What has been & currently is the hardest part of dating / pickup for you?

[nhoktinvt]

@blackchair i would prefer you to live, dying is gay

[Roy]

On 5/19/2023 at 10:57 AM, lizz_luna said:

How do you think one can work on this issue or support your partner who acknowledges this pattern and wants to work it out with you?

Learning to practice gratitude and paying deliberate attention to the subtle things your partner does for you is a good start. What men crave most especially in intimate relationships is to feel useful and validated. Simple phrases like, "thank you for doing this for me you did a really great job." is like food to the soul of a man.

Also just generally acknowledging that you're likely going to maintain the longest and healthiest relationships with someone around your attraction level, income bracket, and overall "value". If there are significant imbalances between two people they are usually not going to work out, or someone is going to have to change too much to maintain the relationship. Which isn't healthy and usually means one of the people will leave, because homeostasis hates being stretched and disrupted too much.

You gotta make the most of who you can get, but have proper expectations so you aren't pushing them too much to be someone they aren't. Also think about what you bring to the table. If you are expecting your man to contribute large amounts of money, labour, planning, and taking on most of the responsibility, while not actively participating yourself, he will eventually get bitter and realize he's wasting his time. If he has any self-respect that is.

The last thing a man wants to do is come home from the ultra-competitive and violent world, tired and dirty, to be nagged to do even MORE. A relationship with the feminine for a man is supposed to be a sanctuary and place of peace FROM that world.

[RedLine]

The fear that cold approach is considered harassment in woke countries like Spain where I live. 

[blackchair]

On 5/21/2023 at 1:48 AM, nhoktinvt said:

@blackchair i would prefer you to live, dying is gay

this just made my whole week! i screenshot it just to make me giggle!