How to get sexual and emotional needs met while single

[Psychic]

Have you looked into transmuting your sexual energy?

It can be a very holistic practice.

[GLORY]

16 hours ago, somegirl said:

Not into one night stands or having f buddies. 

Why not? Can you explain?

4 hours ago, somegirl said:

I can't have sex with just anyone,
it needs to be with someone who would care and respect me too

Why?

[somegirl]

59 minutes ago, Psychic said:

Have you looked into transmuting your sexual energy?

It can be a very holistic practice.

No but I am interested in that

[somegirl]

24 minutes ago, GLORY said:

Why not? Can you explain?

Not into it. I figured I don't want just raw sex with no emotions. I want someone I like to take care of me after that as well. 

25 minutes ago, GLORY said:

Why?

Cause I don't wanna feel like an object. 

[somegirl]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Lol, if there was a way, everyone would just be single and there would be no more babies.

*sigh* I guess there is no other way around it. I can't get these needs met on my own somehow. 

[somegirl]

1 hour ago, mr_engineer said:

The answer to this question is that you find a way to stand out. And, in today's social-media age, the way you do that is that you find your authentic feminine expression, you figure out your ideal 'masculine archetype' that you want to be in relationship with and you figure out a way to make your masculine/feminine dynamic work. You don't have to do this in the context of dating, you can experiment with this in other contexts as well. 

Then, you figure out your criteria for compatibility, you figure out the men you're going for. Based on this, you figure out a dating-strategy, i.e. how you're going to go about creating this relationship. Then, you apply it to reality, look at the pitfalls you fall into and based on practical reality, define the 'red-flags' that you want to avoid. This is how you vet men. 

Awesome advice. Spot on. Thanks.

[GLORY]

6 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Not into it. I figured I don't want just raw sex with no emotions.

lower your expectations 
you know how hard it is for some men to even get sex?
and they still not crying like you
also, i think you deserve your situation, because you reported a nice guy who wanted talking to you  

Edited June 10, 2023 by GLORY

[somegirl]

1 minute ago, GLORY said:

also, i think you deserve your situation, because you reported a nice guy who wanted talking to you  

Hahahah still salty about it? 

You could've just say hi normally, not have some weird starter line lol. I would have been more than happy and kind to talk to you if you show me respect

Weird ass starter lines don't work for a normal girl like me lol. 

[GLORY]

1 minute ago, somegirl said:

Hahahah still salty about it? 

You could've just say hi normally, not have some weird starter line lol. I would have been more than happy and kind to talk to you if you show me respect

Weird ass starter lines don't work for a normal girl like me lol. 

justice is sweet 
let suffering be your teacher

[somegirl]

Just now, GLORY said:

justice is sweet 
let suffering be your teacher

Yes, I suffer! Oh no, I don't know what to do with all this suffering, help

[StarStruck]

With sexual transmutation you can literally transmute the sexual impulse into self love. You can hit two birds with one stone. But this practice is very difficult. In the mean time you will need to find yourself some brothers who can hook you up. 

[integral]

For all the men, women do not enjoy porn as much as men because they experience sex as highly emotional. Men tend to be really detached during sex at least at a stage 3 level of sexual development, while women get a large connection and emotional experience that they cannot get from porn. 

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, somegirl said:

Do you think I don't want this? ?

The usual situation is thay men don't want to commit. I do. 

Men don't want to commit because of the " why buy the milk when you can get it for free attitude". When I say that, It don't necessarily mean literally $$. That can also be investing, time, energy and/or resources. A lot of women are giving themselves freely to men without them earning it (which, BTW, men subconsciously or consciously prefer in a woman, but they don't tell you that). They will respect and prefer to be in a long-term relationship with someone they have invested in. That is their main reason to want to commit. The pick-up community is mostly for guys who just want to get laid, which may or may not turn into a monogamous relationship that lasts for awhile or even marriage but that is rare. @mr_engineer is giving you great advice, but please ignore @Chives99because he seems to think you're a dude whom the advice he's giving would be more suitable for. You said being a man doesn't depend on whether you are exclusive or not because they have a need to protect and will protect because thats how they are. Yes, but with the right girl. Being a gentleman and being protective are two different things to a man and also, to him, being protective also means providing, and he won't do that just for any girl. A gentleman, yes but not an overall protector/provider if he's not exclusive unless he's just paying for something out front with no strings attached. If you need a lending ear and would like to talk it out with another female who won't take you personally and judge you, you can always dm me and I'd be more than happy to listen and ( not so much give advice) but just to talk with because sometimes that can help in situations like this where just a listening ear eases the emotional pain. 

[somegirl]

3 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

With sexual transmutation you can literally transmute the sexual impulse into self love. You can hit two birds with one stone. But this practice is very difficult.

Do you have some links/books I can look for about this topic?

[Princess Arabia]

8 hours ago, Chives99 said:

massage parlours and escorts are great if u want to get your rocks off, but it wont provide an emotional connection although you can chit chat with them to build social skills and have nice conversation.

Do you realize this is a female here. Considering her situation, what is she going to do in a massage parlor or with an escort. Not saying women never go to these services, but it's very rare and these services cater to mostly men and are dominated by female workers. Most men in this industry cater to other men or older women (gigolos). She didn't even know what the heck you were talking about. 

[Chives99]

I get that women need a connection for sex, but if you're very sexual engaging a service could work and massages arent sex they just give touch which the person may crave.

[somegirl]

2 minutes ago, Chives99 said:

I get that women need a connection for sex, but if you're very sexual engaging a service could work

As a girl, I could get sex without paying ???

[Chives99]

1 minute ago, somegirl said:

As a girl, I could get sex without paying ???

suppose that doesnt really help you though, men have much higher sex drives

[somegirl]

1 minute ago, Chives99 said:

suppose that doesnt really help you though, men have much higher sex drives

So do I, with the right person ?

[integral]

5 minutes ago, Chives99 said:

suppose that doesnt really help you though, men have much higher sex drives

I think thats a myth.