Detox From Red Pill Community & Attachment Issues

[CARDOZZO]

I really liked this conversation between Chris Williamson (Podcaster) and Adam Lane Smith (Psychotherapist/Attachment Specialist).

Chris talks a lot about: Manosphere, Relationships, Business, War Between Man x Woman, Psychology, Male Suffering, Dating, Mindset.

Including Topics:

• Detox From Red Pill Community
• Attachment Issues
• Therapy
• Understanding Female Sex Drive

Adam's Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/

Chris Williamson's Website: https://chriswillx.com/

 

Edited March 9, 2023 by CARDOZZO

[CARDOZZO]

Also, I've found a book in relationship to the topic.

Seems promising, I'll read it

 

[Roy]

The detox to red pill ideology is to get in a relationship with a great women/girl. A sane normal girl not the shallow instagram thots glued to their phones that tuck their belly fat in super tight shirts and wear 2 pounds of make-up every day.

Being stuck in the toxic dating/attraction phase is hell but once you get past it it's golden.

Edited March 10, 2023 by Roy

[CARDOZZO]

@Roy

Rage phase is insanely unproductive.

16 minutes ago, Roy said:

The detox to red pill ideology is to get in a relationship with a great women/girl.

Agree, but in general guys are trapped in "Build your empire, forget woman" or "Forget woman at all" advice. Extremes of the same coin!  

Pickup is one of the solutions.

Daygame is amazing!  

[Roy]

12 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

Pickup is one of the solutions.

Pickup is in marriage with all sorts of redpill garbage and encourages guys to think way too short term about women. Sure you have to learn to even talk to women and get on dates, which pick-up helps with. But it doesn't do a good job of building a bridge from casual > serious relationships.

What guys really want (and most are unaware they want it) is love, pussy is just "nice".

I agree overall it's a step-up because at least with pickup you are actually physically doing something, instead of bitching online in Youtube comments like most redpillers.

Edited March 10, 2023 by Roy

[NoSelfSelf]

@Roy Speak for yourself i dont want love from a woman pls ? how can she love me more than i can love myself...

[CARDOZZO]

@Roy

I agree. Pickup/Daygame is a tool for getting into a serious relationship. Better than arguing and debating  

@NoSelfSelf

Great point  

 

[NoSelfSelf]

@CARDOZZO Its really weird to want to being loved...when you are connected with yourself you dont seek love outside of yourself.When you are not being connected with yourself that causes to want connection outside of yourself and then when you get it, you feel completed and from that you fall in love with that person because it gave you something you cant give yourself.Its like you are completed and if that person leaves you its like you lost part of yourself.

Thats why its really weird to want being loved...

Since when you get connection with yourself its like you fell in love which sounds weird since its thought you need to fall in love with someone or you are a narcissist if you do it with yourself only...

Edited March 10, 2023 by NoSelfSelf

[CARDOZZO]

@NoSelfSelf

That's it!

When did you get a deep connection with yourself?

Leo's meditation is amazing for that:

Did you recommend more practices/books for connection/loving ourselves?

[NoSelfSelf]

@CARDOZZO That's the main thing that i learned is that seeking resaults,books,practices outside of myself is whats blocks you from connection with yourself,connection with yourself starts when you stop using outside world to define you or show you how things are in terms of yourself.

So in practical ways learning about yourself,knowing yourself in real detail but that information is extracted and thought by you (the whys the connection with the thing you contemplating seeing its you) not by help of books.

Then you have a place in your mind where you have all information about yourself the more you have and the deeper it goes the more you gonna connect with yourself and its like you falling in love because you see that strong connection with the mind that is created by you for you.

Its different than methaphysical love this is more like human love that i got recently that was my process.

[CARDOZZO]

@NoSelfSelf

Sounds a lot like a Turquoise (Spiral Dynamics) approach to Love  

I'll contemplate that.

I'm going for the books now, but I'm also doing more deep metaphysical exploration.

I'm currently on Orange (Business, Gym, Pickup) and resonating with Yellow/Turquoise (Multi-Perspectives/Wholeness).

 

 

Edited March 10, 2023 by CARDOZZO

[Roy]

5 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

i dont want love from a woman

That explains a lot.

[NoSelfSelf]

@Roy I dont know you enough to know what you are trying to say and im no mind reader...

[martins name]

This is great thank you for sharing.

[CARDOZZO]

@martins name Enjoy it!  

[Ulax]

19 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

Also, I've found a book in relationship to the topic.

Seems promising, I'll read it

 

@CARDOZZO Great book, in my opinion!

In my experience, can help one understand why it is that some people have "such bad luck in love". And realise it isn't really about luck at all,  just attachment style.

Edited March 10, 2023 by Ulax
meant to write luck not love

[CARDOZZO]

@Ulax Thanks for the preview