The TRUE key to HAPPINESS

[Razard86]

The True key to happiness is conscious suffering. You must face what you fear/avoid the most daily! For example people who are neat freaks abhor dirt and dust. But they face their aversion to dirt and dust consistently and as a result they enjoy a clean environment. Everybody resists physical pain, but if you exercise and face physical pain you are rewarded with a strong fit body. People resist learning something new, especially if it is outside their comfort zone, but if you face that it can completely transform who you are and broaden your perspective and your capabilities immensely.

So the entire point of life, is counter-intuitive. Your senses tell you AVOID THIS AT ALL COSTS!!! And your job is to completely ignore it and face it anyway!! This is why life doesn't make sense because the GOOD LIFE is behind what you avoid the most. So to be comfortable in life, you have to chase discomfort!!! Notice how non-practical that is? You actually have to consciously choose to put yourself through hell? YES!!! Because heaven/paradise is that which can only be accessed after you go through the gates of hell!

This is why the Dark Night of the Soul is a staple Spiritual Concept. You must face the dark night, which is the unknown. You must accept that there is no ground, and fall into the abyss of the darkness, and then you discover that you can create a ground within the groundless. How? You fall into the abyss, you hurtle to your doom, and then you realize everything is ONE!!! So to fall for infinity into oneness is to NOT GO ANYWHERE!!! This is equivalent to being still, which means its the equivalent to having a ground!!

So you can only experience being grounded, which means to be stable and secure, by hurtling through the Dark Night of the ABYSS. So are you ready to be happy? Or are you happy playing the victim? Remember there are no victims, all victimhood is delusion. This is the absolute truth which means it cannot be disproven. So if you resist that which cannot be disproven, you will suffer your delusion. You face suffering to be free of it, or you can resist suffering and continually experience it!!! The choice is yours!!

[Yimpa]

I’ve consciously faced my grief and trauma gradually over the past few weeks. It’s been some of the most challenging shit I’ve faced.

Losing close friends, seeing my mother’s mind clearly being coerced by devilry, and reliving my bullies in a new, unexpected context. 

What has come out the other side, though is a deeper love and connection to Reality. In fact, what came out of that process is becoming closer to my friends, watch my mother grow in wisdom, and not giving any power to the bully.

 

[Yimpa]

10 minutes ago, Razard86 said:

Remember there are no victims

No, no. There are victims. 

It’s just that from such a conscious elevation, your definition of victim gets reframed into gold.

[Razard86]

2 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

No, no. There are victims. 

It’s just that from such a conscious elevation, your definition of victim gets reframed into gold.

As long as you believe there are victims YOU WILL NEVER AWAKEN EVER. PERIOD. Are there victims in a video game? NO. Are there victims in a book? NO. Are there victims in a PLAY? NO!!! It's called a PLAY of consciousness, a COSMIC DRAMA!!! None of these have victims!!! It's called A COSMIC JOKE!!! If you take the joke serious then you become a victim!!! People who engage in cancel culture over comedians are doing the SAME THING you are doing now!!! You are taking a joke serious, and thus you create yourself as a victim!!!

Life is a joke!!! Awaken and get the joke, or stay offended and be a victim!!

Edited May 2, 2023 by Razard86

[Yimpa]

Just now, Razard86 said:

As long as you believe there are victims YOU WILL NEVER AWAKEN EVER. PERIOD. 

 

You are going to be a great father. And if you are or have ever been, thank you.

[Razard86]

2 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

 

You are going to be a great father. And if you are or have ever been, thank you.

If I'm a father I will PRETEND it's real. If I place you in a movie you play your role and learn your script! The key to life is learning to be a great actor!!! You want to be business man? Learn how to play that character! You want to be a great father learn how to play that character! You literally teach yourself through your creation how to do it! Both from your direct experience of being a child, and watching movies of great parents in drama.

So you use your Life, the same way you use movies, books, etc. to teach yourself how to ACT!!! In the words of the Rock, LEARN YOUR ROLE AND SHUT YO MOUTH!!!

[Yimpa]

Just now, Razard86 said:

So you use your Life, the same way you use movies, books, etc. to teach yourself how to ACT!!! 

Fook yeah. 

I’ll never take an ACT test, but I will ACT on my core values.

[Razard86]

Here is another piece of wisdom. People say avoid pleasure this is false. Engorge yourself with pleasure!!! Drown in pleasure until you are sick of it!!! THIS is how you transcend the hold pleasure has on you. Many people have guilty pleasures and they avoid it, since they avoid it they become drawn to it. That which you resist persists!!! Why are you avoiding that which brings you joy? People say I am afraid I will become addicted or afraid to make a mistake. Mistakes are inevitable, addictions are inevitable!!! People will ask addictions are inevitable I don't believe that!!! This is FOOLISHNESS!!! What do you think a perspective is? It's an addiction to set of beliefs!!! This is why it is hard for people to awaken, they are too ADDICTED to their belief of being a separate person.

