Sexcapades...mastering Sex

[tashawoodfall]

So...I decided I wanted to jump into the domain of mastering sex.  I joined tinder and have had 2 really good experiences so far..Basically the master plan is that each encounter I would focus on improving in a specific area in sex.  Anybody have any ideas? Has anyone else done this? 

[Evilwave Heddy]

Very interesting choice of mastery. lmao What's the end goal?

You could start by familiarizing yourself with the biology of the penis,vagina, reproduction and menstrual cycle.

Edited March 22, 2017 by Evilwave Heddy

[tashawoodfall]

ok theres also kegel exercises and balls  and the end goal is mastery well and also to improve my mindset about sex and get rid of some limiting beliefs involved.

Edited March 20, 2017 by tashawoodfall

[Salaam]

What are you looking to gain from mastery of sex? Maximization of your personal pleasure? Your partner's? Access to the upper reaches of sexual trance-states? Ability and resiliency with sexual tension? Deeper discovery of and access to your own sexual nature? A greater sensitivity and inter-connectiveness to your own unique sexual chemistry and how to synergize and build that chemistry with another? Or are you just talking about a mechanical type of mastery? Little moves and whatnot?

I've experienced a lot of progress and depth in the above, but where the above things kind of radiate and manifest from, can in a way be tied to the balancing of three things (for a man at least).

I call it "the beast, the heart, and spirit".

As a man growing and maturing into his sexuality, the beast (sexual appetite), the heart (trust, connection and intimacy), and spirit (meaning and purpose around the sex plus confidence in creating and sharing that meaning) all have to be harmonized, balanced, and synergized in order to have access to the greatest and most diverse ranges of sexual satisfaction.

A man with a weak beast comes across as lacking passion, that sexual edge, etc. But, a man with a strong beast, but a weak heart and spirit is like a dog, mindlessly humping a chew toy. Only concerned with release and likely to treat his or her partner as disposable... basically the act of sex degrades to him masturbating into another's body, treating the other person like an object. A man with a bit of beast, a bit of heart, but no spirit carries out sex in a mechanical fashion. Do this here, press here, hope for orgasm... the meaning is shallow and the satisfaction afterwards is kind of bleh.

The best sex is primal and hot as hell, with the beast roaring away inside. Tempered and restrained by the heart so he doesn't completely slide into the fog of sex and lose control and inter-connection with his partner as their beings dance. His spirit, who he is, and everything he feels during sex aligned with creating and enjoying this shared experience with the woman he has chosen. They're history and every interaction leading to this moment of fierce joining, exploding into this soul wrenching force of passionate pleasure that shakes you to the core and squeezes you dry. 

... my orgasms are so soul shatteringly intense at times, that I worry they might break me. I sometimes ration my passion and check with my body to see if it can take it, like if I've got a fever or something and my body can't handle the spiritual explosion that normally awaits. It's like I have rivers deep inside me, running through my bones that take me to all sorts of places sexually. The pleasure is so incredible and it increases more and more as I continue to develop.

This may or may not be helpful for your own sexuality, but it will help you in choosing your partners and deciding upon who you truly want to grow with. The people we share sex with become our mirrors in the act and how the dance flows will depend on how well they can reflect back what you send as they meet you in that space in the center of the fire. As a woman you will feel uninspired by a man lacking spirit, unable to trust and let go around a man lacking heart, and frustrated by a man who can't reflect back the potential of primal desire you may carry inside you. Be careful of sticking around too long with guys out of balance, because a dearth in any of those areas will have a depressive effect over time in your corresponding areas as well. But, a man who is growing in all three will also help you grow as well. I would never have this development I have if it wasn't for my wife and her being such a deep sexual mirror in all three facets.

Good luck and happy hunting
 

Edited March 21, 2017 by Salaam

[tashawoodfall]

love it! yeah I'm definitely picking only high quality men.  They seem to all be into personal development and actually know a thing or two which is nice!

 

There is a guy who is an experienced bdsm dominant...i'm thinking of going for it...

Edited March 20, 2017 by tashawoodfall

[Shin]

To master sex, wouldn't it be better to do that with a long term boyfriend/girlfriend ?

As a male, and girl perspective plz, not just one side of the coin

@tashawoodfall

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There is a guy who is an experienced bdsm dominant...i'm thinking of going for it...

If that's a thing you want to experiment, you clearly need a one night stand, it's not like a lot of guy are into this kind of stuff anyway.

Just make sure (well as much as you can) he's safe and not an asshole who will beat you and do horrible things to you.

