Depression

[Vikram ss]

I am feeling depressed when I am talking to my girlfriend. Happy when I am happy I am doing every action successfully but when I am sad I can't even take any action that can change my life what is the reason for this how do I change my life please help please send me any action steps required for my happiness

[abrakamowse]

The main problem is that you "think" there's someone separated from others who is depressed and sad. You are not that. Check what you are not and you will find what you really are. And that what you are, can't be depressed or sad. 

You are aware of sadness and depression, but you are not not depressed, because you can't be. It's just a thought that is not real. I suggest you to meditate on mindful meditation, observing thoughts without getting attached to them. Don't fight them, just observe them. This will create an habit of not paying attention to your "lower self". That doesn't exists in reality.

This helps to make a separation between your real nature and "thoughts" (lower self) which are not real and are not you, and those thoughts are not even talking about you, and they can't tell you who you really are.

After you understand you are not the thinker of thoughts your awakening to a new life will begin. But, you will see that this life it's not something new that you can get or obtain, you were (and are) always "that". You are life itself.

Edited March 11, 2017 by abrakamowse

[Prabhaker]

@Vikram ss

One man went to see the madhouse. In one room a man was beating his head, crying. Great tears were flowing down his cheeks and he was holding a small picture very lovingly on his chest.

The visitor asked the superintendent 'What has happened to this man?'

And the superinterdent said 'You see the picture that he is holding? He holds it day and night. That is the woman he wanted, he had loved, but could not get. Hence, he went mad. He cries and sings songs to her, and goes on thinking of her. That is his whole life. The whole world has disappeared, only the woman... He talks, he talks from his side and the woman's side, and the dialogue continues.'

Then they went to another room, and another man was beating his head and throwing himself against the wall.

And the visitor asked 'What has happened to this man?'

And the superintendent said 'This is the man who got that woman. Since he got that woman he has gone mad.'

[Extreme Z7]

@Vikram ss That's normal for the non-actualized life. It simply means you've got work to do.

[Venus]

@abrakamowse so would you say that creating a habit of not listening to your lower self is the most important thing to do if you were feeling depressed, and mindfulness meditation is the best way to create that habit?

[abrakamowse]

@Venus I didn't say that. I just said that it can help and it was what it helped me to know that I would never be depressed. I was in a very deep depression and I got out from it that way. I'm just sharing my experience, maybe it can help. Maybe not. Who knows?

 

MIndfulness meditation helps to know you are not those thoughts. Not creating an habit. When you get separated from the thoughts your true self or true nature begins to get awaken. When you understand who you really are, there's no depression who can defeat you. Because there's not a "you".

Edited March 13, 2017 by abrakamowse

[Vikram ss]

Sorry guys ,in my opinion taking personal responsibility means responsible for depressed side also .lower mind is also your mind.I can't neglect it by simply meditating.