Resentment againt women who desire succesful men

[Buck Edwards]

8 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

Women who only date up and fuck up (and not down) are spiritually broke.

I never understood how self respect had anything to do with it. 

 

[Buck Edwards]

Shouldn't love come from the heart? 

 

[integral]

8 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

Why you want to know this?

Just curious, are you avoiding relationships to work on self-development vai pickup? 

[StarStruck]

12 minutes ago, integral said:

Just curious, are you avoiding relationships to work on self-development vai pickup? 

I'm heavily focused on self development because most of the problems I have other people can't help me with. Not even a therapists because most are idiots. Talk therapy helped me some but not a lot. So I'm doing my own thing with release work, meditation, breath work, and so on. I defeated by addictions on my own but I still have some trauma I have to process. Most of the problems I have are with females so I go out once a week to get triggered. I do some dates but I don't want a relationship because that would interfere with my healing. My last gf was pushy with sex which made me hate her. I'm 3 months in no-fap and I want to do it for 6-9 months.

[Buck Edwards]

31 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

it is just your turn.

 

Can you explain this? 

[NoSelfSelf]

@StarStruck im empath too and i found out its not a problem of being an empath,problem is reaction again to when you feel things from others i completely shut it down because its pointless i spent countless of hours helping people who didnt even care about it ?...only way to win is not care for what people and women do,say for that you need constant proactive talk and relationship with yourself...

[CARDOZZO]

If a woman fails one time, she needs to carry a baby for 9 months and also take care of the baby for years.

They NEED to choose, that’s it man.

It’s hard to not get laid and be angry to the CHADS who get it all ?

But that’s it, a man needs to earn his own value, earn his own path.

Just love the game and play it to the extreme until the end.

 

[Intraplanetary]

54 minutes ago, Enlightement said:

Shouldn't love come from the heart? 

 

Love and relationship won't last too long between two broke, financially unstable people. Material well-being is very important to have a wholesome healthy relationship. 

[Intraplanetary]

1 hour ago, StarStruck said:

Women who only date up and fuck up (and not down) are spiritually broke. I would never trust such a woman. Because she is not yours, it is just your turn.

It would be natural for a well-off woman to want to date a man who is at her level or above. I don't blame these women same as I don't blame men for selecting to date women based on their looks only. Let them have fun in their own way.

However, if a woman became attractive to a man who is not at her level career/finance wise and she would go with her feelings for him, she would still look for stability, ambition, vision and potential. No one is perfect, wise people grow and mature all the time and if two people are compatible and are attracted to each other they can grow and support each other along the way. That can be very powerful in creating a strong bond.

And some people like to do it all on their own and then find a preferable partner.

Edited May 20, 2023 by Intraplanetary

[mr_engineer]

This is why, as much as it sucks, you date women even when you're not successful. Because when things aren't going well for you, people show you who they really are. And this shows you what red-flags you should have and what you should vet for once you are successful. 

[Intraplanetary]

35 minutes ago, mr_engineer said:

This is why, as much as it sucks, you date women even when you're not successful. 

Just make sure you manage your expectations of what you gonna get. So that blame to women could be avoided.

On the other hand, you may be lucky so I would say do it, but avoid blame and resentment if you also not successful with getting attention.

Edited May 20, 2023 by Intraplanetary

[nhoktinvt]

3 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

 It's not about materialism

it's about drive it's about power

[Javfly33]

@StarStruck Accept that it´s not about Love, but survival.

It's all a f*** game. Laugh it off and enjoy it.

Love only can be found in Purity and Love (spirit, YOU).

If you are going to play in the date scene, assume 98% of times it will be game.

After all, why are you complaining? You are trying to game them as much as they want to game you.

Stop chasing pussy and wait for the 'true love' if you don't like the game.

But, be adviced, chances are, you won't have much (if any) results like that.

You can't be complaining about what you are literally creating. If you complain about the game, do not fucking play.

You are lying, calculating, gaming as much as they are... you rip what you saw.

 

Edited May 20, 2023 by Javfly33

[Buck Edwards]

2 hours ago, Intraplanetary said:

Love and relationship won't last too long between two broke, financially unstable people. Material well-being is very important to have a wholesome healthy relationship. 

Not necessarily. If two people love each other, nothing should hold them back. Only if they really love. 

