How to deal with things that trigger you?

[Bobby_2021]

How do you deal with things that trigger you?

For a lot of time I used to expose myself to things that trigger me until I become sensitised to the trigger.

For some reason I changed that strategy and stopped exposing myself to such experiences due to it's uncomfortable nature.

I feel now that my earlier approach of exposing myself repeatedly to it was the better approach. I am not just talking about hardcore triggering material specially designed to trigger people. (Although I love to hear your opinion on that as well). I am talking about normal experiences in everyday life that triggers you?

How do you approach your triggers?

Thoughts? 

 

Edited March 1, 2023 by Bobby_2021

[Salvijus]

"Turn the other cheek" would be the christian way. Transforming negative energy through the presence of love. 

Another way is to observe your feelings and emotions as a silent detachted witness.

Honestly the second method i tried for many years and it didn't quite work for me. Maybe it does for other idk. The christian way did miracles to me tho. But it takes time to learn. I reccomend acim for that. Bc that's how i learnt it for myself.

The ability has many degrees. At some point when u become very good at it u can exorcise demons and heal ilnesses with the same transformative power of the presence of love. It's quite an esoteric skill imo. It has many other benefits as well.

Edited March 1, 2023 by Salvijus

[Bobby_2021]

Thanks @Salvijus.

I have noticed that protecting myself from normal triggers gives a level of comfort and you would want to protect your again by shielding yourself from even more triggers.

Before you know it, you are in a bubble of delusion and grossly out of touch with reality. 

[Salvijus]

1 hour ago, Bobby_2021 said:

I have noticed that protecting myself from normal triggers gives a level of comfort and you would want to protect your again by shielding yourself from even more triggers.

That's the method of renunciation i believe.

I heard one example once. There're three methods of dealing with a poisonous plant. 

One is u stay away from it. Renunciation.

Two is you're a healer and u can transform poison into medicine. The way of tantra. Or the way of alchemy. Or the way of transformation. (Has many names)

And three u consume the poison directly and u see that nothing in the universe can harm u bc u don't exist. That's dzogchen, abiding in no self kind of thing.

Just felt like sharing

 

[Bobby_2021]

6 hours ago, Judy2 said:

@Bobby_2021
understanding why "a trigger" triggers you is key. once you understand it, you can then change your beliefs around it and the trigger will no longer be as triggering.

isolating yourself from all triggers sounds good in the short term, but can lead to major dysfunction in the long term. although you wouldn't want to overwhelm yourself either, and it's a good idea to avoid overexposure if it's unnecessary and only makes you feel bad.

Important point. Going to save this. ?

[cjoseph90]

this is a great post, I can really resonate with this currently in my life. yes awareness really is they key

[Ulax]

@Bobby_2021 Here is my perspective.

I'd say concentration type meditation is pretty great, in my opinion. I find it gives me a firm sense of self and feel more safe. Hence, I get less triggered. And i think you can get quick improvements with that.

Using relaxation methods when triggered, such as breathing techniques.

Using relaxation techniques at certain point(s) during the day, so you are just in a baseline calmer state.

Understanding high consciousness psychological theories, such as non-violent communications, and defence mechanism theories.

Doing deep inner shadow work, i.e. depth psychotherapies, exploring past via journaling, psychedelics.

Having multiple deep, intimate friendships.

Socialising a lot.

Ego transcendence I.e. spiritual work.

[Yimpa]

On 3/1/2023 at 0:08 PM, Bobby_2021 said:

For a lot of time I used to expose myself to things that trigger me until I become sensitised to the trigger.

For some reason I changed that strategy and stopped exposing myself to such experiences due to it's uncomfortable nature.

When it becomes uncomfortable, that’s a great opportunity to do some contemplation. 

[Jodistrict]

I keep a journal of triggers.  They are excellent doorways into your unconscious mind.  Typically, you are overreacting because the trigger has pulled up old memories of unresolved trauma.   Keep asking “why” to discover the unconscious programming.  

[Roy]

Focus on what you love and enjoy in life and you'll stop giving a shit about triggers.

How will you even have energy to react if you're pouring all of it into something awesome?

Edited March 4, 2023 by Roy

[hyruga]

Try letting go by David Hawkins.