Pain of being rejected after 3 years of long distance relationship

[Amit]

4 minutes ago, Enlightement said:

it's not about screening red flags. That's a small part. 

Actually I took it from her, I definitely see people changing and transforming themselves constantly.

a female covert narcissist complains to you if you don’t invest and fully commit, their whole point is to make you feel guilty for not being able to make them happy, so when you are a good person your instinct is to make her happy, and that’s when you over invest and get trapped.

she told me that relationship is effort ?… exactly opposite to what you are saying, When you are inexperienced to them in comparison, you tend to listen to them since you are humble enough.

[meta_male]

8 hours ago, Amit said:

I was blind to not see all the red flags, but I recently found out that she matches all the descriptions of a female covert narcissist.

Ew that sucks, but I get that it's relieving to give this whole experience a matching label. Take some time to heal. Great women are out there, the reason you attracted her is because you were willing to give away your power to someone else. Validation will come once you stop looking for it. Wishing you the best!

[Amit]

@meta_male  Thanks a lot, your support heals my heart

[Raze]

On 7/4/2023 at 3:50 PM, Amit said:

@Enlightement   I was blind to not see all the red flags, but I recently found out that she matches all the descriptions of a female covert narcissist. Now I feel good about it, it’s not just that the time was wasted, more important is that I will be able to filter out such females now. 
 

thanks for your advice. ?

Are you codependent?