a succesful second pickup

[aurum]

20 minutes ago, LSD-Rumi said:

If she didn’t want to engage with me, she should have said so.

Nice try, but no.

That fact that you are even saying this just proves my point. You are not seriously taking the consequences or externalities of your behavior.

It's not the woman's responsibility to stop you from doing creepy things, which it sounds like you were. That's something you're suppose to figure out on your own.

Some women will just not say they don't want to engage with you because they are either too afraid or uncomfortable to say so. You won't take this seriously because it doesn't serve your pick up agenda to do so.

What serves your pickup agenda is to eschew responsibility for how you negatively impact women, as well as to see women as sexual objects for conquer. This is what allows you to keep doing your approaches like you're doing. And that's exactly the attitude you are displaying in this thread.

36 minutes ago, LSD-Rumi said:

I think she had a boyfriend, this is why.

Maybe she did. But also consider that it's because she just didn't like you.

You don't seriously consider that because then you might have to change your behavior. Thus, you yet again externalize responsibility.

[LSD-Rumi]

@aurum Dude, I didn't rape her, harress her or even hurt her emotions. She was laughing all the time I was talking and making jokes. Maybe you  need to stop to doing uncessary projections on to others. I think if she didn't have a boyfriend or if it was not so conservative (she refused to even shake my hand), I would have her by my side now, loool.

Edited March 11, 2023 by LSD-Rumi

[aurum]

10 hours ago, LSD-Rumi said:

Maybe you  need to stop to doing uncessary projections on to others.

I will admit that I am looking at this through the bias of someone from a western country. Also, it sounds like I am likely a bit older than you and therefore have a different dating agenda. I will do my best to account for this difference and I am open to critiques for how to improve in this area.

At the same time, my bias means that I may be able to see what you cannot see. Because you also are biased. In this case, your bias is towards success in pickup.

10 hours ago, LSD-Rumi said:

Dude, I didn't rape her, harress her or even hurt her emotions. She was laughing all the time I was talking and making jokes.

What I am talking about is much more subtle than actual rape. I am talking about the unconscious strategy you are using to be try and be successful in pickup.

There is no guarantee such a strategy will actually work, but nonetheless we develop and use them. Most strategies are unconscious to us because they must be in order to be effective. Once we become conscious of them, the question is whether we wish continue using it. A different choice is also available at that time.