Posted March 19, 2017 @Bodhi123 I got that. So you're saying external factors would be able to enhance if I allow them to, but I could also just as easily do that on my own, right? Such that I would never need an external thing to feel my best? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 19, 2017 @username I'm saying that external factors can never permanently knock you below your baseline level of happiness if you don't let them. However, pleasant externalities will probably always give you a boost that will eventually fade. That is just being human. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 19, 2017 1 minute ago, Bodhi123 said: @username I'm saying that external factors can never permanently knock you below your baseline level of happiness if you don't let them. However, pleasant externalities will probably always give you a boost that will eventually fade. That is just being human. I see. Do you think there's a hard limit on that baseline, or do you think I could pretty much keep raising it for the rest of my life? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 19, 2017 @username I think there is a genetic component to happiness. But if we consistently direct our mind and actions towards positivity then happiness will become our natural state. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 19, 2017 5 hours ago, username said: There was one girl I never managed to get over, and to this day, I haven't managed to recreate the happiness I felt around her. I have failed at replacing her, and I need help? Should I just keep doing consciousness work and be patient with the quality of my life? I'm afraid I'll never be that happy again. I happier on average now then back then, but nothing has matched the ecstasy of being around her. Edit: To clarify, I don't want her anymore, or even someone to replace her. I just want to feel that good without needing something external, and I haven't even come close to replicating that feeling. Seek professional help, I have entered the same practice of trying to fix things on my own and things have tumbled down further, dont lose more years in your life - go seek a professional therapist now. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 19, 2017 @avk123 Do you have any experience with a professional therapist? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
