What is Dominance?

[Zion]

What is dominance? 

What defines dominance to you?

What does it mean for someone to be dominant over/towards another?

[Nilsi]

Making them an extension of your will.

 

[Zion]

@Nilsi I love that definition. Very thought-provoking. So meaning; choosing for them? When being dominant is when you are making choices for them?

[Something Funny]

9 minutes ago, Nilsi said:

Making them an extension of your will.

 

@Zion I think it means using them to achieve yourr own goals and desires. Making them your tools basically. 

[Leo Gura]

Basically just leading and feeling entitled to her body.

Treat her like she is your property. But this also means taking care of her.

Edited March 19, 2023 by Leo Gura

[gettoefl]

its a social contract - i outsource happiness to you, you deliver happiness to me

submitter shuts down, dominant ramps up

it is a victim victor archetype playing out

trauma-based neurosis

needs healing

can look appealing, ultimately doomed

 

[Zion]

@gettoefl Interesting interpretation. Why is it a social construct? What is the opposition to this that is healthy?

[theleelajoker]

On 3/19/2023 at 3:40 PM, gettoefl said:

its a social contract - i outsource happiness to you, you deliver happiness to me

submitter shuts down, dominant ramps up

it is a victim victor archetype playing out

trauma-based neurosis

needs healing

can look appealing, ultimately doomed

 

Wow, only a few words that to me hit the mark so well! Looking at some of my past behavior and certain behavior of others, I clearly recognize this.

Especially the last one: To people without highly developed personality, it is actually super appealing! They can't see through the fog surrounding this dominant person and all her/his insecurities. I often see how girls are attracted to it and feel often very sorry for them. They mistake dominance for confidence and self-love. One can see what's coming miles ahead but they can't - they walk just right into it their doom...

Edited March 26, 2023 by theleelajoker