[Jacob Morres]

I've the same feelings too

Though I think it's a dangerous rabbit hole 

I think empathy might be 1 solution 

[CARDOZZO]

Also, I recommend you read:

• Letting Go - David R Hawkins
• Models - Mark Manson

[Natasha Tori Maru]

You are thinking too much about this. 

Thinking about this isn't going to solve the problem, and no advice will either.

Just get out into the game of life and GO GO GO!

[StarStruck]

8 hours ago, Javfly33 said:

@StarStruck Accept that it´s not about Love, but survival.

It's all a f*** game. Laugh it off and enjoy it.

Love only can be found in Purity and Love (spirit, YOU).

If you are going to play in the date scene, assume 98% of times it will be game.

After all, why are you complaining? You are trying to game them as much as they want to game you.

Stop chasing pussy and wait for the 'true love' if you don't like the game.

But, be adviced, chances are, you won't have much (if any) results like that.

You can't be complaining about what you are literally creating. If you complain about the game, do not fucking play.

You are lying, calculating, gaming as much as they are... you rip what you saw.

 

I was naive enough to believe life was a love simulator. It is not for the individual, perhaps from God's perspective it is. Survival is a game, a very harsh one, and one can't spiritually bypass it.

Play = game = learning = evolution

The hardest thing for me to integrate in the coming period is to choose for myself, and play my game and let others play their game.
Not wanting to play the game of life is a big weakness which hampers my life quality and it is also not an attractive trait.

1 hour ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

You are thinking too much about this. 

Thinking about this isn't going to solve the problem, and no advice will either.

Just get out into the game of life and GO GO GO!

True, I'm thinking too much.

 

[mr_engineer]

13 hours ago, Intraplanetary said:

Just make sure you manage your expectations of what you gonna get. So that blame to women could be avoided.

On the other hand, you may be lucky so I would say do it, but avoid blame and resentment if you also not successful with getting attention.

The point is to see women for who they really are. This is where the real vetting happens for men, I'd say. 

This is where you learn to filter out the women who only want you for your money. The point of doing this is to 'manage our expectations' once we are successful! It is very important to figure out the type of woman who will love you for who you are. And, you do that when you're broke! Not when you're successful. 

You look at their filters, you see how patriarchal vs how feminist they are and you figure out the right system for yourself in the relationship. The thing with a lot of feminist women is that they don't want to fit in the gender-box that the patriarchy sets for them but they want to put men in their gender-box. You see the ugly parts about dealing with women and this puts a lot of things into perspective. 

The reality is that this relationship will set the foundation for your future. In the future, if something happens to your success, this relationship will make or break your life. If you're with a 'hypergamous' woman, she will divorce you, fuck you over even more and then go find someone else. But, if you're with someone who has the right values and who you're genuinely compatible with, she will stick with you and the two of you will survive it. The point being, you figure this out before even running in the rat-race and building your SMV. So that you know why you're doing it at all! 

[StarStruck]

31 minutes ago, mr_engineer said:

The point is to see women for who they really are. This is where the real vetting happens for men, I'd say. 

This is where you learn to filter out the women who only want you for your money. The point of doing this is to 'manage our expectations' once we are successful! It is very important to figure out the type of woman who will love you for who you are. And, you do that when you're broke! Not when you're successful. 

You look at their filters, you see how patriarchal vs how feminist they are and you figure out the right system for yourself in the relationship. The thing with a lot of feminist women is that they don't want to fit in the gender-box that the patriarchy sets for them but they want to put men in their gender-box. You see the ugly parts about dealing with women and this puts a lot of things into perspective. 

The reality is that this relationship will set the foundation for your future. In the future, if something happens to your success, this relationship will make or break your life. If you're with a 'hypergamous' woman, she will divorce you, fuck you over even more and then go find someone else. But, if you're with someone who has the right values and who you're genuinely compatible with, she will stick with you and the two of you will survive it. The point being, you figure this out before even running in the rat-race and building your SMV. So that you know why you're doing it at all! 

You have to use their game against them. If they want to fuck you over, you have to one up them and fuck them over before them or not put yourself in a position like a marriage where they have an advantage to fuck you over. Game is just like chess.

Edited May 21, 2023 by StarStruck