Why is society letting women get away with their blatant misandry?

[The Redeemer]

I have had women straight up tell me that they have zero empathy for me. How the hell is this even allowed???

Edited July 13, 2023 by The Redeemer

[Leo Gura]

Lol

I've talked to over 5000 women and most of them were sweet and nice.

Edited July 13, 2023 by Leo Gura

[The Redeemer]

11 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Lol

I've talked to over 5000 women and most of them were sweet and nice.

Than I must be extremely unlucky or something 

[Leo Gura]

Learn to be chill, fun, and easy-going and most women will love you.

[The Redeemer]

1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

Learn to be chill, fun, and easy-going and most women will love you.

I'm doing my best. I feel like I have a lot of trauma. It's not fair.

Edited July 13, 2023 by The Redeemer

[integral]

LMFAO woman arent empathetic when they are in a bad mood, its highly relative on how they feel in that moment. If someone sets off a dislike trigger then there gut tells them that person is better off dead, its only with some work can they step back from there emotions and see things with higher clarity. 

[Myagooshki]

16 minutes ago, The Redeemer said:

I'm doing my best. I feel like I have a lot of trauma. It's not fair.

You don't have to be those things. I'll tell you what's better. Learn to recontextualize situations and learn to always come up with things to say. I'll give you examples of recontextualization.

 

Example of poorly talking as is in a conflict situation:

*Me, preparing a salad, trying to be healthy, minding my own business*
Them: Look at that nasty ass rabbit food!
Me: What? This food isn't meant for rabbits! This food is meant for me, and I am not a rabbit.

Them: That food just looks sad.

Me: The food is incapable of experiencing emotions! Why are you making it seem like eating healthy is a bad thing to do!?

Them: What's up doc?! *makes rabbit noises*

Me: I AM NOT A RABBIT!!!

 

Example of adequately recontextualizing in a conflict situation:
*Me, preparing a salad, trying to be healthy, minding my own business*
Them: Look at that nasty ass rabbit food!
Me: Oh yeah I'm gonna eat McDonald's everyday and get a heart attack at 35!
Them: That food just looks sad.

Me: Well go get a napkin over there if you're gonna cry, and don't make a mess.

Them: What's up doc?! *makes rabbit noises*

Me: Do you know how to use a napkin? I'm not gonna show you, use Google. You do have opposable thumbs now.



Another example of successful recontextualization:
*Me, preparing a salad, trying to be healthy, minding my own business*
Them: Look at that nasty ass rabbit food!
Me: No this is human food.
Them: That food just looks sad.

Me: You're not the one eating it.

Them: What's up doc?! *makes rabbit noises*

Me: That's just childish.

Always coming up with things to say as much as possible is one thing. Watch youtube videos, look for patterns in the way that people talk, and create a system that you memorize for coming up with words in situations so you can talk and talk.

If you're able to talk and talk and recontextualize then all conversations can become intellectual instead of abusive and it'll be extremely beneficial for you. Also make sure your beliefs and worldview, things you think are right and wrong, make sure you feel confident about that stuff. And then you can just start talking to people woohoo

Edited July 13, 2023 by Myagooshki

[The Redeemer]

12 minutes ago, Myagooshki said:

You don't have to be those things. I'll tell you what's better. Learn to recontextualize situations and learn to always come up with things to say. I'll give you examples of recontextualization.

 

Example of poorly talking as is in a conflict situation:

*Me, preparing a salad, trying to be healthy, minding my own business*
Them: Look at that nasty ass rabbit food!
Me: What? This food isn't meant for rabbits! This food is meant for me, and I am not a rabbit.

Them: That food just looks sad.

Me: The food is incapable of experiencing emotions! Why are you making it seem like eating healthy is a bad thing to do!?

Them: What's up doc?! *makes rabbit noises*

Me: I AM NOT A RABBIT!!!

 

Example of adequately recontextualizing in a conflict situation:
*Me, preparing a salad, trying to be healthy, minding my own business*
Them: Look at that nasty ass rabbit food!
Me: Oh yeah I'm gonna eat McDonald's everyday and get a heart attack at 35!
Them: That food just looks sad.

Me: Well go get a napkin over there if you're gonna cry, and don't make a mess.

Them: What's up doc?! *makes rabbit noises*

Me: Do you know how to use a napkin? I'm not gonna show you, use Google. You do have opposable thumbs now.



