How to deal with people who see fault in everybody but herself?

[TheCloud]

11 hours ago, somegirl said:

Yeah, I get it. 

You know what's interesting though? It seems like I have developed over time since we used to get along before (probably because we were on a same level of development). This just means one of us developed more and can't relate with the other one anymore. 

In life, you will inevitably take losses from "bad actors", people who relate to you in bad faith.  I'm not enlightened, but I know this isn't something enlightenment can spare you from.  At best, you'll be spared from ignorantly getting involved with a bad actor, but eventually a situation will force you into contact.

 

So how determined are you on the path of spiritual development?  Would you rather seek harmony with all the universe including your former friend, or would you rather win this one time against this bad actor who doesn't have a clue what she's doing to herself?  The only way you have to beat her is to join her at her level.  You don't want to do that.  You might take a loss on your group project, or you might make a gain.  Something that really matters, though, is keeping your composure.

 

I'm not suggesting to give up.  Do the project as well as you can while being stymied and potentially sabotaged.  What if you end up taking a loss?  You're in harmony with all that exists, you don't need to care.

[somegirl]

6 hours ago, TheCloud said:

Would you rather seek harmony with all the universe including your former friend

I wanna stay true to myself and not get myself involved with people who do not appreciate what I have done for them and only remember the human mistakes I did, as if they are perfect and never do them. And people who see evil even in people with neutral/good intentions. People who behave they are always right without critically reflecting on themselves are not the kind of people I want to be associated with and they do not bring me inner peace. 

6 hours ago, TheCloud said:

I'm not suggesting to give up.  Do the project as well as you can while being stymied and potentially sabotaged.  What if you end up taking a loss?  You're in harmony with all that exists, you don't need to care.

I don't care whatever happens anymore. 

If I put myself first and then something "bad" happens, that's the best thing that could've happened. 

 

Edited June 11, 2023 by somegirl

[TheCloud]

2 hours ago, somegirl said:

I wanna stay true to myself and not get myself involved with people who do not appreciate what I have done for them and only remember the human mistakes I did, as if they are perfect and never do them. And people who see evil even in people with neutral/good intentions. People who behave they are always right without critically reflecting on themselves are not the kind of people I want to be associated with and they do not bring me inner peace. 

I don't care whatever happens anymore. 

If I put myself first and then something "bad" happens, that's the best thing that could've happened. 

 

With this, I'm not sure it's necessary to advise you any further, but if I had to say one thing, it would be to focus on finding new friends, a new group, and/or a new goal to focus on.  Find something good and positive for the new true you, so your focus on your old baggage has a chance to fade out.