I'm in love with a pornstar, what should I do?

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, lostingenosmaze said:

Didn't say otherwise 

It must just be tough and painful.

Edited May 22, 2023 by Schizophonia

[nhoktinvt]

i'm in love with this coffee i'm drinking

[LSD-Rumi]

Don't be so hard on him guys. Dude, just express your sexual needs in a healthy way. Watch porn in a healthy way. Don't go into all these stupid stuff and paying cam girls for doing stupid stuff.

[Someone here]

Just now, nhoktinvt said:

i'm in love with this coffee i'm drinking

? Enjoy 

[Someone here]

Just now, LSD-Rumi said:

Don't be so hard on him guys. Dude, just express your sexual needs in a healthy way. Watch porn in a healthy way. Don't go into all these stupid stuff and paying cam girls for doing stupid stuff.

What is a healthy way of watching porn ? Why is cam porn "stupid " and unhealthy?  I mean given where this industry is at at the moment..that's the less toxic stuff I could find .

Dude ..I've seen 'stuff'...I've seen 'stuff' ..you won't believe me lol

Besides everyone here watches porn yet they are triggered by my braging about watching porn.

[nhoktinvt]

3 minutes ago, Someone here said:

? Enjoy 

so are you, good vibes

[Osaid]

This is lust, not love.

Your motivations for being in a relationship might be unsustainable. You have some sexual karma to work through.

[lostingenosmaze]

1 minute ago, Someone here said:

Dude ..I've seen 'stuff'...I've seen 'stuff' ..you won't believe me lol

I'd believe you ??

[Sincerity]

Just now, Someone here said:

And what exactly is wrong with that ?

I think there's nothing wrong in watching some porn. And I'd say it okay for a man to watch porn when in a relationship, as long as he's transparent of course. I understand having a high drive. But paying a live pornstar with which You interact and getting attached to her while having a gf... AND lying to your "7" about everything... bruh.

Did this really have to be spelled out for You? You're being heavily dishonest to your partner.

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Seems very fuckable to me .

Also, your attitude towards the opposite gender is worrisome.

[LSD-Rumi]

@Someone here A healthy way is when porn doesn't make more than 1% of your life and when you don't pay a cam girl for flashing her tits while the web has tens of thousands of good quality porn videos, and amazing models pics. If you are in denial about your problem in the first place, this is a bigger problem.

[Someone here]

@lostingenosmaze do you want my ass banned from here?  

Do your research! 

2 minutes ago, Osaid said:

This is lust, not love.

Your motivations for being in a relationship might be unsustainable. You have some sexual karma to work through.

Sexual what ?

I'm indeed obsessed with sex . But I don't think that I did fuck a lot of girls in my "past lives ".if anything..I must have been a homeless horny muscular dude who hasn't even touched girl ?. 

[Someone here]

2 minutes ago, Sincerity said:

I think there's nothing wrong in watching some porn. And I'd say it okay for a man to watch porn when in a relationship, as long as he's transparent of course. I understand having a high drive. But paying a live pornstar with which You interact and getting attached to her while having a gf... AND lying to your "7" about everything... bruh.

Did this really have to be spelled out for You? You're being heavily dishonest to your partner.

OK let me explain what I mean by a "7" ..she is attractive..but definitely not as attractive as a super model or a professional pornstar. 

Also ..what do you want me to do ? We live in a conservative society..porn is considered evil here . If I told her she will leave me . She doesn't have to know .it's not like I'm actually cheating on her.

[Carl-Richard]

What do they say — the thing about relationships that last is not that you were perfectly made for each other, but that you put in the effort to make it work. If you have a habit of making yourself a slave to the hedonic treadmill, it will manifest itself in every aspect of your life, and you'll never be satisfied. At some point you have to take control. But of course, I haven't met your girlfriend.

[Someone here]

4 minutes ago, Benton said:

Honestly it takes time. But it is possible to open yourself to a great deal more bliss than porn has to offer.

Basically it boils down to this. Become conscious that everything external is your imagination. Once you can look at a woman in her immaculate detail and be completely conscious that she is consciousness. You will realize that the only difference between internal and external imagination is quality. 
I realized this and retained the ability for it on a mushroom trip. I was looking at a gorilla and realized that I was imagining it and that my intelligence is not limited.

Like literally the only thing keeping the quality down is you not realizing you actually already do imagine all the porn. (And everything)
So of course you are capable of a infinite orgy sexscape. 
If you open to it.

Like literally why limit yourself? Give yourself your love

Interested in hearing more 

[Osaid]

8 minutes ago, Someone here said:

I'm indeed obsessed with sex .

Me too, but I'm not falling in "love" with porn stars.

There are different ways of experiencing sex and creating relationships with sex. Some are more sustainable. Some are more limited. Some are even more pleasurable.

8 minutes ago, Someone here said:

But I don't think that I did fuck a lot of girls in my "past lives ".if anything..I must have been a homeless horny muscular dude who hasn't even touched girl ?. 

Lol, I'm not talking about past lives. You just have thoughts and projections that need undoing. They are constricting your experience of sex.
 

[Someone here]

3 minutes ago, Carl-Richard said:

What do they say — the thing about relationships that last is not that you were perfectly made for each other, but that you put in the effort to make it work. If you have a habit of making yourself a slave to the hedonic treadmill, it will manifest itself in every aspect of your life, and you'll never be satisfied. At some point you have to take control. But of course, I haven't met your girlfriend.

Bro..I've been cumming to porn since I was 14 or so . I'm now 26 .and this is my first adult relationship.  My gf Is a very sensitive person.  She doesn't have to know .

There is a lot of hustle  in this thread ..

I'm basically asking one question:

Is watching cam porn cheating? 

[Schizophonia]

17 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

Can you conceive that I might have been talking about something different?

It's not about polyamory. It's about him being a lying coward who clearly sees his girlfriend only as a living flashlight. There is not an ounce of love and respect towards her in him, and it's not because he is "poly".

Also, please don't call whatever he does "making love". "Using another person to jerk yourself off" is more like it.

You understood nothing. I didn't talk about polyamory. I asked if you think a person is capable of sincerely loving their partner and at the same time going elsewhere just out of sheer sex drive/lust.

[Someone here]

4 minutes ago, Osaid said:

Lol, I'm not talking about past lives. You just have thoughts and projections that need undoing. They are constricting your experience of sex.
 

Like what ? Actually porn gives you (obviously) more variety to experience sex. The shit is literally endless . Whereas real sex is the same old same old.

[Schizophonia]

19 minutes ago, Sincerity said:

I think there's nothing wrong in watching some porn. And I'd say it okay for a man to watch porn when in a relationship, as long as he's transparent of course. I understand having a high drive. But paying a live pornstar with which You interact and getting attached to her while having a gf... AND lying to your "7" about everything... bruh.

Did this really have to be spelled out for You? You're being heavily dishonest to your partner.

Also, your attitude towards the opposite gender is worrisome.

Hello you. Have you ever had a girlfriend? Why do you think you should tell your potential girlfriend that you watch pornography? do you feel guilty about having your "secret garden" ?

 

serious questions

[Carl-Richard]

Just now, Someone here said:

Is watching cam porn cheating? 

Firstly, if you and her agree that it's not cheating, then it's not cheating. Other than that, my stance is quite liberal: unless there is a genuine possibility that you'll break up with her because of watching porn behind her back, then there is no reasonable difference between watching porn behind her back and simply masturbating behind her back. So if she wants to call porn cheating, then masturbation is also cheating (unless you guys somehow agree that they're different).