Am I a disturbing element to girls ?

[Rishabh R]

So I was suffering due to lack of girlfriend in my life . A senior told me that you will never get a girlfriend to which I replied that so I must commit suicide. Senior told that go and commit suicide as there is no meaning for existence of a boy like you and you are a disturbing element to girls. Also when I shared this with my friends that I am suffering they scolded me and told that others have their dating life and career handled and you are not like that . And also as I mentioned that I was kicked out of campus that senior told me that that girl abuses me and literally hates me . They also adviced me to not to watch the video of bald headed person - Actualized.org . They also told me that that is western culture and it is India those things won't work here . I am feeling very bad .

[flowboy]

46 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

they scolded me and told that others have their dating life and career handled and you are not like that

 

46 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

my friends

???

These are not friends. Friends don't do that.

Have some self-respect and don't engage with people who treat you like that.

 

My honest advice to you is to do get a good therapist.

Your behavior (engaging in conversations, and even friendships, with people who put you down), indicates a lack of self-respect, boundaries, self-esteem, self worth, self-belief, all the good stuff.

You have none of that, and the only way that would happen, is if your parents also treated you with little respect. There must have been some abuse or neglect in your relationship with them.

You don't get past this simply by learning a different mindset or following somebody's advice.

You do deep inner transformation, emotional labor, preferably guided by a professional.

If you can pay out of pocket for that, I can point you to some people.

Otherwise you're dependent on insurance.

Hence, get a good therapist.

Edited February 15, 2023 by flowboy

[Rishabh R]

@flowboy I am already on antidepressants and been councilled before by psychologist .

[something_else]

These people are not your friends. Not even close.

You really need to start distancing yourself from them as much as possible and find some actual friends who support you and want good things for you.

[flowboy]

12 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

@flowboy I am already on antidepressants and been councilled before by psychologist .

She/he should never have dropped you that quick. Watch my video on what makes therapy effective and how to ask for it.

[Jacob Morres]

Damn I'm sorry you're going through that man. Getting a gf is sometimes not easy

those guys are dicks Btw. U dont deserve that treatment

A lot of people struggle with this so it's normal 

 

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTgrvy0IvkU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7L2MzmE8cwo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I7FRKhhQ9PA

 

Edited February 17, 2023 by Raze

[mr_engineer]

@Rishabh R In the dating-world, or your career, no one is your friend. Absolutely no one. 

Other guys are competition, so they will give you bad advice on purpose. Your bullshit-radar should be on full sensitivity when you talk to anyone about dating or women. Because they don't benefit from you getting what you want. Women are clueless for the most part about what they want, so don't listen to most women about dating. Find credible female sources, women who actually care about ending this gender-divide. They'll tell you what women want. And listen to no one else. 

[Chives99]

Sounds like a toxic environment you're in, I'd recommend moving to somewhere more western if you could as that social and dating environment seems really outdated, explore your interests socialise and talk to girls, something may happen........