Self love is essential!!

[LSD-Rumi]

Many of us, when it is said that someone loves himself, we say then this person is arrogant or narcissistic and we do not put another possibility, that for example This is a healthy thing. Self-love is a very important thing, and many people suffer from a huge deficiency in this matter in particular. We are designed as humans to love ourselves if only the “positive” things are available in us, for example, I love myself if I am rich or if I am a person of status or position or if I am beautiful and tall or have soft facial features , and I do not love myself if I am poor or from a humble family or if I am ugly. Here comes the concept of unconditional self-love, I love myself if I am beautiful and if I am ugly, I love myself if I am smart and I love it if I am stupid too, I love it if I am rich and I love it if I am poor. This concept of unconditional self-love with almost anything is a secret of happiness and a fundamental basis  for it. And of course, this love will make you a stronger and more confident person, and it will make your relationship with yourself healthier.

People who are bullied, whether by colleagues, spouses, or wives, suffer from a severe lack of self-love. If they had enough self-love and respect, they would not have been bullied in the first place.

Self-love also helps to change oneself. If I accept myself with all its flaws, sins, and negative qualities, I will be able to change it. Here is another topic, which is the topic of self-flagellation. Many people who practice self-development, for example, whip themselves and are very harsh with them, and of course, this is completely wrong. The correct approach is the approach of self-love and kindness, and having the desire to change it for the better. Of course, this approach is more effective and better by far, and of course, it is more beautiful and more comfortable at the psychological level.

In my opinion, self-love should have no limits. I love myself even if I am a criminal, for example, but I will also work hard to change it, and as they say, the best of sinners are those who repent.

[spiritual memes]

^^^ this. Yes. self love is absolutely key.

[jimwell]

Here's a real-life example. 

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Covxt90jA70/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

[Nemra]

@jimwell

What a cute parrot

[Razard86]

15 hours ago, Lila9 said:

I believe that this is our default state and that we are born with great raw and innocent sense of self-love. And if it was encouraged in childhood and cultivated on a systemic level, self-love wasn't such a problem for most of us today as adults. 

I think that tough-love is as importent as soft-love, and it depends on the situation and on the person whether to use each of them, it requires wisdom and intuition to know when to apply any of those, whether it's for individuals in their personal life or leaders, gurus and coaches who guide people in life.

Tough love is not bullying or being harshly critical without any reason or out of hatred, there is more wisdom behind it and it comes from a place of love and great belief in our potential and abilities or the potential and abilities of others. 

 

Tough Love is bullying, you have obviously never been in the military or boot camp for that matter or ever played any tough sports. Shaq in basketball bullied his opponents, in football as a offensive or defensive lineman bullying is essential to getting the job done. So bullying is love, in fact being tough on your son or daughter growing up (rough and tumble play) has been shown to have positive benefits in life.

I was bullied when I was young and while it did cause some emotional trauma, the payoff was it gave me resilence and the ability to forgive quickly and easily. When you get bullied long enough, you actually stop taking things so personally because holding all that baggage in actually becomes counter productive.

Humans crave comfort, and thus do not understand the value of bullying, everything in life has a purpose and the design is intelligent.

[Carl-Richard]

2 hours ago, Razard86 said:

I was bullied when I was young and while it did cause some emotional trauma, the payoff was it gave me resilence and the ability to forgive quickly and easily. When you get bullied long enough, you actually stop taking things so personally because holding all that baggage in actually becomes counter productive.

Humans crave comfort, and thus do not understand the value of bullying, everything in life has a purpose and the design is intelligent.

Stress doesn't invariably cause resilience. It depends on the situation and the person.

[gettoefl]

self love is the extent to which one does the inner work, and even being here can be in practice of self love if done in the right way

self love will be recognised in another to the degree they are self-aware, non-judgemental, compassionate, sincere, and humble

[hyruga]

On 3/20/2023 at 11:58 PM, LSD-Rumi said:

Many of us, when it is said that someone loves himself, we say then this person is arrogant or narcissistic and we do not put another possibility, that for example This is a healthy thing. Self-love is a very important thing, and many people suffer from a huge deficiency in this matter in particular. We are designed as humans to love ourselves if only the “positive” things are available in us, for example, I love myself if I am rich or if I am a person of status or position or if I am beautiful and tall or have soft facial features , and I do not love myself if I am poor or from a humble family or if I am ugly. Here comes the concept of unconditional self-love, I love myself if I am beautiful and if I am ugly, I love myself if I am smart and I love it if I am stupid too, I love it if I am rich and I love it if I am poor. This concept of unconditional self-love with almost anything is a secret of happiness and a fundamental basis  for it. And of course, this love will make you a stronger and more confident person, and it will make your relationship with yourself healthier.

People who are bullied, whether by colleagues, spouses, or wives, suffer from a severe lack of self-love. If they had enough self-love and respect, they would not have been bullied in the first place.

Self-love also helps to change oneself. If I accept myself with all its flaws, sins, and negative qualities, I will be able to change it. Here is another topic, which is the topic of self-flagellation. Many people who practice self-development, for example, whip themselves and are very harsh with them, and of course, this is completely wrong. The correct approach is the approach of self-love and kindness, and having the desire to change it for the better. Of course, this approach is more effective and better by far, and of course, it is more beautiful and more comfortable at the psychological level.

In my opinion, self-love should have no limits. I love myself even if I am a criminal, for example, but I will also work hard to change it, and as they say, the best of sinners are those who repent.

Thanks. Nicely put. I have a video on self love. It's rather basic though.

Being non-judgemental is also important. Smile more to tap into more joyous state.