Completely Lost At Sea - Looking For A "Lighthouse"

[Oso]

I'm utterly lost in life. I feel many others are here too.

I'm doing things but I feel like a husk and suffer immensely from it.

It is as though I'm missing something.

 

Actions I Have Been Taking To Solve This:

• Self-questioning/contemplation 
• Listening to intuition for guidance
• Practicing being
• Putting down distractions like the phone 
• Developing and creating with my passions 

 

Actions I Have NOT Been Taking To Solve This:

• Meditation 
• Actual self-developmental productivity 
• Questioning my fears and limitations
• Exposing myself to experience 
• Seeking proper guidance, if any

 

I'm seriously stuck and blind to something here. I feel like I cannot suffer in this ignorance any longer.

Does anyone know what is going on? Or how to solve it?

[Carl-Richard]

Find the notepad on your phone.

• Set a specific life goal that you think is meaningful for you and lay out the concrete steps you need to take to pursue it (e.g. getting a degree, then getting a job). If it's something you find truly meaningful, you're tapping into intrinsic motivation, which is the most powerful motivator. Write it down.
   
• Write a daily work schedule for pursuing that goal. Plan out the conditions for taking breaks (and do take at least one break a week, but otherwise never deviate from the plan unless you're e.g. terribly sick or for other reasons not able to work).
   
• Just in general, whatever your mind tells you to do, write it down and plan the conditions for fulfilling that goal, and COMMIT to that. Whether it's a daily errand like buying groceries or a long-term goal like getting better at dating or an intellectual idea, it doesn't matter. Write it down so that your mind is not burdened by excess thoughts, indecisiveness and uncertainty.

These are meta-tools that are extremely useful for getting some basic structure into your life at all levels and on track towards something meaningful, regardless of the particular goal you have in mind. For me, they're indispensable.

Merely choosing a goal, even though if you end up changing your mind at some point, is curative on its own, because you'll be going towards something, which is fundamentally what we're designed to do. You'll also be growing and learning different skills and things about yourself.

Merely writing a schedule and sticking to it eliminates indecisiveness and uncertainty from your mind, and it makes your mind think clearer, which energizes you and gives you momentum.

Merely writing things down is curative because you solidify that structure and also outsource your mental working capacity and eliminate unnecessary clutter so that you can focus on what is meaningful.

Edited May 1, 2023 by Carl-Richard

[Carl-Richard]

Maybe I should've asked what you're currently doing first (it's a bit late over here lol).

[NoSelfSelf]

You dont know who you are, you dont know how to know yourself.

Your program is to seek things outside of yourself,you dont trust yourself and lack of that foundation causes you to be completely lost in the dark, like someone left you in foreign city without knowing language...

[Oso]

3 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

Find the notepad on your phone.

• Set a specific life goal that you think is meaningful for you and lay out the concrete steps you need to take to pursue it (e.g. getting a degree, then getting a job). If it's something you find truly meaningful, you're tapping into intrinsic motivation, which is the most powerful motivator. Write it down.
   
• Write a daily work schedule for pursuing that goal. Plan out the conditions for taking breaks (and do take at least one break a week, but otherwise never deviate from the plan unless you're e.g. terribly sick or for other reasons not able to work).
   
• Just in general, whatever your mind tells you to do, write it down and plan the conditions for fulfilling that goal, and COMMIT to that. Whether it's a daily errand like buying groceries or a long-term goal like getting better at dating or an intellectual idea, it doesn't matter. Write it down so that your mind is not burdened by excess thoughts, indecisiveness and uncertainty.

These are meta-tools that are extremely useful for getting some basic structure into your life at all levels and on track towards something meaningful, regardless of the particular goal you have in mind. For me, they're indispensable.

Merely choosing a goal, even though if you end up changing your mind at some point, is curative on its own, because you'll be going towards something, which is fundamentally what we're made to do. You'll also be growing and learning different skills and things about yourself.

Merely writing a schedule and sticking to it eliminates indecisiveness and uncertainty from your mind, and it makes your mind think clearer, which energizes you and gives you momentum.

Merely writing things down is curative because you solidify that structure and also outsource your mental working capacity and eliminate unnecessary clutter so that you can focus on what is meaningful.

Thank you for the clarity and practicality you provided with this. I will get to work with it and experience what it does through action. 

 

3 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

Maybe I should've asked what you're currently doing first (it's a bit late over here lol).

Do you mean what I'm currently doing in life?

[Oso]

2 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

You dont know who you are, you dont know how to know yourself.

Your program is to seek things outside of yourself,you dont trust yourself and lack of that foundation causes you to be completely lost in the dark, like someone left you in foreign city without knowing language...

What do you suggest I do to deprogram this program? I can see what it might entail, but even now I can see the lack of self trust you are talking about. I would like to trust the self without reserve. 

[nhoktinvt]

what do you believe in ? what do you obsess about ? what results do you want ? 
you're suffering ? you're not alive ? you're not alone 
you must change you must awaken ! it's only YOU (capital on purpose)

[Yimpa]

4 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

Maybe I should've asked what you're currently doing first (it's a bit late over here lol).

Nah, you’re good. I found your post useful!

[NoSelfSelf]

@Oso Well everything that it comes to more understanding yourself, but before that you need to start think for yourself and come to the answers for yourself only,what blocks that is caring about outside world approval,likes,looking like there is someone out there that can help you truly not just guide you(appealing to the authority)...

Stop living on whats going outside of yourself and start living from inside.

Being driven by fear,worry etc. is also reason why you lost so those voices must be replaced with other voices...

Also me telling you how to do it is also part of the problem i cant tell you how i can only give information where you can interpert it in your own way to help you so nothing will help you until you realize this..

Nobody on the planet can give you information to make you not being lost only you can take charge to find the way by taking information and make it your own,if you look someone will give you advice on this and its not find your own unique self is wasting your time...

Edited May 1, 2023 by NoSelfSelf

[Carl-Richard]

9 hours ago, Oso said:

Do you mean what I'm currently doing in life?

Yeah, and any future plans.

Edited May 1, 2023 by Carl-Richard

[Oso]

@NoSelfSelf Very well. Thank you.

[Oso]

4 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

Yeah, and any future plans.

Right now I'm in my first year of college, pursuing a degree and several different passions. Ideally, I'm looking to become a Yoga teaching and ultimately a guide for my own spiritual retreat center. I have a little scene that has been playing in my head for a few years now which keeps leading me that way.

 

Besides this, I'm producing music, making mind opening videos, and going for a degree in and around English Composition. 

 

It is simply this lost feeling which has been plaguing me for the last few months. That said, I'm going to take your recommendation into action so I can stop looking elsewhere for answers and an end to my suffering. 

[UnbornTao]

Yes, you might be talking about a sense of meaninglessness. Grasp that purpose and meaning are created by you. See this as a liberating fact. You're free to create the purpose of your life! Wow, what an opportunity. It could be said that reality transcends meaning, which allows freedom to enjoy life as desired, with or without meaning.

Holding the future as a positive thing is also incredibly useful. Take small actions towards your goals. That in itself makes one hopeful for the future.

This is an opportunity to realize how each of us can consciously make a constructive purpose for our own individual lives.