How to get sexual and emotional needs met while single

[somegirl]

16 minutes ago, Chives99 said:

I'd recommend getting out and being social multiple times a week, are there social invents like meetups or city socialisers nearby to you, great places for meeting guys, or you could participate in a hobby or interest group or some class, great way to meet people. You could go out drinking with your girlfriends and meet guys that way. Personally I'm attracted to women that are very sweet and smiley and give very affectionate looks when they're attracted to me, when i get that eye contact from a girl that gives me the confidence to go up and strike a conversation with her, I don't know your personality type but definately having open body language and being positive will encourage guys to talk to you in social settings. If a womans body language is closed that just makes me think shes not interested in talking to anyone. You could go to shows or music venues and meet guys that have similar tastes to you, ask for their number go for a drink 1 on 1 see if you hit it off. If you are feeling really bold you could go up and talk to a guy yourself that will work really well.

So far I didn't meet anyone special when I went out. Cause I go out in places where people usually drink lol. 

But I might join some social clubs, I will see. 

Thanks ?

[Chives99]

@somegirl you can mix things up  both drinking and social groups, it does take quite a bit of searching which is why i moved to the city, wasnt going to meet anyone being a farm boy. Be open to it as my parents said when you meet the right person it will just happen like magic, although working on yourself certainly helps a lot

Edited June 12, 2023 by Chives99

[Karmadhi]

7 minutes ago, somegirl said:

So far I didn't meet anyone special when I went out. Cause I go out in places where people usually drink lol. 

But I might join some social clubs, I will see. 

Thanks ?

Do guys approach you during day? I feel like they tend to be higher quality than guys that approach during evening (they usually just wanna fuck).

 

[Rishabh R]

@somegirl you will find a good guy and just believe that you are capable of it.

[somegirl]

46 minutes ago, Karmadhi said:

Do guys approach you during day?

Nope.

 

[integral]

1 hour ago, Javfly33 said:

@somegirl This is pathetic, honestly. 

If you have a bf or a f buddy, then sure have sex and enjoy it.

But if not, have some respect for yourself and don't say you 'need' sex. For god´s sake's, are you conscious you are talking about a survival process?

There are people that go a lifetime withouth sex, and they don't 'need it'.

Sex its something you can do, but you don't need it. 

There is no such a thing as 'sexual need'. You are talking about a compulsion. You are glamorising a compulsion. 

You can do better than this. Duh. 

This is the same logic religious people use for sexual suppression, 

Edited June 12, 2023 by integral

[integral]

Getting a high quality man as a woman is not as simple as waiting for them to ask you out. Go to places where people at a higher stage of development hang out and chat them up. Its very unlikely that if your on this forum that your compatible with anyone lower then stage green. So 90% of the population is now unavailable. That also means most men in there 20s are no longer on the table. 

Edited June 12, 2023 by integral

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Javfly33 said:

@somegirl This is pathetic, honestly. 

If you have a bf or a f buddy, then sure have sex and enjoy it.

But if not, have some respect for yourself and don't say you 'need' sex. For god´s sake's, are you conscious you are talking about a survival process?

There are people that go a lifetime withouth sex, and they don't 'need it'.

Sex its something you can do, but you don't need it. 

There is no such a thing as 'sexual need'. You are talking about a compulsion. You are glamorising a compulsion. 

You can do better than this. Duh. 

 

Just because someone thinks they need sex, doesn't mean they are disrespecting themselves. What is pathetic here is you putting down this woman because she enjoys doing something that can be perfectly healthy and saying she's glamorizing it because she enjoys it with the right partner. Your tone was very harsh and throughout this whole thread she has been nothing but responsive and respectful in all her responses even to you. We don't need food or water to survive either, it's called breatharianism, but we eat anyway. You don't need clothes to survive but you wear them anyway. The only thing we really need is air. Doesn't matter what we think we need or don't need, calling a situation pathetic because of your opinions and comparing their likes to others that may or may not see it necessary for their survival is out of line. You sound like a domineering psychopath, telling her she can do better and giving her permission how you see fit for when she can or cannot have sex. And ending your remark with a "duh" is so condescending. Maybe you can do better than this.

[somegirl]

@Princess Arabia Hahahah it's okay guys, I don't take things personally or seriously.

