I'm in love with a pornstar, what should I do?

[How to be wise]

@Someone here You have an avoidant attachment style like I do. There’s no need to fight it. Monogamy just isn’t for us. I recommend either settling for a few friends with benefits, or having multiple girlfriends (who are only dating you). You won’t be able to settle for just one girl.

Edited May 24, 2023 by How to be wise

[koops]

That sounds like a real problem.

Watching porn even in a relationship is not that weird.

But paying women is another thing. Don't pay for sex. And is not even sex! Is a bunch of pixels scamming you.

Imagine that girl laughing at you. And his pimp too. Imagine Tate laughing at you for paying for that shit!

'Look at that poor little guy, he is paying for my new Ferrari and he's not even having sex; good work girl'

 

Keep the porn. Don't pay a single dollar of your hard earn money to a bitch that is laughing at you.

Use that money to take your girlfriend to a nice dinner and fuck the shit out of her.

 

[blackchair]

didn't we read your posts for like 2years how u can't laid and now that you can, you wanna cheat?

[museumoftrees]

What kind of advice are you looking for here ?

[Roy]

First off you're cheating, so I would stop that. You could really hurt your girlfriend if she finds out. It's bad karma for your soul. You need to have more respect for yourself and your integrity.

The best thing you can do for yourself is stop immediately. Paying money to do it is even more icing on this stupid cake.

Also 95% of men on this forum and globally will never be able to attract and keep a "10". Who gives a fuck? There is so much more to life. Chances are you spend tremendous amounts of money and effort to get her then find out she's a bitch or the sex wasn't as good as you dreamed it would be.

@Someone here You're a very immature person. You need to count your blessings. Get your shit together and spend that money on therapy, not cam girls.

[Vlad_]

On 22/05/2023 at 3:07 PM, Someone here said:

I have a limiting a belief that I will never be worthy of dating a 10 girl . My gf is at best a 7. 

Now ,I used to watch porn a lot before getting laid (I guess every teenager and young man in the entire planet watches porn..so there is nothing weird about that  ).  But even after getting a girlfriend..I still from time to time get an urge to go solo..ya know what I mean  ? Wanking it to porn. And recently I got Into Live Cams porn(because I got bored of regular porn )Where you can chat live with the model and ask her to do kinky stuff..like" juggle your tits "  .."spank your ass " etc . And of course you pay for this . 

Lately I've stumbled upon an incredibly hot model . I pay to watch her live striping.  And tbh ..I feel sorry for not being able to get in her pants . A girl like that must be mine .that's the mindset that I have . Now .. if my girlfriend found out that I watch porn she more than likely to dump me .

The problem Is I'm getting attached to that model . She is a fucking 10. Blonde silky hair ..a nice handful of tits ..and a round butt . Seems very fuckable to me .

What should I do now ..? I even tried luiced dreaming techniques to dream about her at night.  

Honestly..one girl is not enough for me . I know because I have 4 GB of porn on my phone .

So basically I want to cheat on my girlfriend or fuck another girl.  Dunno. I know it's embarrassing to say this but I hope you guys are open-minded enough and don't judge me .

You have hijacked your reward system. You need to watch less porn. 

I  don't think you really value your girlfriend, if she's 7 and you want to fuck 10 go approach girls for a few years and then you'll be able to do it easily. 

But see the problem here is you don't have enough integrity to tell her about the porn star. Moreover, you don't want to lose her because she's the only available option for you at the moment. 

Would you be happy if she started watching some hot dudes on webcams ? I highly doubt it. 

Work on your integrity and don't try to be someone who you're not. 

[Jacob Morres]

Lol this thread 

Leo needs to add the book non violent communication to his booklist, this forum could use a dose of that ?

Edited May 26, 2023 by Jacob Morres