How to get sexual and emotional needs met while single

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, Princess Arabia said:

Quite interesting. A bit extreme, most women probably wouldn't go about it the way she does but kiegel exercises can help. Just goes to show we have to watch what we think is impossible because our minds and experiences are limited. Bigger breasts... that's easy, even nature provides solutions to that. Bigger penises too and all sorts of body parts can be changed. Even the non-physical like mindsets are changeable. This Universe is infinite and forever changing. We're the ones that always want to remain the same. There's a solution for everything except stopping change itself. When we open our minds the answers will come. 

No, not in adulthood unless you consume MONSTROUS amounts of exogenous hormones.

[StarStruck]

55 minutes ago, integral said:

LmAoo well she doesn't have to be hot and btw you would not find your own sister hot and I think that's a important development of some kind. She could have a perfect figure and it would not look attractive to you.

I just see a lot of theory about what is attractive, it sounds right but its missing the component where your there actual friend, where your not coming from pure neediness to sleep with her with an agenda, where she is your sister, that your mature enough to understand she is a person and your not viewing her as "the hot 10". Got to talk to them like normal people! I don't know how to explain it other then i know what it was like when I was 20 and what I was experiencing when interacting with women was 100% that i wanted sex from them and created fantasies about romance with them and everything that left my mouth was not genuine.

 

I have great relationships with older women. I'm childish and I'm with admitting that because that is what I'm at this moment. I think I trigger their mother instinct or perhaps I don't and they just like me; I'm not sure about that.

Also women in their late 30'ies and 40'ies are drawn to me but I'm not drawn to them. Especially in the summer, these women are throwing themselves at me. But I don't like women older than myself.

Probably you are right about me and younger women, they can smell the thirst or I don't know what they smell but they just don't dig my vibe. I have had a lot of traumas also so there are times that I don't have a light vibe but a more heavy vibe. Young girls just want to have fun and I'm not always fun. This is not easily fixed but I'm doing a lot of release work exercises by Joe Dispenza and David Hawkins.

 

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The right frame is that your there understanding father or brother whos there genuine friend but can also sleep with them. lol Im not saying you want to make her feel like your her brother, thats wrong, im saying YOUR frame is that your her brother. Be mature! 

You definitely watched too much porn. Lmao.

Edited June 13, 2023 by StarStruck

[Schizophonia]

6 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

I have great relationships with older women. I'm childish and I'm with admitting that because that is what I'm at this moment. I think I trigger their mother instinct or perhaps I don't and they just like me; I'm not sure about that.

Also women in their late 30'ies and 40'ies are drawn to me but I'm not drawn to them. Especially in the summer, these women are throwing themselves at me. But I don't like women older than myself.

Probably you are right about me and younger women, they can smell the thirst or I don't know what they smell but they just don't dig my vibe. I have had a lot of traumas also so there are times that I don't have a light vibe but a more heavy vibe. Young girls just want to have fun and I'm not always fun. This is not easily fixed but I'm doing a lot of release work exercises by Joe Dispenza and David Hawkins.

 

You definitely watched too much porn. Lmao.

Give them to me 

[StarStruck]

9 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Give them to me 

Err, you don't want them.

[Chives99]

@Schizophonia If you dont have self-love no woman will want you because you are approaching the relationship from a sense of lack ( i need to get something from her in order to be complete, to be 'good enough') , people that lack self-love are people pleasers and seek approval because they dont realise their own intrinsic self- worth . When you have self-love you are approaching the relationship from an abundance mindset that says im ' good enough' I have value, i have a lot to give, so much love and charisma and personality and humour and quirkiness or whatever your qualities are. With relationships you go to GIVE a person that loves themselves has nothing but to give, because they feel complete inside.

[Schizophonia]

15 minutes ago, Chives99 said:

@Schizophonia If you dont have self-love no woman will want you because you are approaching the relationship from a sense of lack ( i need to get something from her in order to be complete, to be 'good enough') , people that lack self-love are people pleasers and seek approval because they dont realise their own intrinsic self- worth . When you have self-love you are approaching the relationship from an abundance mindset that says im ' good enough' I have value, i have a lot to give, so much love and charisma and personality and humour and quirkiness or whatever your qualities are. With relationships you go to GIVE a person that loves themselves has nothing but to give, because they feel complete inside.

I'm literally the opposite of needy lol + when I say I don't have self love, I mean it's just weird and unnecessary. It is like insisting on the need to fill a glass that does not exist. I don't objectivize myself like that and all my attention (and love?) is directed outwards.

I don't know, there is probably confusion about the use of the self love notice.

Edited June 13, 2023 by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

22 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

Err, you don't want them.

Of course you do I like mature ones.

Edited June 13, 2023 by Schizophonia

[Princess Arabia]

6 hours ago, Karmadhi said:

Doing 400 approaches to get 1 girl is suffering.

That does not make girls give me choosing signals, the video is over exaggeration obviously but I very rarely have girls be interested right off the bat when I talk to them. They are usually indifferent at first. Having to "win them over" with my "personality" makes me feel unattractive. Especially when I see lame af guys have girls interested in them just because of how they look. I am not saying crazy attention like you are a celebrity but more lowkey attention sometimes like "Oh who is your friend :p" type of thing.