Though I do demand respectful tone when having a conversation, but oh well, if not, ignoring is very easy solution ?

[somegirl]

58 minutes ago, integral said:

Getting a high quality man as a woman is not as simple as waiting for them to ask you out.

But I can't be in my devine feminine energy and at the same time chase them ? I think they have to want to chase and work for the "prize". 

1 hour ago, integral said:

Go to places where people at a higher stage of development hang out and chat them up. Its very unlikely that if your on this forum that your compatible with anyone lower then stage green.

I need to make compromises then I think. ?

1 hour ago, integral said:

So 90% of the population is now unavailable. That also means most men in there 20s are no longer on the table. 

Well, I don't know. From experience, older guys are not necessarily more developed. 

[Princess Arabia]

2 minutes ago, somegirl said:

@Princess Arabia Hahahah it's okay guys, I don't take things personally or seriously.

Though I do demand respectful tone when having a conversation, but oh well, if not, ignoring is very easy solution ?

You're right! Tho he came off so harsh and sometimes people aren't aware of they come across. Myself included. I always welcome constructive criticism because I might not be aware of how my opinion my have caused someone internal harm and sometimes take the opportunity to introspect and maybe learn something about myself I wasn't aware of. Sometimes I think other people can benefit from thus viewpoint, but, then again, who am I kidding. Stay sweet. 

[meta_male]

WTF did I just read.

[Chives99]

16 minutes ago, somegirl said:

But I can't be in my devine feminine energy and at the same time chase them ? I think they have to want to chase and work for the "prize". 

I need to make compromises then I think. ?

Well, I don't know. From experience, older guys are not necessarily more developed. 

I've come across plenty of andrew tate type guys in their 30's or guys with very conservative values " women must be submissive to men , its the natural order of things" yadda yaddda yadda . I've seen them on their phones copy and pasting scripts , seeing multiple women at once, mind you manipulating all these women into sleeping with them will never create a deep connection so i feel sorry thats how shallow their lives are, I would screen for them types if hes not interested in connecting with you.

[integral]

25 minutes ago, somegirl said:

But I can't be in my devine feminine energy and at the same time chase them ? I think they have to want to chase and work for the "prize". 

I need to make compromises then I think. ?

Well, I don't know. From experience, older guys are not necessarily more developed. 

Im saying go to where they are, chat and make friends, enter new friend groups, get invited to events with more conscious people, they will pursue you, no need to chase. 

Edited June 12, 2023 by integral

[somegirl]

5 minutes ago, Chives99 said:

I've come across plenty of andrew tate type guys in their 30's or guys with very conservative values " women must be submissive to men , its the natural order of things" yadda yaddda yadda . I've seen them on their phones copy and pasting scripts , seeing multiple women at once, mind you manipulating all these women into sleeping with them will never create a deep connection so i feel sorry thats how shallow their lives are, I would screen for them types if hes not interested in connecting with you.

Oh I won't speak to guys who reveal to me that they follow Andrew Tate. It's an instant "Goodbye" for me ?

[Chives99]

When a woman i know is all giddy and smiley and happy around me and acting very sweet, thats the perfect indicated for me to ask her out. As an autistic guy im taking a leap of faith and dropping my logical rules that ive clung to like a baby for so long and instead going for indicaters which are vibes and feelings or cues. I'm trying to blend the positives of the neurotypical and neuro diverse thinking.

[Chives99]

3 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Oh I won't speak to guys who reveal to me that they follow Andrew Tate. It's an instant "Goodbye" for me ?

I'm not saying they follow them but they give off that persona, you can spot them when they act like they're better than you and give no respect, a guy should be kind.

[Karmadhi]

5 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Oh I won't speak to guys who reveal to me that they follow Andrew Tate. It's an instant "Goodbye" for me

@somegirl We wouldnt work out then  

[somegirl]

3 minutes ago, Karmadhi said:

@somegirl We wouldnt work out then  

[Karmadhi]

@somegirl Why do you dislike him so much though? Why so much hate towards him?

I would say 70% of what he says is facts and 30% toxic bullshit.

Piers Morgan who interviewed him twice said something similar.

Edited June 12, 2023 by Karmadhi