Not sure how you can do that though.

 

Concerning mastering sex as a general rule as a woman, try to search some youtube channel for it, and there should be book for it too.

It's not from Leo that you will learn how to do that I guess (well maybe in a future video, but I wouldn't count on it, and he's not a woman so..).

 

And thanks, seeing your pretty face (dark hair and white, I think I have a fetish for this ) and talking about this kind of stuff made me realize I'm far from having resolved my sex/relationship issues concerning women.

I can feel this weird anxiety/shame emotion in me, but the paradox is that I see that as a good sign, that I have cool shit to do in order to resolve it.

I see it as an external part of me, like, this emotion is there and it isn't nice, but I don't identify to it, and know it's just a temporary feeling.

 

This is why it's important to meditate and taking spirituality seriously, don't think it's something you can ignore !

Also, don't think your problems will dissolved magically too (well, unless, maybe, if you get enlightened, but that could take years/decades ...) !

 

@tashawoodfall

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yeah that feeling i think you need to embrace and allow/fall into it and be mindful with it and maybe try to figure out what specific thought/belief is causing it...and have that breakthrough keep staying out of comfort and it'll magically disappear and feels amazing/very freeing

Yeah I know, don't worry, I'm kinda excited to feel discomfort ^^

You look like a girl that used to humiliate me when I was younger, might be one of the reason.

Oh, and the white knight syndrom, when you think women should be treated nicely, whatever the situation is, but that's  not what you want in reality when it comes to sex.

Edited March 21, 2017 by Shin

[tashawoodfall]

yeah that feeling i think you need to embrace and allow/fall into it and be mindful with it and maybe try to figure out what specific thought/belief is causing it...and have that breakthrough keep staying out of comfort and it'll magically disappear and feels amazing/very freeing

Edited March 20, 2017 by tashawoodfall

[Guest Annetta]

No advice, but you go girl!  I wish I was brave enough to do the same, work through some sexual hangups.
All the best!  

[Nahm]

@tashawoodfall Sex should be explored. It's healthy for the body and mind. It's liberation. (Responsibly, of course)

 

[SLICKHAWK]

I have been intersted in the game/pick up. I have yet to develope into this. Im not sure im into the dating game of dating sites more of first contact meeting and bringing out my true self in those first secinds to embrace contact.

The reaction of opposite sex in present being is my approach.

[Prabhaker]

8 hours ago, tashawoodfall said:

I decided I wanted to jump into the domain of mastering sex.

Read From Sex to Superconsciousness by Osho

The journey into love cannot exclude our innate biological energies. With this perspective, it becomes clear that the tendency for religions, and for society in general, to associate sex with sin and morality has been a great misfortune. 

From Sex to Superconsciousness begins by deconstructing the layers of sexual repression that the condemnation of sex has inflicted on human. Osho proposes a vision that embraces sex as a fundamental gift from nature. We learn how orgasm offers a glimpse of timelessness, thoughtlessness, and pure awareness.

Finally, we are presented with a clear choice: a repressed sexuality that leads to pornography, perversion, and a stunted humanity or a playful, respectful, and relaxed innocence that supports us in becoming fulfilled and whole, as nature intended.

http://www.oshorajneesh.com/download/osho-books/hindi-translations/From_Sex_to_Superconsciousness.pdf

[tashawoodfall]

@Prabhaker Amazing insight thank you

[SLICKHAWK]

True ive experience repression in sex in relationship. Its hard to really mustard emotion.. However if you like ill open up?

[Loreena]

10 minutes ago, SLICKHAWK said:

True ive experience repression in sex in relationship. Its hard to really mustard emotion.. However if you like ill open up?

However if you like all close up. But if try hard, the mustard breaks open. 

[SLICKHAWK]

Lol you are Awsome.

[Shin]

He actually did a video, my bad:

https://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-have-amazing-sex-for-women

[tashawoodfall]

@Shin yeah i watched that one a while back all i got from it was to take care of my body and be sweet lol

[Elton]

@tashawoodfall i want to master sex too now I suck at it...

[tashawoodfall]

@Elton  yeah go for it maybe start with pickup so you can land the sleepations lol and make sure you're emotionally ready 

[Siim Land]

I used to know a girl who spent a year learning Tantra yoga in Thailand and she was quite amazing. It was definitely a distinct experience because it's more than just pure sex - more like a sensual meditation-massage, if that makes sense. If a girl knows stuff like that, it's definitely something guys appreciate. At least I would.