Juan

How do you confirm you are actually Straight, Gay or Bisexual?

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Hey, I'm in Brazil right now and i met this hot girl and we ended up having sex, the first time we met and it was pretty exciting, so my dick got hard. But the other times we met it didn't get hard again. The problem is, that i really like her and i would like to have a relationship with her, but i just can't fuck her. Because my dick doesn't get hard. Which makes me sad, that i can not have a normal relationship.

On the other hand, I'm really into Trans and i like dicks (more than pussy) and the Sex with them usually excites me much more. But they are usually not the highest conscious individuals and i never really connect to them on an emotional level.

What's wrong with me? Did i just fry my brain, with watching way too much porn when i was younger (I'm 36)? Or am I just not that into girls? But why can I connect to them on a deep level, even though I can't really have a relationship with good sex with them? What kind of wicked game is god playing here?

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32 minutes ago, MrMog said:

Hey, I'm in Brazil right now and i met this hot girl and we ended up having sex, the first time we met and it was pretty exciting, so my dick got hard. But the other times we met it didn't get hard again. The problem is, that i really like her and i would like to have a relationship with her, but i just can't fuck her. Because my dick doesn't get hard. Which makes me sad, that i can not have a normal relationship.

On the other hand, I'm really into Trans and i like dicks (more than pussy) and the Sex with them usually excites me much more. But they are usually not the highest conscious individuals and i never really connect to them on an emotional level.

What's wrong with me? Did i just fry my brain, with watching way too much porn when i was younger (I'm 36)? Or am I just not that into girls? But why can I connect to them on a deep level, even though I can't really have a relationship with good sex with them? What kind of wicked game is god playing here?

You are desensitized.
Go nofap + no porn for at least two weeks


Nothing will prevent Wily.

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Why are we limiting ourselves with labels. These are just labels. Just be.


 

 

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3 hours ago, nhoktinvt said:

if you're a guy and you're masculine then you're straight
if you're a girl and you're masculine then..you're a guy

You can be masculine and still be gay or bisexual. If you’re a girl and you’re masculine you still a girl (physiologically speaking).

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11 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Why are we limiting ourselves with labels. These are just labels. Just be.

Is not a limitation but rather a organization, unless you wanna call yourself gender fluid which for me it still be bisexual. 

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Sexuality isn't something I'd rationalize that much.  You like whoever you like.

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2 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

You are desensitized.
Go nofap + no porn for at least two weeks

2 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

You are desensitized.
Go nofap + no porn for at least two weeks

That's tough here in Rio. There are half naked girls and sex waiting around every corner, pretty much :)

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7 hours ago, MrMog said:

What's wrong with me? Did i just fry my brain, with watching way too much porn when i was younger (I'm 36)? Or am I just not that into girls? But why can I connect to them on a deep level, even though I can't really have a relationship with good sex with them? What kind of wicked game is god playing here?

There is nothing wrong with you, maybe you haven’t found a good match. The trans that I know here in Puerto Rico, they are attractive af and I can see they work a lot on themselves and they seems to be very independent people, they accept themselves SO MUCH that that’s another reason why they are so attractive to me. I also watched A LOT of porn while young and I would consider myself functional still, I tone it down A LOT cuz of age and I prefer the real deal experience. I can get hard with both sex easily, if I don’t get hard on someone it is because I don’t vibe with the person really and we are just forcing the experience. 

Do you consider yourself very spiritual and balanced? Cuz I’m a believer that we attract what we are. Usually my best partners are involved in the same stuff I like, like art, creation, exploring, etc. 

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Sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and say god damn, If I could somehow clone myself, I would definitely fuck myself xD

I knew recently that I am bisexual, by eliminate any bias or resistance to the truth in the same way I do philosophy, and It was clear to me that I am bisexual.

I have two states. When I am straight, I am disgusted by dicks. When I am gay, I am disgusted by tits and pussy, and I say how on earth I was turned on by these two saggy things and this wet  monster like thing down there.

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"Say to the sheep in your secrecy when you intend to slaughter it, Today you are slaughtered and tomorrow I am.
Both of us will be consumed.

