Advice I thought I would share

[Razard86]

So I had a person ask me how you get out of depression and the answers just flowed into me so I thought I would share. This is a copy and paste:

When you are tired of being sick and tired as the famous adage goes you will seek out truth. When you are young the desire that drives you the most is validation. You want others to acknowledge that you exist, and to speak glowingly about you. This usually expresses itself as a desire to make your parents proud, or your friends proud. 

In truth you don't need to prove anything but telling you that is not going to help you. So I am going to tell you how you get out of depression. You have been borne into a world that teaches and preaches results. Therefore you have tied your self-worth to results. Now this is a foolish thing to tie your self-worth to because you cannot control results absolutely. 

So first we need to tie your self-worth to something you can control. You can control preparation and effort. So pick something you want to become good at, it can be drawing, writing, singing, dancing, thinking about life, cooking, making jokes, whatever pick something and choose to do that every single day. When you become a master at something you gain the most valuable reward, self-worth.

By mastering something you proved to yourself your value. Now this won't get you to the highest levels of self-worth but it is a solid foundation to build on. The next thing you need to do is find hobbies you enjoy. It can be ANYTHING video games, reading books, watching movies, hanging out with friends and shooting the shit ANYTHING!! You will have people including Leo telling you that these things are a waste of time....here is a secret of life NOTHING IS A WASTE OF TIME!!

It is literally impossible to waste time!! I am not making this up, the reason why life is perfect is every action is equally valuable. So do whatever the hell you want because everything is a learning experience!! Do not allow others to tell you something is bad THIS IS DELUSION!! To discover what you are, which is akin to discovering what you love most and struggle to experience/resist most you need to gain experience!

The truth is you were born a genius and were conditioned into thinking you are an average person. Nobody is average!! Not a single person born is average this too is DELUSION!! If you believe these lies and delusions people tell you then you will literally live that experience! 

Here are things you are always in control of.

1. You are always in control of how you frame a situation. Frame is basically just interpretation.

2. You are always in control of your opinion of yourself. NEVER blame others for your opinion of yourself. It is true that others can influence your opinion but never state that you don't have the power to change it, YOU DO.

3. You always have the ability to prepare (which is every action you have taken before you perform a task) and how much focus and effort you put forth.

4. You control who you associate with (it's limited in childhood but adulthood you have complete control within limits i.e. work for example) so only allow people in your life who EMPOWER YOU. Empowerment is not just encouragement, it is also being held accountable and holding others accountable.

5. NEVER feel guilty EVER! Never feel depression EVER! You can feel regret, which is wishing TEMPORARILY that something else happened. But after you feel that regret you release it. Why? Because IT IS WHAT IT IS. Once something has happened YOU CANNOT change it. All you can do is PROCESS IT. Don't allow the process to turn into guilt or depression. We all make mistakes, mistakes are an ABSOLUTE PART OF LIFE. This means mistakes are as inevitable as AGING. This means MISTAKES ARE DESTINY! They will happen and cannot be changed. So why be depressed, why feel guilt for something THAT EVERYBODY DOES AND HAS TO EXPERIENCE? 

Notice how everything I said makes sense and yet this is not taught!!! Let this make you aware that majority of human kind is DELUDED! This means you have to ultimately construct your own world view yourself because you live in a world of MASS DELUSION! Don't let the world construct your world view for you else you will be MASSIVELY DELUDED and you will SUFFER THAT DELUSION. You only ever suffer your world view, so construct one that serves you and those around you.

Here is one principle to guide your life in this process. Only hold onto that which empowers you, and only do onto others that which empowers them. A power that is secure in itself has nothing to prove, so it ultimately transcends the need for results and validation from others because it is self-validating. As a result it is secure, as a result it will seek to empower others because a world of people that are secure in their power is a secure world. Why wouldn't you want to devote your life to first ensuring your own personal security and then improving the security of others? There is no greater use of your time in life.

Edited May 4, 2023 by Razard86