Lack of humour is not an issue

[Something Funny]

I have just realized that I don't have a humour problem, or a "not knowing what to say" problem, or an awkwardness problem or an introversion problem. I have a fear and insecurity problem.

It's crazy how I can be the funniest persom in the room and be the soul of the company when I feel safe and comfortable. It's also crazy how I haven't realized this up until now even though it was the case for my entire life.

I would think that I need to develop humour or somehow improve my speaking skills and stuff like that, becaude I sucked at them. Or I would think that I am shy, serious, and reserved a lot of time because I am an introvert. 

And none of that is true. I am like that when I feel afraid / anxious / insecure. It's like it shackles my mind and turns me into a social retard. 

So, if only I was able to free myself from fear, anxiety, and insecurity, it would probably solve all of my "social skills issues". 

I know it's not some incredibly profound insight  but it has been a big mindest shift for me that has happened just now, so I wanted to share.

 

[Schizophonia]

7 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

 

It's crazy how I can be the funniest persom in the room and be the soul of the company when I feel safe and comfortable. It's also crazy how I haven't realized this up until now even though it was the case for my entire life.

 

In the sense of "lack of stress" or above all euphoric/comfortable? (dopaminergic)
Maybe low brain activity and low energy in general? (have you noticed that people who are uncomfortable, shy, often don't like to play sports and are "slow"?)

I haven't figured out the piece of the puzzle yet, I have a series of products to try, can you help me?

[Something Funny]

@Schizophonia lack of stress. Like when I am around people that I trust.

[NoSelfSelf]

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[integral]

Great insight, this is why people take something to help them relax before social events.