Getting passively aggressive mocked, when attracted but insecure and uptight

[Hansli]

Hey guys

i often get mocked by women who feel that im kinda attracted to them, while i feel insecure and not very confident, or more like when im just trapped thinking about how to behave or what to say in order to get liked.

 The mocking shows itself in very subtle passive aggressive attacks, such as apeing what i say for example. 
I dont know if this is a real thing that women do. I wonder if it is them just reacting to that uptight vibe, or if they want to shame me because they feel dishonored, that such a cheap looser thinks he could get her.??

or am i just psychotic and my mind makes this all up, because im in a very poor state, that goes hand in hand with self-sabotaging patterns?

Does anyone experience that too?

Thanks

Edited March 8, 2023 by Hansli

[NoSelfSelf]

Can you explain me what specifically you do to be liked by a woman?

[meta_male]

8 hours ago, Hansli said:

that such a cheap looser thinks he could get her.??

8 hours ago, Hansli said:

or am i just psychotic and my mind makes this all up, because im in a very poor state, that goes hand in hand with self-sabotaging patterns?

It probably has a lot to do with your state of mind. What makes you think you are a cheap looser?

[Hansli]

How they treat me in those situations

[Hansli]

1 hour ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Can you explain me what specifically you do to be liked by a woman?

Hmm i think i just try to be cool or attractive in a way

[Hansli]

8 hours ago, Lila9 said:

I think that they mock you because you feel ashamed of your attraction to women. Some people will mock you once they see some weak spots in you because they feel insecure inside and mocking others makes them feel more confident. In your case, you think that your weak spot is your attraction to them, but the real weakness is the shame of being attracted to them, the inner act of disowning your feelings of attraction. Ask yourself what is so shameful about being attracted to women and you will find that you have nothing to be ashamed of. And then you will start to own it, and once you will really own it and be confident about it, they will no longer mock you and chances they even will be more attracted to you. 

 

 

 

 

Wow very interesting. Thanks

Actually when i think about it, i also experienced getting mocked by men, not because i was attracted to them, but because i think they didnt like to witness my weak spots as if they were afraid to be associated with that.

Edited March 9, 2023 by Hansli

[NoSelfSelf]

@Hansli Thats the thing you TRY being something you are not and what you think THEY will like and it comes off weird.

You senting yourself message in that way im not good enough, because im 100% sure you dont even know who you are ,or what you are is weak so covering that up makes it being shown even more and its little bit cringey i assume, so they see through all of that because women are not stupid they see you like through X-ray..

You need Game basically, which starts from knowing who you are,not pick up techniques that try to cover who you are, they come in handy later when you know who you are,what you want with women,how you gonna present yourself and what you gonna bring to the table based on your strenghts values etc. and not what you think ,or she says she would like you to be for her..

[something_else]

A lot of time, flirting can involve teasing or playful mocking. It could be them showing interest.

It's hard to judge without knowing exactly what they said, however.

Edited March 9, 2023 by something_else

[NoSelfSelf]

@something_else Good point! there is a fine line between teasing and mocking...

[Emerald]

The thing that I’m wondering is if you’re interpreting something in their actions that isn’t there.

The reason I say this is because you added the descriptor “cheap loser” to yourself and ascribed a motive to them on that basis.

This indicates to me that you see yourself as a cheap loser and are projecting that same judgment into the minds of women.

And then, if they don’t respond affirmatively (or possibly even try to tease/flirt with you) you interpret the situation as them treating you like crap and feeling insulted by a “cheap loser” being interested in them.

It just seems like you projecting your shame and self-judgment onto them.

[NoSelfSelf]

@Emerald There is also a phenomena where someone,brings out from others the ways to treat that individual(weird to describe ill give an example)

One women was telling me how people treat her and the more i was next to her, the more she brought in me the behaviours to treat her the same way but i didnt. Its a weird phenomena . Same way if you fear something it has to happen, like the illusion has to survive by projecting and making others treat you the way you believe i dont know much about it reminded me when reading your snipet.

[mr_engineer]

@Hansli It's shit-testing. Big red-flag in my opinion. I run from women who do that shit. It's a waste of time. 

Seek out women who treat you with respect. I was attracted to a girl who did that once, when I was 13. Then, I learned my lesson. And, from that point on, all of the girls I took seriously treated me with respect.