My girlfriend wants sex every day and I can't

[Hello from Russia]

Just give away your girlfriend go us, lol 

[Roy]

I'm sorry but I can't help but be amused at your circumstance with a HUGE grin on my face.

Less than year ago you were here asking for advice on how to get a girlfriend and how to lose your virginity. Now here you are with a problem most men would trade a limb for.

Life is a funny thing ain't it?

Anyways, you need to communicate to her that you guys should savor your sex a bit more and have it less frequently. You've gotta be comfortable enough with each other to set a boundary and say, "hey babe not right now, let's wait til tomorrow." If she is mature she should be able to take that at face value and not turn it into an argument. It doesn't mean you aren't attracted to her, you just have to say you're tired and not into it at that moment. It shouldn't take any explaining.

My girlfriend LOVES morning sex and molests me every time we wake up trying to arouse me, but I'm only into it once in a while so I need to put my foot down. I just give her a kiss and say, "Let me wake up and get my energy and I will screw your brains out later ." She doesn't pout or whine, she respects my answer.

If your girl doesn't respect your answer the first time you say it, you have a problem and need to sort some boundaries out.

Edited March 12, 2023 by Roy

[mr_engineer]

10 hours ago, Someone here said:

So long story short, I’m looking for some advice here... should i even bring it up at this point or give it a bit more time? If I decide to approach it, how? I certainly wouldn’t want her to think I think there’s something wrong with her or that I don’t enjoy intimacy with her...

If I were in your position, I'd give her the same advice I'd give to any other man. Find ways to channel your sexual energy in creative ways. 

Also, I'd look into the underlying emotional-need that's being coped with here. Cuz that's if her drive increases when you change what you're doing, I'd think it's not about the sex anymore. Sex then sounds like an instant-gratification tool to cope with other problems. I'd suggest you look into that. 

[player1995]

You have to be honest with yourself and your needs first. If she is on the same level as you than she should be receptive to understand you.

Once a week is not much because usually still quite early in the relationship, in my past relationships sometimes lovemaking would occur multiple times a day in the beginning because everything is fresh and things need to be exchanged, energy needs to go somewhere.

It is also important to be aware of is if she is just wanting sex to "release" and use you as that tool for that release, this then can become a toxic cycle for both of you and not stemming out of pure love, true lovemaking is so powerful that you both become so nourished by it that it tends to occur less often but more potent and transforming.

This is at least what I have observed in my dances with women and lovers. We sometimes need to find ways to nourish that inner-primal being but also teach it respect and discipline. You could bring up with her to learn to channel that energy in other ways, like creative tasks, dancing, whatever she is passionate about, and with practice she will be amazed that she will feel more bliss and less needy for sex.

Its an Art form, and life is a balancing act.

[Someone here]

13 hours ago, Roy said:

I'm sorry but I can't help but be amused at your circumstance with a HUGE grin on my face.

Less than year ago you were here asking for advice on how to get a girlfriend and how to lose your virginity. Now here you are with a problem most men would trade a limb for.

Life is a funny thing ain't it?

Anyways, you need to communicate to her that you guys should savor your sex a bit more and have it less frequently. You've gotta be comfortable enough with each other to set a boundary and say, "hey babe not right now, let's wait til tomorrow." If she is mature she should be able to take that at face value and not turn it into an argument. It doesn't mean you aren't attracted to her, you just have to say you're tired and not into it at that moment. It shouldn't take any explaining.

My girlfriend LOVES morning sex and molests me every time we wake up trying to arouse me, but I'm only into it once in a while so I need to put my foot down. I just give her a kiss and say, "Let me wake up and get my energy and I will screw your brains out later ." She doesn't pout or whine, she respects my answer.

If your girl doesn't respect your answer the first time you say it, you have a problem and need to sort some boundaries out.

I’m in a situation I’m sure most men think they would love. What could be better than your  girlfriend wants to have sex all the time. She is a self-proclaimed sex addict. When I say all the time, I'm saying that if work and college wasn't an issue, she would want sex 3-4 times a day. I simply don’t have time for this, nor the sexual appetite.

At first, I didn’t think her behavior was strange. This is my first adult relationship, we were in love and we had sex all the time. It was great.

But now it’s been a little over 2 months. I've since moved out into my own apartment. She stays with me on the weekends. Her sexual appetite doesn’t seem to slow down. Even after all this time my girlfriend wants to have sex all the time. There have been times when I've gone to work sleep deprived because she wakes me up in the middle of the night for more sex. Not even masturbating right after has helped. It's even worse when it's that time of the month.

[Leo Gura]

20 minutes ago, Someone here said:

She is a self-proclaimed sex addict. When I say all the time, I'm saying that if work and college wasn't an issue, she would want sex 3-4 times a day. I simply don’t have time for this, nor the sexual appetite.

1) People have very different sex drives. You need to find girls who are compatible with you.

2) Having that much sex is ridiculous. Make her wait for it. Girls have zero qualms making guys wait for it.

