How do I deal with other people's pain.

[Raze]

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[Sugarcoat]

I tend to channel everything into pursuing my ideal self which for me is like the basis for everything in my life crazy ? Enough 

[Yimpa]

@Sugarcoat, what does your ideal self look like?

[Sugarcoat]

7 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

@Sugarcoat, what does your ideal self look like?

Like a healthier more embodied version of me

[Yimpa]

2 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Like a healthier more embodied version of me

At higher levels, that requires, no, it embodies even what you perceive as unhealthy and perceived flaws. 

[Sugarcoat]

1 minute ago, Yimpa said:

At higher levels, that requires, no, it embodies even what you perceive as unhealthy and perceived flaws. 

i get what you say conceptually and I can even vibe with it but how it reaches me isn’t really up to me but sweet anyhow 

[Yimpa]

@Sugarcoat It doesn’t have to be up to you, because you are always you. 

When you allow pain and suffering to be exposed naked and in its pure form, love also reveals itself.

[Sugarcoat]

42 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

@Sugarcoat It doesn’t have to be up to you, because you are always you. 

When you allow pain and suffering to be exposed naked and in its pure form, love also reveals itself.

I relate to that in my own experience. Feeling this expansiveness after having fully felt and “soaked up” the negativity. 

All that u write comes off as very loving of tho
 

 

[Yimpa]

@Sugarcoat You too 

[Sugarcoat]

28 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

@Sugarcoat You too 

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[Princess Arabia]

7 hours ago, Sidra khan said:

I was watching Noah Elkrief in 2013/2014 then suddenly he disappeared and I forgot. After 5 years this video appeared in my recommendation, he explains how just one painful sentence of a little girl has affected him so much that he left everything and decided to find the answer of that pain, after watching this video you may find the answer to your question. 

 

Thank you 

[Ajax]

1.    Other people’s negative emotions are simply unprocessed emotions.

2.    Your ability to receive their unprocessed emotions and make them your own, shows that you lack the ability to fully process your own emotions. Thus, your mastery of emotions is lacking.

3.    You are doing well on the path of mastering the subject of emotions, keep at it. Know that you still have plenty of work to do.

 

Imagine this scenario, Joe loses the bowling tournament. He starts crying that he got 3rd place. Are you going to start crying with him, lamenting how life is not fair? If so, why? If not, why not?

 

People Jail themselves by their thoughts. Imagine an inmate, Tom, that has killed his wife and is sad because he will never see his daughter or family again. He feels devastated by this loss. Is it easier or harder to feel his pain? You can see this scenario from different perspectives, you know Tom has caused immense pain to many people with his actions. You know his thoughts, decisions and actions put him there. You can tell he did it to himself.  This is an exaggerated example, but people imprison themselves with their own false perspectives and choices. They are reacting to being in a mentally constructed jail of their own making. Even if you could break them out by sympathy or compassion, they would find a way to put themselves right back where they were. 

Now, let’s look at the sad stories shown in the media… Look at what it is, it is a production designed to make you feel terrible, guilty. It is engineered to make you feel a certain way and guess what, you fell for the trap. You are their puppet, take a bow for your performance!

I used to have the same difficulty. What helped me is having some major realizations. First, knowing or realizing that I momentarily allowed myself to be the effect of the event that I allowed these feelings in. Then, I look for the positives of the situation until I start feeling better. Then, I noticed the areas where the person that pushed me into sadness failed to take responsibility for the lies, misunderstandings, limited beliefs or just plain BS that they are thinking. Or the actions/inactions they are refusing to acknowledge. This helped me realize they are doing it to themselves.

Emotions seem to have a negative/positive pattern. The important thing for me was to continually create positive thoughts and the “silver lining”. Even if it is completely BS. The idea here is to nullify the negative effects.  You see a video of a mangled dog on the street, look for the beauty, think wow, this could really reach someone. This could inspire people to adopt dogs, wow this could reach the right person… Wow, this could enlighten people to stop being so carefree to the plight of animals… Imagine the possibilities until the sadness starts to change. Then you realize that you have more control over the emotion.

Just beware: Don't start laughing in the middle of a conversation with a friend who is brokenhearted about a fight he had with his GF, because you are imagining that he is so lucky she didn't kick him out of the house buck naked and he is forced to scramble around, trying to find clothes and shelter. It doesn't end well... Not saying this happened. 

Edited June 23, 2023 by Ajax