Another example of successful recontextualization:
*Me, preparing a salad, trying to be healthy, minding my own business*
Them: Look at that nasty ass rabbit food!
Me: No this is human food.
Them: That food just looks sad.

Me: You're not the one eating it.

Them: What's up doc?! *makes rabbit noises*

Me: That's just childish.

Always coming up with things to say as much as possible is one thing. Watch youtube videos, look for patterns in the way that people talk, and create a system that you memorize for coming up with words in situations so you can talk and talk.

If you're able to talk and talk and recontextualize then all conversations can become intellectual instead of abusive and it'll be extremely beneficial for you. Also make sure your beliefs and worldview, things you think are right and wrong, make sure you feel confident about that stuff. And then you can just start talking to people woohoo

Thanks. I will try this out

[Leo Gura]

40 minutes ago, The Redeemer said:

I'm doing my best.

Good. Keep doing that and trust the process.

Quote

I feel like I have a lot of trauma. It's not fair.

Now we're talkin! That's the REAL issue here. You should have just started the thread with that.

You need to heal your trauma. That's the real solution.

Edited July 13, 2023 by Leo Gura

[The Redeemer]

31 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Good. Keep doing that and trust the process.

Now we're talkin! That's the REAL issue here. You should have just started the thread with that.

You need to heal your trauma. That's the real solution.

How?

[Leo Gura]

18 minutes ago, The Redeemer said:

How?

Fundamentally, healing trauma requires revisiting the traumatic experiences and consciously reliving them and gaining comprehension over them until they stop bothering you.

Therapy does that.

Psychedelics are super powerful for that.

Teal Swan has a lot of content about healing trauma. That's sorta her wheelhouse. You can even find workshops and such for trauma healing.

Edited July 13, 2023 by Leo Gura

[The Redeemer]

1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

Fundamentally, healing trauma requires revisiting the traumatic experiences and consciously reliving them and gaining comprehension over them until they stop bothering you.

Therapy does that.

Psychedelics are super powerful for that.

Teal Swan has a lot of content about healing trauma. That's sorta her wheelhouse.

I'm not sure what kind of trauma I have. I feel like I am split up into multiple selves and multiple personalities.

[Leo Gura]

10 minutes ago, The Redeemer said:

I'm not sure what kind of trauma I have. I feel like I am split up into multiple selves and multiple personalities.

That's called DID -- dissociative identity disorder. That's usually caused by severe early childhood trauma which requires a lot of investigative theraputic work because your mind is likely repressing the trauma. That's what therapy is all about: uncovering repressed trauma.

Check out Teal Swan's work. She has books and videos on these issues. I don't cover this topic much.

Read Teal Swan's book on trauma healing: https://amzn.to/3ruWDYa

Edited July 13, 2023 by Leo Gura

[The Redeemer]

10 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

That's called DID -- dissociative identity disorder. That's usually caused by severe early childhood trauma which requires a lot of investigative theraputic work because your mind is likely repressing the trauma. That's what therapy is all about: uncovering repressed trauma.

Check out Teal Swan's work. She has books and videos on these issues. I don't cover this topic much.

Read Teal Swan's book on trauma healing: https://amzn.to/3ruWDYa

Okay

[Sugarcoat]

3 hours ago, integral said:

LMFAO woman arent empathetic when they are in a bad mood, its highly relative on how they feel in that moment. If someone sets off a dislike trigger then there gut tells them that person is better off dead, its only with some work can they step back from there emotions and see things with higher clarity. 

Not gonna lie I feel this about some women sometimes as a woman myself. Thanks for ranting on my behalf . Feeling cleansed reading that??? 

Edited July 13, 2023 by Sugarcoat

[Sugarcoat]

1 hour ago, The Redeemer said:

I'm not sure what kind of trauma I have. I feel like I am split up into multiple selves and multiple personalities.

How does this express itself for you?

[The Redeemer]

49 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

How does this express itself for you?

It expresses itself as a consistent, rapid, back and forth switching effect.

Edited July 13, 2023 by The Redeemer

[Loving Radiance]

1 hour ago, The Redeemer said:

It expresses itself as a consistent, rapid, back and forth switching effect.

Do you have clear and consistent memory before and after the switching?

[The Redeemer]

1 hour ago, Loving Radiance said:

Do you have clear and consistent memory before and after the switching?

Nope

[Sugarcoat]

2 hours ago, The Redeemer said:

It expresses itself as a consistent, rapid, back and forth switching effect.

As in bad and good version of you or? Or more different personas