My blood and your blood, my suffering and yours is the essence that nourishes the tree of existence.'"

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10 hours ago, Juan said:

You can be masculine and still be gay or bisexual. If you’re a girl and you’re masculine you still a girl (physiologically speaking).

yes, but, it's not gay if you're masculine straight and not gay u know what i mean ?

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In a sense we're all sexually biased O_o

I'm glad though that my sexual attraction doesn't extend beyond humans.

But I do wonder if one can consciously change their sexuality or if it can change over the course of a lifetime.


Plot twist: Waldo finds himself.

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6 hours ago, ItsNick said:

In a sense we're all sexually biased O_o

I'm glad though that my sexual attraction doesn't extend beyond humans.

But I do wonder if one can consciously change their sexuality or if it can change over the course of a lifetime.

I believe.it does. Sexual attraction just happens, as with everything else  depending on our state of consciousness I think. My attractor factor changed the older I got. 


 

 

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It seems to me  that a good deal  of homophobic attitudes exist in most parts of the world. It's normal for boys and girls to experiment sexually in their adolescence. A lot more shame is leveled at boys in regards to same sex experimentation than girls. Girls have more shame leveled at them in general regarding promiscuity.

Advice to younger folk- Make peace with yourself regarding any experimenting you have done sexually. Integrate this part of yourself and you won't be prey for bully's who overhear gossip and proceed to 'push your buttons'.

A joke I heard a man tell in a club a few years ago. He said, when I was a boy. I sucked just one little ole pecker and for the rest of my life I've been called a cocksucker.

To many that may seem an offensive joke. It could also be a comeback line for someone who sense they are  on the verge of being bullied,,,,,,

I experimented with another guy a couple of times in my youth and resolved my curiosities, so to speak,,, I'm a hardwired heterosexual and have no trouble with people who are gay. One exception though is being 'hit on' by guys who don't get the message and persist in being a nuisance,

 


"To have a free mind is to be a universal heretic." - A.H. Almaas

"We have to bless the living crap out of everyone." - Matt Kahn

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What does "actually" even mean here? Like a little bit of gay flirting doesn't count as "actually" gay? Does it have to be full blown intercourse to "count"?

It seems by your wording of "confirming" and "actual" that you want dance on the fence. Which is ironic given the meaning of those words.


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I can still 'appreciate' how attractive a guy looks without wanting anything sexual from them. For women, I can appreciate the same how attractive they look, but from them I WANT something sexual. Does that mean I'm gay? Jesus christ @Leo Gura you'll start making me doubt my sexuality man.

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I cant get an erection thinking about men, but if I try i know i can get the job done. 


How is this post just me acting out my ego in the usual ways? Is this post just me venting and justifying my selfishness? Are the things you are posting in alignment with principles of higher consciousness and higher stages of ego development? Are you acting in a mature or immature way? Are you being selfish or selfless in your communication? Are you acting like a monkey or like a God-like being?

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On 6/3/2023 at 6:52 PM, Leo Gura said:

Nice try, but technically humans are not monkeys, we are a kind of ape.

Actually, humans are its own genus called Homo. There used to be multiple species of humans existing at once, but us Sapiens are the only surviving species. At one point there where nine species of humans existing on the planet at the same time. We humans tend to take for granted that we are the only living species of our genus.

Humans are classed as Hominids though, the family that includes all the great apes, so it is correct that humans are primates. But humans are a different branch to the other brances that include Chimps and gorillas, on the bigger branch that are hominids.

One thing that is interesting to point out is that humans are the only generalist species out of the surviving hominids. Every other species is habitat dependent and endangered as a result, no thanks to us. Perhaps these species of great apes survived the rise of humans while every other human species didn't because they weren't in direct competition due to being specialized to a certain kind of habitat not suitable for farming. But now that humans do more than just farm and are encroaching on their habitat finally, their specialist tendencies are making them susceptible to extinction. Humans have a long history of annihilating other species long before any advanced technology existed.

Sorry, you spiked my interest in human taxonomy and ancient history and I couldn't resist.

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