Good dates with a lot of attraction yet getting ignored afterwards

[Vrubel]

This is my pattern. Before the date they are respectful and respond within a good timeframe. On the date, the girls are clearly attracted and stimulated. After the date They don't bother anymore communicating with me in a respectful manner and flake.

I often hear the words "I would like to see you again" but then never see them again. What is happening here?

[StarStruck]

Study power (collaboration) versus force (competition). Read the book. Owen from RSD uses it to teach social skills:

You have to be the catch. If you don’t believe you are the catch, and she feels you are trying to catch her, what is she going to do? She is going to escape. 

[Vrubel]

I date very hot women, so yeah if they don't have psychological issues, in the framework of being chill, honest and masculine I do kinda give away that I want to fuck them. But isn't this also necessary to build tension? 

Is it really this extreme that when the hot girl understands I want to fuck that she runs away?
During the duration of the date she is super attracted but the shit starts afterwards. 

Edited February 18, 2023 by Vrubel

[Vrubel]

For example this week I had a date with a very stunning eastern European girl. Also very intelligent and proper. She used to apologize when not responding within just a few hours and even apologized for being two minutes late for our date. The date went great, there was clear attraction, we kissed, and she felt very happy and stimulated. She was also very clearly boasting to win more of my attraction. But then at the trains, I gave her casually the option to come home chill with me but she refused and I didn't push.  My train was leaving in that very instant so we quickly kissed and said goodbye.

Since then she has been ignoring me. 

Edited February 18, 2023 by Vrubel

[Vrubel]

Is it possible that I stimulate the girls on the date then she goes home and goes out that night to score or calls her fuck buddy because I horned her up? 

The girl in question did tell me she went out after our date but is ignoring me again. Like, we clicked perfectly, we kissed and I made her laugh and everything during the date. She told me "I made winter feel like summer". But now she doesn't feel the need to reply to me, let alone chase me. Because she knows she can get me. 
 

Earlier this week I had a date with a very cute Russian girl but she got some emotional baggage so I was visibly wary of that and considered her below my standards. She is actually slightly chasing me now. which is nice but still as soon as a girl will figure out that she can have me she will stop all investments and treat me with zero respect when texting.

Edited February 23, 2023 by Vrubel

[Breakingthewall]

@Vrubel a pretty and smart girl has limitless options. any detail, any feeling, will be enough to rule you out. They are looking for something specific, not just a profile but a precise connection, a feeling, who knows? she lives in total abundance. It is as if you were a famous actor, the music star. I would say that your dates are a total success, you just aim high, that's good. lucky to be able to do it, the only drawback is that that kind of rejections could happens to you. 

I wouldn't take it personally, something you should change. it's up to her

 

Edited February 23, 2023 by Breakingthewall

[meta_male]

On 18.2.2023 at 5:23 PM, Vrubel said:

After the date They don't bother anymore communicating with me in a respectful manner and flake.

Let her come to you at her own pace. Are you acting needy? Texting her afterwards or let her initiate?

[Vrubel]

@meta_male I have a standard formula where I send something after 24 hours, something witty or a standard "..?". After two to three days of silence after that I send the "still alive?". Then it's pretty much over. 

 

Edited February 23, 2023 by Vrubel

[meta_male]

@Vrubel  So you're seeking her validation. Women need time for their feelings to develop. Unlike us men who know right on the spot that they want to keep the girl around. Give it a few days until you reach out again to ask when she's free next.

[Vrubel]

@meta_male Oke, I'll wait a few days and then say "...let's turn winter into summer again"

Edited February 23, 2023 by Vrubel

[meta_male]

@Vrubel It would be better to say you had a nice time and ask when she's free next. Direct and straight to the point. Then you go about your life.

Edited February 23, 2023 by meta_male