Please help me with my fear of taking it to the next level with women

[GroovyGuru]

I have made strides in my ability to attract and connect with women I find attractive. I have spent time learning and appyling what I've learned, which has given me some results and has increased the confidence I have in myself.

I can text a woman in a flirty and fun way. I can call her on the phone to set a date. I can display masculine and confident traits when we meet in person. I can make her laugh. I can connect with her and show her my personality. I can charm her. I can read her signals, and kiss her when it is appropriate.

However, new fears have been unlocked. I have fears about moving beyond the initial meeting and taking it to the next level, where things are bound to become sexual. Below I will list the main fears I have

• By far and away, my main fear is not being able to get it up when the moment arrives. This is especially true because I failed on 2 occasions with a girl I was seeing several months ago. She really liked me, but I never penetrated her. I eventually cut it off with her because I did not share her level of interest
• I fear being clueless in the moment, and my cluelessness being evident
• I fear that I will be too anxious and in my head when the moment arrives, ultimately leading to a bad experience for the girl

Basically, I am just not experienced sexually even though the girls would never be able to guess that. I fear being intimate because I fear that I will be bad at it, or just fail altogether (not being able to become erect). I currently have several opportunities to have sex with some beautiful women over the next few weeks. I really need to get in the right place psychologically. Any advice is massively appreciated.

[Sleyker]

I feel you brother, been there and it's embarrassing to go through that experience.

Connect more with your pelvis area, while you're on the date with her, look at the woman in the eyes and feel your turn on, for me it's tingles or heat in my pelvis area, cock and balls. Let her turn you on.
Of course easier said than done when you're in your head, but that's just the key right there.

You can do visualizations at home, imagine she's in front of you, find something about her that turns you on and watch that feeling in your dick, imagine what you'll do to her, what she'll do to you, let yourself be turned on, you don't have to get it up during the exercise, just get used to feeling that area. 
At first you might feel numb, if that's the case, keep observing that part of your body, it'll eventually start to wake up.

I don't know if that's too abstract but I hope it helps!

[Dauntment]

2 hours ago, GroovyGuru said:

I have made strides in my ability to attract and connect with women I find attractive. I have spent time learning and appyling what I've learned, which has given me some results and has increased the confidence I have in myself.

I can text a woman in a flirty and fun way. I can call her on the phone to set a date. I can display masculine and confident traits when we meet in person. I can make her laugh. I can connect with her and show her my personality. I can charm her. I can read her signals, and kiss her when it is appropriate.

However, new fears have been unlocked. I have fears about moving beyond the initial meeting and taking it to the next level, where things are bound to become sexual. Below I will list the main fears I have

• By far and away, my main fear is not being able to get it up when the moment arrives. This is especially true because I failed on 2 occasions with a girl I was seeing several months ago. She really liked me, but I never penetrated her. I eventually cut it off with her because I did not share her level of interest
• I fear being clueless in the moment, and my cluelessness being evident
• I fear that I will be too anxious and in my head when the moment arrives, ultimately leading to a bad experience for the girl

Basically, I am just not experienced sexually even though the girls would never be able to guess that. I fear being intimate because I fear that I will be bad at it, or just fail altogether (not being able to become erect). I currently have several opportunities to have sex with some beautiful women over the next few weeks. I really need to get in the right place psychologically. Any advice is massively appreciated.

1. How is your physical health? You in good shape?

2. How do you FEEL when you look at yourself in the mirror?

3. Hows your sexual psychology? Think you may be watching too much Porn?

4. Since you evidently "already have" opportunities to get some play, you're clearly doing something right and think you should compound that. 

Leo has some videos in regards to sexual-advice topics that I think could be helpful to you and my last 2 cents would be: Sex is a dynamic and as a male, you are the LEADER and CREATOR; it IS what YOU make it to be. This is a big pointer to why the "best sex" is not mechanical and can't be instructed because its like Creative/Fluid/Dynamic, you give to her based on how she is FEELING about it.

Not to be too ideological or whatever but I'm speaking from EXPERIENCE: "Being within this Masculine way" should give you a "certain energy" (Full of *** and "at full mast"); Almost like...."When the student is ready, the Master appears".

[Yimpa]

Here’s what’s going to happen. You’ll probably fail again. But guess what? There’s plenty of examples in your own life where you’ve failed so many times, yet you eventually figured it out and maybe even mastered it. 

Now take that same mentality with this situation. Most importantly, though, do it out of pure love and an authentic desire to deeply explore yourself and your partner. 

[Holymoly]

Who says u need an erection for sex?

[Holymoly]

Pretty much sounds like pure performance anxiety. Sex isn’t a performance and your not responsible for her pleasure. 

[koops]

Is quite normal to have this problems in the beginning. Most guys don't recognize it but is real.
 

My tip is that you learn to eat pussy like a pro and learn to make a girl squirt.

Ofc is not ideal, but is a safety net.

I had that in the past. Couldn't get it up but the girl left with a few orgasms without even penetrating her. And she wanted to meet again.

 

Also, if you can't get it up don't start apologizing or take it too seriously. Don't justify yourself.

Play with your tongue, fingers, or just chill with her in bed for a few minutes like not big deal. And go for it later.

 

 

[Yimpa]

3 hours ago, Holymoly said:

Sex isn’t a performance and your not responsible for her pleasure. 

Take it to the next level:

Sex being an immaculate performance, bliss manifesting from you and your partner in unison.