Edited March 12, 2023 by Leo Gura

[kamill]

I had similar problem with one girl but after giving her anal she was good for couple of days

[Someone here]

15 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

1) People have very different sex drives. You need to find girls who are compatible with you.

2) Having that much sex is ridiculous. Make her wait for it. Girls have zero qualms making guys wait for it.

Yeah Leo she is nuts lol 

there was one incident where she basically called for me from my bedroom and tried to force me into sex. She then started demanding that I "get hard" and started threating to "torture" me by squeezing on my genitals. I've tried to explaining to her that I'm not like a light switch that can get turned on just because she tells me to but she doesn't listen.

But Honestly. I'm sexually, emotionally and psychologically attached to this girl. I already consider it a miracle that I found her. Would be very difficult to find another sexually open minded girl here. 

I simply told I literally can not have sex in the quantity she wants. I told her literally that, look, guys' dicks stop functioning after ejaculating frequently lol. 

 

 

[Someone here]

15 hours ago, Gesundheit2 said:

Didn't you used to jerk off like 7 consecutive times a day?

Source? 

[StarStruck]

Get into tantra which is sex that gratifies the soul instead of only gratifying the body which is normal sex.

You don't need to cum every time you fuck her. Preferably don't cum at all.

But it could be possible she is just a nympho and that even tantra won't save her. She needs a brother who can put the fear of god in her in the bedroom.

Edited March 12, 2023 by StarStruck

[Hardkill]

5 hours ago, Someone here said:

Yeah Leo she is nuts lol 

there was one incident where she basically called for me from my bedroom and tried to force me into sex. She then started demanding that I "get hard" and started threating to "torture" me by squeezing on my genitals. I've tried to explaining to her that I'm not like a light switch that can get turned on just because she tells me to but she doesn't listen.

But Honestly. I'm sexually, emotionally and psychologically attached to this girl. I already consider it a miracle that I found her. Would be very difficult to find another sexually open minded girl here. 

I simply told I literally can not have sex in the quantity she wants. I told her literally that, look, guys' dicks stop functioning after ejaculating frequently lol. 

 

 

Is your girlfriend open to watching porn with you or going to an orgy?

[Carl-Richard]

13 hours ago, Hardkill said:

Is your girlfriend open to watching porn with you or going to an orgy?

 She would drag him to an orgy every day by the sounds of it. I don't think the true solution here is more sex.

Edited March 13, 2023 by Carl-Richard

[Hardkill]

15 minutes ago, Carl-Richard said:

 She would drag him to an orgy everyday by the sounds of it. I don't think the true solution here is more sex.

Perhaps, but why not take this as an opportunity for him to have the wildest and kinkiest kinds of sex he could ever have with any girl?

Also, what about an open relationship?

[Someone here]

10 hours ago, StarStruck said:

She needs a brother who can put the fear of god in her in the bedroom.

Lol what do you mean? 

4 hours ago, Hardkill said:

Is your girlfriend open to watching porn with you or going to an orgy?

No !

[flowboy]

13 hours ago, Someone here said:

But now it’s been a little over 2 months. I've since moved out into my own apartment. She stays with me on the weekends. Her sexual appetite doesn’t seem to slow down. Even after all this time my girlfriend wants to have sex all the time. There have been times when I've gone to work sleep deprived because she wakes me up in the middle of the night for more sex. Not even masturbating right after has helped. It's even worse when it's that time of the month.

I think at some point while watching porn you prayed for this and the Universe was like: ok, careful what you wish for though.

@Someone here You can either put your foot down and say no, which is the easiest, or you can start doing semen retention, which means you don't cum and eventually you'll start having ejaculation-less orgasms, keeping your energy and sex drive high all the time.

But only if you want.

[Hardkill]

20 hours ago, Someone here said:

Lol what do you mean? 

No !

Oh that's too bad. lol

Well, in all seriousness, has your gf had some kind of trauma in the past?

A lot of times when a girl has the urge to have sex an abnormal amount of times per day or even per week, it could mean that she's been using sex as a way to cope with the trauma she got from something terrible that happened to her in the past. In fact, a lot of girls who have been raped, molested, or sexually assaulted in some way will often use sex as a way to avoid properly processing the emotional pain of healing from some sort of sexual trauma. They also often feel worthless and that the only value they have as person is that of a sex object because of how damaged their self-esteem and self-concept is.

Maybe she was never traumatized ever, but if you haven't asked her about it, then ask her about her past. If she doesn't feel comfortable talking about it in detail, then maybe try asking her in a general way if she's had any kind of trauma.

Edited March 14, 2023 by Hardkill

[Roy]

@Hardkill You'd be surprised there are a handful of girls who are just horny and ovulating all the time, and well... sex just feels good!

My girlfriend is like 17 years older than me and has a higher sex drive somehow. I thought I liked to fuck a lot 

Edited March 14, 2023 by Roy