Yes, dating for men is better in other countries

[meta_male]

9 hours ago, Cat_eyes said:

I’m wondering, how do you think the men in these other countries will feel about foreigners coming and taking their women?

It's fine for me. Let him give it a shot.

[WENT META]

19 hours ago, MarkKol said:

We should go to New York City or Toronto! The thrill of flying overseas is pulling at me day by day.

Come! Stop thinking about it.. It's beautiful out here in Toronto this summer. Let me know if you end up coming

[StarStruck]

All the hot girls come to the west. Why would you move to a shit hole country just for some advantageous situation in terms of dating. Life is much more than dating. These are usually guys with no game and trying to use their power position to get some. 

Edited June 28, 2023 by StarStruck

[eos_nyxia]

On 2023-06-26 at 3:54 PM, Raze said:

This is thinking ahead though. Having relationships and raising kids in western countries is way riskier. Far higher rates of cheating, divorces, and much more likely the child grows up with depression or anxiety.

Read about the stories of mixed-race children growing up in East Asia, or South East Asia. I do not know as much about other places to comment directly. We are always "othered". We will never effortlessly fit in fully no matter what, even in metropolitan centres.  Some people say that mixed-race looks are idolized because of the good number of celebs there are mixed race (aka. Eurasian). It's actually more complicated than that.

First of all, even if you're the "right" kind of mixed-race, East Asia is still pretty racist by most people's standards here, if not because these cultures are much more monolithic.

If you feel like you have no place in the place you grew up as a disenfranchised man, how do you think mixed-race East Asian children feel, being singled out for existing everywhere they go, all the time? I'm not saying that every experience is always negative, but the worst-case scenario is being bullied mercilessly in school, harassed in public, and discriminated against at the institutional level in all sorts of ways. God forbid you are black or darker-skinned and have children there. The very least you can do is to know what your future children will likely be up against, unless attitudes somehow change extremely quickly. They probably will not.

To my understanding, there is some stigma and even pushback in Asian countries where there is a significant sexpat industry. Children thought to be of these unions are looked down upon (I am thinking of Thailand in particular).  Perhaps it's not entirely dissimilar to me getting asked as a kid if my mother was a mail-order bride just because she was Asian. Please consider what this might do to a child's psyche.

"Good othering", or well-intentioned othering: it feels like you are kind of like an exotic circus animal. Or like an alien dropped you on Earth. You exist to be a public spectacle. If this is not clear, growing up with this is a VERY different experience than being some white person (since that does tend to be the favoured ethnicity, see: East-Asian continental brand racism) in East Asia, where you feel like your differences might be an asset. You are secure enough in your own formative racial identity, so there is no issue for you personally there.

I mean, I spent 2 months of every year growing up in Hong Kong, a city that was a British Colony for over 150 years. It's probably the most Westernized East Asian city I've ever been to. And I STILL got treated like I never really belonged there. And I have East Asian relatives and family friends, grew up with the culture, learned a decent amount of the language, etc. etc. etc.

At least when it comes to being well-adjusted about the race thing, arguably any multicultural metropolitan city in the West is better, but especially places like Hawaii/ the West Coast, IMO.

 

Edited June 28, 2023 by eos_nyxia

[Spiral]

@Sugarcoat  I’m a native Swedish guy, yet I’ve never seriously dated a Swedish girl

Typically date French, Austrian,  Greek or Italian girls.

Edited June 28, 2023 by Spiral

[Sugarcoat]

20 minutes ago, Spiral said:

@Sugarcoat  I’m a native Swedish guy, yet I’ve never seriously dated a Swedish girl

Typically date French, Austrian,  Greek or Italian girls.

Not to be creepy but sometimes I’ll look at these groups of Swedish girls when I’m out in town and it’s just so fascinating to me they live in a completely different world than me almost I’ve never been able to navigate their social atmosphere. Back in school I naturally befriended foreigners and maybe one or two semi socially awkward swedes ?