Is Waiting for a Specific Woman Foolish?

[Oso]

I'm conflicted with two things.

 

1. There is a woman who I would like to be with as my partner one day. We have been together before but decided to split due the fact that both of us were not ready for a relationship with each other. This leads into the second thing.

 

2. I have many desires related to women in which I want to experience. I want to practice pickup, experience relations with varied women, have sex, and overall go through those experiences to both quench desires and become masterful with the feminine. 

 

Of course, the thought roaming in my head is to simply do none of that and wait for the woman who I feel I'll be with one day.

 

If I followed that thought, would it be a recipe for regret down the road?

[integral]

Think of it as preparation for her. Every relationship is a learning experience and you need them to grow up before you get to her.

Your underestimating the struggle and learning curve of relationships, there is alot you need to learn, so go experience it.

Edited June 5, 2023 by integral

[Oso]

@integral Thank you. That is exactly what I needed to hear.

[Rishabh R]

You could either focus on quality of relationships rather than quantity of relationships like most people do . However, as @integral said each relationship is a learning experience there is a lot to learn from even from simple day to day relationship like ( non romantic) most of the relationships in life end however there would be some relationships that would last throughout your life .

[meta_male]

15 hours ago, Oso said:

Of course, the thought roaming in my head is to simply do none of that and wait for the woman who I feel I'll be with one day.

This would be insane. Missing out on life for one person who isn't even guaranteed to wait for you.

[Buck Edwards]

My advice is to take women a bit less seriously. 

You're trekking a dangerous road, something that I do myself. 

Putting so much into the opposite sex is playing with fire.