Problems with texting: setting boundaires against: emojis, idiocy of speech

[charlie cho]

In real life, I don't tolerate not only idiots (of course, I bash them openly and very successfully), but I also don't tolerate unresponsive,dull behavior. Once my ex-girlfriend told me I had this demeanor, where when people see or speak with me, they act differently, or try to act intelligent in front of me. She told me this because I complained to her that I met a few people in my life, or even dated once a girl who kept talking about 'intellectual' things with me on a date, when I knew she was just mouthing off whatever she had read, without deep thought, whilst I was just trying to speak on more fun, physical 'dating' matters. So my then girlfriend told me that I always had this demeanor that says 'I don't accept idiocy' about me. 

I didn't understand what she was saying at the time, because I always thought I was a very funny person, not that 'serious', but now I understand. 

The reason I had this 'demeanor' was because I didn't accept not only idiots, I didn't accept people who were unintelligent. Basically, if a person was not striving for excellence, if a person was happy with not being competent, I just cut them off, and didn't regard them as human. (which I now feel maybe not so good?) To make myself not look too evil, I would paraphrase again, that I just didn't like people who came off to me as someone who didn't truly care to do what's beautiful, what's good, what's important, what's valuable, what's courageous, what's smart. Basically, intelligence.

But the same girlfriend once said to me, 'I don't care for good texting or calling', which I found odd. 

Anyway, I recently had this insight. We usually think texting and calling has nothing to do with physical reality, so if people are disrespectful in there, we just shun it off. This is the most dumbest thing I could possibly think of. Texting and calling is just as physical as the physical reality of the world. And if the other person, like my ex-girlfriend, thinks that texting and calling is nothing important, it means they are not intelligent. Obviously, I wouldn't tolerate disrespect on the phone, but I did used to tolerate unintelligence, or dullness, unreactiveness. 

This was my mistake. I didn't set boundaries to these things. With my country where 99% of the population, like Japan also has this problem, uses the same messaging app that disallows people from turning off read receipts (so 99% of conversations on phone in this country is read receipts, the idiocy of this country, honestly) I have to constantly deal with people speaking too fast, speaking too much on text, having useless dumbest fucking emojis on there texts. I used to tolerate unintelligence. But I'm fucking stopping with this idiocy now. 

It's easy to cut off idiots, but it's hard to cut off the bozos. Because the bozos look like they don't harm others. But the normies are often the ones who cause problems most. The fuckers who text weirdly must be banned. Anyway, this is a diary of me deciding not only to cut off idiots, but to cut off 'normal' dull people on text.

I'm going to act like I do in text, like I do in real life. Cutting off idiots is easy, but cutting off anyone who is not 'intelligent' is harder. I'm not tolerating someone who is not smart, who is a sheep, who is a drone, mf often writes like an idiot, I have to detect them from the start. 

Edited June 13, 2023 by charlie cho

[Israfil]

It seems you lack communication medium nuance. If I read a book or a dissertation with emojis, I'd partly agree with you, although even in these mediums you can find a use for them, if your linguistic prowess is good enough. 

Having a sense of humor and knowing when to relax is also a high-performing trait. I have often calmed my team through a well-placed joke or gif in challenging projects, which allowed people to stay more relaxed, increasing focus and attention to the matter at hand. Needless to say, if you're socializing, you shouldn't expect people to speak like a Victorian Age play, that's not mediocracy it is common sense.

Texting serves the purpose of quickly conveying information. Formality is not necessarily the main focus. One emoji can express more emotion than half a paragraph of text. And given that texts are written only, the additional context can reduce ambiguity and improve meaning translation.

Anyway, just food for your thought. You are completely right about leaving people that don't align with your values, though. Good luck in your future endeavors.

[charlie cho]

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It seems you lack communication medium nuance. If I read a book or a dissertation with emojis, I'd partly agree with you, although even in these mediums you can find a use for them, if your linguistic prowess is good enough. 

Having a sense of humor and knowing when to relax is also a high-performing trait. I have often calmed my team through a well-placed joke or gif in challenging projects, which allowed people to stay more relaxed, increasing focus and attention to the matter at hand. Needless to say, if you're socializing, you shouldn't expect people to speak like a Victorian Age play, that's not mediocracy it is common sense.

@Israfil lol, your linguistic 'prowess' is far beyond my reach, thanks. 

Edited June 13, 2023 by charlie cho

[Israfil]

5 minutes ago, charlie cho said:

@Israfil lol, your linguistic 'prowess' is far beyond my reach. Hahahaaha

I don't think so hahahahahaha

I just tried to write in a way that you wouldn't dismiss as you do with people that are text spammers or something like that. I'm just trying to say that messaging apps promote this kind of behavior. 

[Lila9]

 

33 minutes ago, charlie cho said:

who didn't truly care to do what's beautiful, what's good, what's important, what's valuable, what's courageous, what's smart. Basically, intelligence.

Do you always do what's beautiful, what's good, what's important, what's valuable, what's courageous, what's smart?

Do you think that this thread where you are basically talking about how smart you are in comparison to others, reflects a beautiful, good, important, valuable, courageous and smart behavior from your end?

 

 

 

[charlie cho]

@Lila9 no. Maybe you're smarter than me.

Sorry for valuing intelligence. I didnt know some people could be disgusted at people like me for seeking and valuing competence. And try quoting more accurately where i said i was smarter than people. 

Read carefully, so i can learn from you as you 'seem' to be smarter than me very much.

In reply to your quote.

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Do you always do what's beautiful, what's good, what's important, what's valuable, what's courageous, what's smart?

Do you think that this thread where you are basically talking about how smart you are in comparison to others, reflects a beautiful, good, important, valuable, courageous and smart behavior from your end?

 

Edited June 13, 2023 by charlie cho

[Lila9]

48 minutes ago, charlie cho said:

@Lila9 no. Maybe you're smarter than me.

Sorry for valuing intelligence. I didnt know some people could be disgusted at people like me for seeking and valuing competence. And try quoting more accurately where i said i was smarter than people. 

Read carefully, so i can learn from you as you 'seem' to be smarter than me very much.

I don't claim to be smart. I've done many stupid things in my life.

And there is no reason to be mad at me as I tried to mirror you your own BS.

Take it or leave it.

 

[charlie cho]

11 minutes ago, Lila9 said:

I don't claim to be smart. I've done many stupid things in my life.

And there is no reason to be mad at me as I tried to mirror you your own BS.

Take it or leave it.

 

Well, you at least done that right, congratulations. My stupid behavior was successfully mirrored by you. At least, I can give you my love, since you think I'm mad at you, I'm not. <3 <3 <3 foryou. 

Edited June 13, 2023 by charlie cho

[Lila9]

1 hour ago, charlie cho said:

Well, you at least done that right, congratulations. My stupid behavior was successfully mirrored by you. At least, I can give you my love, since you think I'm mad at you, I'm not. <3 <3 <3 foryou. 

Your love has been successfully received.

Back to you <3