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[Jacob Morres]

Mastering socializing is a bit different than, sports & tech 

 

Fundamentals of social skills;

Top: calm, authentic, kind, calibrated, detached

 

Authenticity; being yourself, standing up for yourself, assertive

Warmth; being kind and loving 

Self esteem; being confident in yourself 

Presence;  Mindfulness, detachment

Calibration; matching vibe of person and scenario 

Connection; with other people, vibing

 

Edited July 9, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

7/8: socializing field report (for +1)

Bad day socializing. I had a ton of anxiety. But good thing is I got a lot of good responses 

Good thing is I was able to hold my own in many of my convos. I did put effort.

1. *Though sometimes I lose energy midway. I think the solution to that is to relax and try to connect. Need to open yourself up a bit. *

2. *another note: focus on self esteem, Calibration, reps and iteration. That will take you far* 

All 6 men you talked to today went great. The 2 woman you talked to, the convo was pretty dead. 

The group of woman was also extremely judgemental. Shitting on men the entire conversation. What a sad conversation to be in, listen to and witness. 

3. *solution is to give these rude women grace. You're not a perfect human being either. Forgive them*

4. *you need to calm down bro. You are getting wayy to anxious. Which is valid to be honest. In the future remember to breathe, relax* 

Edited July 9, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

The problem with short form quotes is that they are just segments of an entire map. It's like if you tell someone to use chalk for bench press. It's just so limited and myopic. Though, it's not valueless. It's just myopic. 

 

Applies to tiktok videos, articles, etc. 

You need mad knowledge

Edited July 13, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

Limiting beliefs are very pervasive 

We are limitless as human beings 

 

But our beliefs can hold us back. They can make us think something isn't possible, as if that is reality 

Limiting beliefs can stem from trauma

Trauma can be healed through trauma work. Such as trauma focused cbt, mindfulness, somatic work like letting go, inner child work 

[Jacob Morres]

Fav productivity insights (v2)

- blocks focused timed with rest breaks

Cal n

- utilizing previously prescribed info. collecting info for later purpose

- Breaking projects into baby sized subtasks 

Tiago

 

Others:

Morning routine 

Health fundamentals 

Prioritizing 

Mindful Discipline 

Values based productivity 

 

- bias toward action

- personality style 

- focusing on 1 - 3 goals 

-we fall to the level of our systems 

James c

- Gamify productivity 

Ali a

- timing is very important. The window to strike is a non negotiable 

Edited July 16, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

Social skills strategy

Productivity Synthesis 

Ocd strategy 

Career decisions 

 

Scott Young is the goat

 

Insights to consider on this thread

 

Edited July 16, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

Coming up with your own ideas is innovation 

But; the trap is time waste. Society has figured out so much shit 

Balance between innovation and using others ideas 

Edited July 17, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

Leo was right when he said socialization makes you stupid

Though, 

It's more about the people you associate with + the sources you consume

[Jacob Morres]

I can't even handle reading racist comments on the internet 

How do people who face severe oppression cope 

==

Strategies for coping:

Letting go

Mindfulness

Inner child work 

Affirmations + visualizations

Chatgpt

==

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Remember to be pro-human, pro-equality, human rights.

Values: empathy, humanity 

 

Remember to love and value yourself

❤️??

 

== 

Values;

Kindness, mastery, goodness

Self esteem/confidence/self-love

Growth, development

Presence/being  

Connection

Creation 

Wisdom 

Authenticity

Health/joy/energy

 

Damn ^ the embodiment of these values would lead to a perfect life for me ?

==

Recent accomplishments:

SS on 4 accounts (close to U)

Finished a decent pass on my top 10 values 

Began first synthesis of productivity 

Installed a pretty decent morning routine 

Reinvigorated confidence in social skills, and ocd

Began my second brain using tiago fortes help

Made progress on meditation habit 

Improved communication 

? keep it up ?

 

Next:

Further second brain 

Get some solid chatgpt aids+ support chats 

Synthesize socializing 

? + ? + ? + ...

Edited July 18, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

An insight when picking food to eat from the grocery store.

The marketing can be deceptive, there is a certain amount of gambling when buying food. 

The perception =/= reality 

 

Also the same when finding therapists

==

Most of everything i want seems to lie on the otherside of my limiting beliefs 

Edited July 19, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

Fav videos by Leo p1 (no order):

1. Asking questions:

A very powerful tool for gaining very powerful answers. Great for any field and hyper versatile 

2. Mindfulness w labeling: 

A very powerful tool to 

- dissolve and let go of emotions 

- gain clarity, clearness, insight and wisdom 

- get in touch with presence 

- lets go of ego improving skill in any field 

3. What it means to go meta?

A phenomenal frame to see the big picture

- great for mastery 

 

Edited July 19, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

It seems like  You can systematize improvement

Strategize -> do -> reflect on results -> make new adjustments (improving strategy) -> repeat 

9/10 insight 

 

Would like some high level insights on socializing now ?

Edited July 20, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

Some red flags in therapy field-

- Therapist sees himself as an authority and doesn't value your opinions 

- gives advice without developing good context 

- tries to help in a speciality field without expertise or understanding of that speciality 

- is lacking in EQ, empathy, listening skills, responsibility skills 

- doesn't know/understand your goals or intentions 

[Jacob Morres]

Red/green flags, non negotiable for women -

-  modern feminist but traditional toward men 

- is warm/understanding to all people

- wholesome type person 

- good communication skills 

- integrity 

Edited July 23, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

Theory -> action

 

Top methods:

Affirmations 

Mantras 

Visualizations 

WOOP/ Goal Setting 

Habits 

Habit stacking 

Ultra Learning projects 

Setting morning intentions 

Before intentions

After iterations

AM / PM Routines 

Journalling 

Edited July 23, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

The *sheer* amount of limiting beliefs I notice within people when regarding dating is crazy 

Succeeding in dating is the same as anything else

Root cause -> probably lack of systemic support

 

What are solutions:

Challenging limiting beliefs 

Affirmations + visualizations, building a good self image 

Journalling 

Self esteem work, trauma work 

Good support system 

Edited July 23, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

Inner game and outer game are very intertwined 

 

So like an output of a 1h session requires a strong inner game to even happen

So like strategy, belief systems, habits, mood, desire, motivation, intention etc.

It doesn't just "happen"

[Jacob Morres]

How do I compile these insights in an effortless fashion?

 I should make a folder in notion that separates by category or something

I don't know I need some kind of inside capture tool on notion 

Tasks today:

Search for an insight capture tool 

Oc compliation 

 Respond to Mike

Edited July 25, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

meta perspectives;

1. foundation of an endeavor is incredibly important

- efficiency purposes

- it is literally how your endeavor will play out

2. the ladder + intentions you choose are incredibly important because that's what will manifest

==

my fed up-ness with all the stages and green is forcing me into yellow

Edited July 25, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Jacob Morres]

Buckets;

Relationships

Career

Spirituality

Health