Can't Relate To Others?!

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Throughout the Personal Development scene, A common issue or event is the isolation and distancing from friends and family before self actualization. They claim they can't relate or share how they truly feel to their friends and family. So they isolate themselves believing it better not to be lonely among many and preferably by themselves.

Meditation and Self work doesn't nessecarily target socializing but rather reveals your true motivations for socializing, for many it is insecurity and shallowness. In fact Meditation and Self work can and is used to achieving the highest levels of Socializing. Anxiety and Awkwardness can be conquered by being in the  moment(Meditation) and being among terribly deep conversations can be achieved through Self Work. 

The real issue is due to Meditation and Self Work, you realize the friendships you made weren't based on having truly authentic conversations. This does not mean the other person(s) is only talking about self actualization but what is truly on your mind. Insecurities, Goals, Philosophy, History, Art, Poetry, Hobbies Ambition and Relationships. When someone realizes the true nature of the friendship and their own nature, two things tend to happen, They shove their new found values upon the person or hide in a shell. Eventually this tends to lead to a breakage of the relationship. Perhaps nessecary in that time period but ultimately unnessecary in the longview of Self Actualization(I'll explain in a bit). This is one of the Purging parts of Self Actualization. 

After one realizes one's motivation for their friendships, The re-examination of their motivation can begin. This is a purification. No it does not nessecarily mean avoid common peasants and only be around true geniuses. Unfortunately many prematurely conclude this one way or another. Re-examination means looking at Why?  Why do you talk to them? To get your mind off of real issues? To pass time? You don't know anyone else? Comfortable in a pack? Friends of Friends? Scared of going out the buble? 

From that you must purge or fully confront the nature of your relationships. Even to this day I realize the nature of many of my acquitances is shallow- Ex: Friend of friends, Pass time and Know no one else in that time/place. Realizing Why?  that relationship exist is not the start of the issue but rather the beginning of the end. You will naturally seek more stronger and profound Whys like shedding layers of insecurities, Romanticizing about a better world, Mining for existiential reality and implementing your wildest ambitions into the world. This does not mean you don't have chit chat with the lady down the street because it is "subpar" conversation. You realize Why you have that "subpar" conversation and that is what makes it authentic at least in a maitenance standpoint(Maintaining a functioning life), whether that motivation be to be polite, compassionate, an interesting topic or perhaps enjoying the person as a whole. 

Some new motivations for interacting with normal people are to simply relate, find amusement in the absurdity of human interaction, enjoying interacting with people, enjoying gentle topics, learning something new, sociology and mastering the complicated world of socializing.