 

In a masochistic way yes.

 

"Having to win them over with my personality makes me feel unattractive" has nothing to do with them. You already feel unattractive. You are waiting for validation on the outside. You want women to be vain and should want you first for your looks. The reason why "bad boys" like A.T gets women so easily isn't because he won anybody over or his looks. It's because INSIDE he already feels worthy, he feels he's the shit and he is God's gift to women, he is confident. That's the "bad boy" dynamic. The type of women he attracts is another story and if his confidence and whether he's really God's gift to women is irrelevant. All he needs is the FEELING. "The Feeling Is The Secret" as the quote says. I see lots of unattractive women getting all guys of guys. Why is that? They are confident in that area. They feel they're the shit. Ever see a fat woman showing off her stomach and her ass and walking in confidence? She doesn't care she knows she looks good and that will shine through and you won't see the "fatness" first , you'll see confidence written all over. Look around you in the real world, do you see physically attractive people (by societal norms) walking all over the place getting hitched. Are we plagued by so many attractive people that unattractive people stand out. No, attractive people stand out because most people look "normal". Yet, most people are having sex, having kids, getting married, going on dates..etc..you get my point. I could go on and on with this to show you how it's your mind that's creating this. Your beliefs. Build on your confidence, your worth and your view about women. Start to see yourself as God's gift to them and how you're so handsome you can get any girl you want. Keep saying it and the mind will start to believe it to a point where it will reflect that in your reality because your actions will also change and the Universe doesn't hear what you say it responds to how you feel. You are creating your world with your thoughts and belief systems, so you are creating those rejections. You might deny this, of course, but it's true. I had to come to this realization myself, and with some introspection, I recognized how I was doing it. Different aspects of my life, that is. Try to understand this because it is crucial if you want to start attracting the opposite sex. Looks without inner confidence is nothing but inner confidence without looks can take you a long way. And looks is also relative. 

[Chives99]

@Schizophonia when you love yourself you recognise your own uniqueness and qualities and how you can use that to make other people happy (giving) , I personally love making people laugh and make people feel good about themselves, their happiness is my happiness , it makes me feel part of something much bigger , you dont get self conscious when you're not focusing on yourself so much, loving other people and loving yourself are identical  as alan watts says self is other

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

No, not in adulthood unless you consume MONSTROUS amounts of exogenous hormones.

Bigger breasts...breast implants. Bigger penises, go on pornhub and check out the ads.

[something_else]

Just now, Princess Arabia said:

Bigger breasts...breast implants. Bigger penises, go on pornhub and check out the ads.

Lol, those ads are not real, they're designed to trick men 

[Schizophonia]

16 minutes ago, Chives99 said:

@Schizophonia when you love yourself you recognise your own uniqueness and qualities and how you can use that to make other people happy (giving) , I personally love making people laugh and make people feel good about themselves, their happiness is my happiness , it makes me feel part of something much bigger , you dont get self conscious when you're not focusing on yourself so much, loving other people and loving yourself are identical  as alan watts says self is other

I have, in general, no real consideration whatsoever for others, maybe with the exception of certain very specific energies here and there. Otherwise I could very well live alone in the woods all my life and live off theft and cannibalism.

 In fact that would be fantastic.

Edited June 13, 2023 by Schizophonia

[Princess Arabia]

21 minutes ago, something_else said:

Lol, those ads are not real, they're designed to trick men 

Get an erection....that'll do it.  The notion of "bigger penis, better sex", is also a trick. I'm sure there are ways for penis enlargement, don't know what, tho, never had this problem. 

[somegirl]

29 minutes ago, Chives99 said:

when you love yourself you recognise your own uniqueness and qualities and how you can use that to make other people happy (giving) , I personally love making people laugh and make people feel good about themselves, their happiness is my happiness , it makes me feel part of something much bigger , you dont get self conscious when you're not focusing on yourself so much, loving other people and loving yourself are identical  as alan watts says self is other

This is so beautiful ?

 You're on the right path

[somegirl]

Sending love to all of you guys ?

 

 

 

(I'm in a very good mood right now, felt strong urge to type this lol)

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, somegirl said:

This is so beautiful ?

 You're on the right path

I love it too. We all instinctively know the right path to take to get back to Source, because that's all we're doing here in life, even tho WE ARE SOURCE, but the egoic self takes the wheel and steers us towards the potholes.

[Princess Arabia]

2 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Sending love to all of you guys ?

 

 

 

(I'm in a very good mood right now, felt strong urge to type this lol)

Girl, what did you done start here. This post made it on the "Hot" list. 

[somegirl]

1 minute ago, Princess Arabia said:

Girl, what did you done start here. This post made it on the "Hot" list. 

I don't know what have I donee lol 

[Schizophonia]

6 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

I love it too. We all instinctively know the right path to take to get back to Source, because that's all we're doing here in life, even tho WE ARE SOURCE, but the egoic self takes the wheel and steers us towards the potholes.

 

[StarStruck]

15 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Sending love to all of you guys ?

 

 

 

(I'm in a very good mood right now, felt strong urge to type this lol)

This is sexual transmutation: transmuting lust into love