Girlfriend doesn't know how to police her shit

[Jacob Morres]

what kind of relationship do you want? 

 

Edit: also I think being a flirt could sometimes mean having one foot in and one foot out. Seems she can't commit 

Edited March 19, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[StarStruck]

10 hours ago, ivankiss said:

I'd say she does. She's not going out alone, doesn't do drugs anymore, etc. She's spending most of her free time with me. It took a lot of talking and some arguing, but I think she's sticking to our agreements. I just doubt she's truly changed. I think she's just trying to be on her best behaviour to give me the impression that she's a good girlfriend.

Again, not trusting her fully and not taking her too seriously. It's too risky. Might end up burning myself bad. Better keep some distance.

Sounds to me like she is doing her best. It is very hard to change and leave pleasure island so you have to be compassionate to her too. Perhaps you know how hard it is to change. The only thing I like to add: if she is entertaining temptation, she is making it 10x harder for herself. 

[MarkKol]

Are you and your girlfriend both Balkan? if not, how did you get her?

I want a foreign girl myself 

@ivankiss

Edited March 19, 2023 by MarkKol

[mr_engineer]

Has she self-reflected about this? Does she have any concrete conclusions about herself based on that? What is her level of self-awareness, according to you? 

[universe]

You have to teach her.

Start with telling her how men all want sex. Because girls are different in that regard, they sometimes don't get that men think with their penis 99% of the time.

Work on her behaviour. When she is telling you about these situations and is not happy with the way she handled them. It's a clear sign she is willing to learn and change her behaviour. Many girls have helper syndrome. They have a problem with saying "no". Because they have a strong need for harmony.

This is not healthy, not for her, not for you and not for the men who get their hopes up because she isn't clear in her communication.

But with deep personal development she can Grow out of it.

[Leo Gura]

@Mormegil There's no special trick. You just recongize that a deep communication is needed and then you force yourself to do it. Like getting out of bed when you don't want to. As you do it more and more it will become easier and more natural.

I will make videos on how to set boundaries and how to do conscious communication.

Edited March 19, 2023 by Leo Gura