My mom is always negative

[Jenkins]

I love her, and I'm sure she does mean only well.

However, ALL of the time she is a negative chatterbox (I have no power to change most of the problems she talks about)

I try to be detached, however negativity rubs off of me. And I tend to get upset after talking with her for a while, and from time to time I react in a more or less angry way.

I've tried explaining, her and every other method I could find. She might understand after a long talk, however next day or in a few hours she goes back to her behavior.

Any tips?

 

[Devin]

       Spend as little time with her as you can. Tolle has a decent video on being with unconscious people but it's advanced to be able to actually use. Meditate more to balance it out, try to only consume positive media, your mother is enough negativity for you at the moment. Just do what you can, don't beat yourself up for reacting with anger.

[Jenkins]

Much appreciated ?

[universe]

Yep, as others already said, distance is very important.

Also be aware of your own thoughts and beliefs. When you grow up in a household full of negativity and victim thinking it's very likely that you have incoporated those as well. So be really alert of your mind. This "your mind" is the only thing you should really worry about, its the only enemy. In that regard, your mother can help you. When you notice she becomes negative, ask yourself where in your live have you been negative in the same way in the last days/weeks.

[integral]

Its about changing the situation to be positive. Make jokes, smile + laugh things off. Guide her to a new frame during the conversation. 

Edited March 23, 2023 by integral