to. Or you mean having sex with someone simply because of being horny and not even attracted to them?

Look up the Halo Effect. Just because someone is attractive doesn’t mean they have a good personality. There are many women who are physically attractive that get my hormones up. But they can be toxic women such as a Trump supporter, conservative, insecure, and etc. Just because someone is physically attractive doesn’t mean they are at my standards for a person I could fall in love with. But of course, I am not going to fall in love with a person who I don’t find physically attractive. I’m saying don’t let physical looks be the sole measure.

The analogy for me is falling in love with a woman is like falling in love with a book. A lot of people just find the most attractive cover and buy the book. For me, I am more selective. 

The cover is what first attracts my attention. But the contents of the book is what makes me buy it. The same is with love. Think of the cover as the looks and the contents as personality. Looks get you in the door but it is the personality that sells for me.

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17 hours ago, r0ckyreed said:

Look up the Halo Effect. Just because someone is attractive doesn’t mean they have a good personality. There are many women who are physically attractive that get my hormones up. But they can be toxic women such as a Trump supporter, conservative, insecure, and etc. Just because someone is physically attractive doesn’t mean they are at my standards for a person I could fall in love with. But of course, I am not going to fall in love with a person who I don’t find physically attractive. I’m saying don’t let physical looks be the sole measure.

The analogy for me is falling in love with a woman is like falling in love with a book. A lot of people just find the most attractive cover and buy the book. For me, I am more selective. 

The cover is what first attracts my attention. But the contents of the book is what makes me buy it. The same is with love. Think of the cover as the looks and the contents as personality. Looks get you in the door but it is the personality that sells for me.

Yea I get what you’re saying. I thought more if you’re someone who also needs a good vibe and personality to get turned on then the risk of sleeping w someone who’s toxic is small since you wouldn’t even be attracted to such a person. But maybe that’s not how many men’s sexuality work they can desire to sleep w someone purely by looks. If that’s the case it makes sense what you’re saying regarding having “discipline” to not end up w the wrong person….

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