Addiction is literally encoded into you!!! What do you think your bodies limitations are? Your body cannot handle lava. If I try to push you into lava you will avoid it. Why? Because your body cannot handle it. So since addictions are inevitable face every addiction!! What you will realize is what doesn't kill you MAKES YOU STRONGER!!! LAVA will kill you, but a food addiction faced earnestly will be burned through and transcended!! But if you resist and judge it, you will go back and forth, back and forth, going back is resistance, going forth is succumbing to desire.

So guess what? The same relentlessness you face pain you must also face pleasure!!! Why? Because pleasure and pain are the same thing!!! This message I just stated is no different than just saying RESIST NOTHING, FACE EVERYTHING!!! Which is the same as BE COURAGEOUS!!! 

[Yimpa]

Thank you for bringing up addiction. That’s also something I’ve worked on these past couple months.

I’ve quit an addiction that I’ve attempted for over a decade, to no avail. However, I finally did. There’s no way I could’ve processed my grief and trauma as deeply as I’ve been these past couple weeks had I not quit my addiction. No way.

Edited May 2, 2023 by Yimpa

[FourCrossedWands]

Will spending time with toxic people bring me happiness then? I don't think so...

[hyruga]

Yes you must face your demons by acting out like the dragon warrior, Po, the greatest dragon warrior ever lived.

[Yimpa]

8 minutes ago, FourCrossedWands said:

Will spending time with toxic people bring me happiness then? I don't think so...

Of course it won’t.

Stop seeing people as toxic. That’s not the only thing people are.

[Razard86]

25 minutes ago, FourCrossedWands said:

Will spending time with toxic people bring me happiness then? I don't think so...

Everyone is toxic, I AM TOXIC, toxic is an interpretation. If you earnestly ask people on the forums someone will tell you that I am toxic! Don't believe me here is proof!!

According to some in that thread I am toxic. You see? Also notice some liked my message. So to some I am toxic and to others I am not. You calling someone toxic is just your interpretation. And the funny thing is, because you think they are toxic, you are liable to respond to them with toxic behavior. If you do, and justify it you have now given your power away. 

Whenever you reward what you deem toxic behavior with toxic behavior the so called toxic person has defeated you. You have now been brought down to their level and have taken on their identity as your own. You justify this behavior like a child that says "Well he hit me first." If someone comes around and see too people engaging in toxic behavior with each other they cannot tell the difference. 

Notice you also become a hypocrite because how can you deem someone as wrong when you did the same thing? No justification can erase the fact you engaged in the same behavior, all you can do is erect a reason for why you felt it was a valid response. By saying your response was valid, you admit that toxicity is valid under certain circumstances. So without realizing you just made their behavior VALID and AUTHENTIC and GOOD from your point of view.

This is why anytime you judge anyone you are just deluding yourself and are being a hypocrite.

[FourCrossedWands]

I don't mean this anonymous internet toxicity. I mean when your friend or family member can be very selfish or ignorant to you.

I understand that from their perspective, they are not toxic. They don't realize it.

But should you still spend time with them? Should you ignore it? Will it make you happy in the end?

Edited May 2, 2023 by FourCrossedWands

[hoodrow trillson]

2 hours ago, FourCrossedWands said:

I don't mean this anonymous internet toxicity. I mean when your friend or family member can be very selfish or ignorant to you.

I understand that from their perspective, they are not toxic. They don't realize it.

But should you still spend time with them? Should you ignore it? Will it make you happy in the end?

That type of toxicity is very unconscious and it will in time, make you more unconscious.  And petty.  And angry.

Stay away but show up when needed (family gathering, party, etc) to show you come in peace.   

[Yimpa]

2 hours ago, FourCrossedWands said:

But should you still spend time with them? Should you ignore it? Will it make you happy in the end?

Simply labeling someone as toxic or not toxic, then deciding whether or not to hang out with them is a shallow way to make decisions. There are ways to make decisions from a higher elevation, but that can only occur when you take responsibility of your own life first.

Here’s a Leo episode I recommend to get an idea of how you can make decisions clearly and directly:

 

[Razard86]

9 hours ago, FourCrossedWands said:

I don't mean this anonymous internet toxicity. I mean when your friend or family member can be very selfish or ignorant to you.

I understand that from their perspective, they are not toxic. They don't realize it.

But should you still spend time with them? Should you ignore it? Will it make you happy in the end?

You are experience, if you don't want to experience something you can avoid the situation. But this presents a problem, nothing is seperate from you, and no experience is ultimately different. This means wherever you go there you are. So if you demonize selfishness you will suffer whenever someone is selfish. Not only that you will become blind to your own selfishness. 

So you can choose to not spend time with them, but you cannot escape the selfishness of others. There is a saying, "Hell is other people." There is another saying "To live is to suffer." So you cannot escape other people and even if you do you cannot escape suffering. You can transcend it by accepting it. 

You can only be happy with total acceptance at all times with what is. If not, then you choose to ONLY be happy with your preferences, and anything outside of it you will suffer. This is why I always say you "Only suffer your perspective." Which is to say you only suffer that which doesn't align with your preferences.