Holistic Maturity Assesment Thread

[mmKay]

Hey everyone,

After the recent video contemplating Maturity, I thought it would be valuable to dive further into this topic and explore our individual levels of holistic maturity by contemplating different aspects of our lives.

I invite you to take a moment and rate your level of Maturity in each area on a scale of 1 to 10.

You may pick a few to beggin with and come back to this post later.

Try to be as honest as you can. Once you have rated each aspect, reflect on the following questions:

1. What has contributed the most to your Maturity in your highest-rated areas? Was it a particular experience, practice, a  mindset shift, extreme suffering... ? 

2. In the areas where you feel lacking  maturity, what would it take for you to develop and grow? Are there specific actions and experiences to have, habits, or beliefs you need to cultivate...?

Here are some areas :

Career

Finances/Money

Health/Wellness

Sexuallity. Intimacy.

Self Esteem. Mindset. Outlook on Life.

Relationships. Boundaries.

Family/Parenting/Social Obligations

Social Life. Friends

Fun/Recreation

Spirituality/Metaphysics/Epistemology

Politics

Emotional Well-being/ Self-Care. Coping mechanisms

Fulfillment/Happiness

Creativity

Personal Values

Comunication skills

Legacy/Impact/Contribution

Environmental Consciousness.

Empathy.

 

Also, it's a good moment to call out any inmature way you may have behaved before.

Some would be : Hit and run. Abandoning animals. Not planing your groceries. Avoiding hard conversations or postponing them as much as posible. Always going for the newest shiniest gadget. Not being a role model for youngers in your life. Not sharing pitfalls you've fallen into and actively guideing them into unhealthy directions . Allowing your self worth to be dictated by the opinions of others. Making decisions in your life opressed by what other will think of you. Casual unprotected sex. Pull out technique. Driving without your seatbelt on . Not checking your tires regurarly. Not getting checked at at the doctor because of laziness or being a cheapass. Texting while driving. Attention whoring. Not having ever lived on your own. Road rage.Lashing out on people in public...

Feel free to add more if you feel I've missed some essential ones. I'll do the exercise myseld later on today as y'all muricans wake up (EU here)

Edited June 12, 2023 by mmKay

[Spiritual Warrior]

Hey thank you for sharing, this was a really cool assessment to find out what I'm strong and weak in. It is going to take maturity on my end to develop those low scores in my life. What I've learned from your question prompts is that maturity takes work. Everything that I've scored highly, I've put the work into, everything that I've scored lowly, I have not. 

 

Career: 2

- No idea what I am doing with my career and have next to no career capital built up

Finances/ Money: 3.5

- I am in credit card debt right now, but I feel as though I have a decent mindset around money, which is why I bumped up the score a bit. 

Health & Wellness: 8

- Eat healthy for the most part, very active, still drink too much alcohol 

Sexuality / Intimacy: -1

- Super inexperienced dater, don't know how to maturely express my sexuality. Never had sex. Have sexual trauma issues

Self Esteem: 5

- I am somewhat grounded, but still doubt myself a lot and talk down on myself. 

Mindset / Outlook on life: 7

- I am starting to piece things together from all of my book reading and following actualized.org. I feel I have a good conceptual grasp on what life is about

Relationships / Boundaries: 6.5

- I have some really good and close friends. I'm close with my family too. My issue is boundary setting - I don't love myself enough to set up boundaries in some of my relationships

Family / Parenting / Social Obligations: 7

- Good relationship with most of my family. 

Social life / Friends: 9

- Have a bunch of friends, handful of super close friends

Fun / recreation: 10

- I play basketball twice a week, soccer once a week, hang out with my friends every weekend. I actually have too much fun. I think the mature thing would actually be to cut down on the fun and recreation and work on things like dating, finances, and career

Spirituality / Metaphysics / Epistemology: 2.5

- Lots of contemplation and meditation work needs to be done in order to get to where I want to be in this area

Politics: 2

- I just don't follow it. 

Emotional well- being: 5

- I have lots of emotional issues - some good coping strategies - some emotional intelligence

Fulfillment: 2

- Not good, I don't work! Theres next to no fulfillment coming from my life. 

Happiness: 5

- I'm happy half the time

Creativity: 5

- Idk, sometimes I think I'm creative sometimes I don't. Maybe I don't really know what it means to be creative

Personal Values: 7

- Pretty good morales, I think that my head is on straight

Communication skills: 8

- I'm a good communicator. I get my point across to the person if I want to. 

Lagacy/ impact / Contribution: 0

- I've done nothing with my life to contribute to anyone or anything.

Environmental Consciousness: 8

- I recycle, buy grass fed milk, and am genuinely concerned about the planet. Could always do better though

Empathy: 8

- I am an empathetic person. I care about other peoples' feelings. I always have, of course I can be selfish sometimes and lack empathy, but overall I think I do a pretty good job on this front. 

 

1. What has contributed the most to your Maturity in your highest-rated areas? Was it a particular experience, practice, a  mindset shift, extreme suffering... ? 

Of my highest rated areas, I have put in the work to get better in those aspects of life. I researched what it takes to be healthy, I work out consistently. I have a great group of friends that I have fun with, I put in the work to develop those relationships. I am empathetic and environmentally conscious, I make the emotional effort to try to feel what other people are feeling, I try to consciously think about the environment. I've put in the work at being a good communicator by talking a lot, and to try to consciously get my point across. I've put in the work to build up a good outlook on life, this took a massive amount of research. 

2. In the areas where you feel lacking  maturity, what would it take for you to develop and grow? Are there specific actions and experiences to have, habits, or beliefs you need to cultivate...?

For me to grow in the areas that I have ranked lowly, I would need to first take full ownership and responsibility for these areas in my life. No one is going to fix them for me. It is now more clear what I need to work on and its going to be difficult, but what else am I going to do with my life? 

There are two main things that I think would really kick start my life and help me deal with my weaknesses: 1. Stop watching porn, 2. Get a job and starting building career capital.