Is Tate right about age 25+ women?

[Devin]

1 minute ago, something_else said:

No! No one needs to be submissive in healthy relationships, lol. You should drop this idea that one person always needs to be in charge. Relationships should be as equal as you can make them.

The polarity of masculine/feminine is important, but framing it as dominant/submissive for anything other than sex is not healthy.

Orange is equal, Yellow is equal, Blue and Green are not. In general.

Edited February 28, 2023 by Devin

[Devin]

18 minutes ago, something_else said:

No! No one needs to be submissive in healthy relationships, lol. You should drop this idea that one person always needs to be in charge. Relationships should be as equal as you can make them.

The polarity of masculine/feminine is important, but framing it as dominant/submissive for anything other than sex is not healthy.

The man being submissive doesn't necessarily mean the woman is dominant, would you not consider both partners in a green relationship to usually be submissive?

Edited February 28, 2023 by Devin

[StarStruck]

@something_else nobody says “I’m submissive to my boss”. Guess why. 

[something_else]

7 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

@something_else nobody says “I’m submissive to my boss”. Guess why. 

 

https://www.google.com/search?q=submissive+employee&rlz=1C5CHFA_enGB977GB977&oq=submissive+employee&aqs=chrome..69i57.2241j0j1&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

The word is not only sexual/kinky. It is used in other contexts to mean "ready to conform to the authority or will of others". You know this, because you use the word in a non-sexual context to mean exactly that yourself already, see below. You're just being obtuse and focusing on minutia to avoid the actual substance of the discussion.

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Being submissive to your man doesn't just mean you bend over backward to him. It is about accepting your man as the leader of your life in the context of a relationship. A ship can't have two captains.

Being submissive versus dominating has to do with the power dynamic in the relationship.

This power dynamic changes as a man reaches his peak and a female leaves her peak, as Tate explains in that video.

 

 

[Bobby_2021]

7 hours ago, Lila9 said:

What women mean when they say they prefer older men is that they prefer maturity in men and that can come at any age. Usually they refer to emotional maturity that many times comes with life experince (having life struggles, to suffer, to be a witness to complex situations or getting through them) but having life experince alone doesn't guarantee being a mature human being, it also requires some inner introspection and reflection which not everyone is blessed with. You can be a 20 years old man who is more emotionaly mature than a 50 years old man. 

Experience also makes for a better leader who can make better decisions regarding the future of the relationship.

9 hours ago, Emerald said:

What do you think the experience of being with a truly submissive woman is like in the context of a relationship?

As a man, I should have some authority to dictate the general direction in which we take our relationship. It doesn't mean that I am going to be completely dismissive of her and make her jump through hoops just for self amusement. 

5 hours ago, something_else said:

They are paid differently specifically because there are not treated as equals

They are paid differently based on the complexity, skill, supply and demand of the work they are doing.

In the same way men and women have different skill sets they bring into the relationship.

If the reason for paying people differently is because inequality, then inequality is the best thing to happen in the world. Because treating everyone equally is the best way to crash the economy. lmao 

Will you claim that you are oppressed and exploited because you are not getting paid as much software engineers for flipping burgers or some shit? 

Your notions of equality are quite silly and dangerous, not merely unhealthy.  

6 hours ago, something_else said:

Have you ever had a great friendship where neither of you were really 'captain' and both of you treated each other as equals? They are the best friendships.

False Equivalency.

Relationships are an order of magnitude more complex systems than friendships. Friendships are much more fluid and there is not a lot of intimacy or interdependence as that of sexual relationships. Which is why people are able to manage friends more than they do with relationships. 

6 hours ago, something_else said:

Then explain to me what you mean by mildly submissive?

The analogy of corporate and employee is perfect. The corporations want submissive employees. Both of them get their needs met. She should ride along for the majority of decision I take. And my decision making in accordance with making the best of our relationship.

And I am not saying this is the optimal way to run a relationship by any means. This is applicable to majority of the people in the world who come from less privileged backgrounds who has to worry a lot of things to get the relationships going. Obviously if you have plenty of money laying around and government take cares of your bills and college to some extent, then I too can appreciate this sort of hippy notions.

7 hours ago, Lila9 said:

Men who want a submissive women are directed towards either too young and powerless women, usually from poor backgrounds or women from 3rd world countries who will do everything to improve their lives and make survival easier for them. They want women who have no choice in the first place.

I am from a third world country.

Edited February 28, 2023 by Bobby_2021

[Nilsi]

Let's be real here: there is no good reason to date a woman over 20.

After that she's already carrying unnecessary cultural baggage and is past her prime physically - so unless she's super interesting or developed, there is really no point.

Obviously not a scalable worldview, but oh well.

Edited March 2, 2023 by Nilsi

[Nilsi]

On 2/28/2023 at 3:08 PM, something_else said:

The polarity of masculine/feminine is important, but framing it as dominant/submissive for anything other than sex is not healthy.

It is a primal urge for the male to be dominant and for the female to be submissive - unless both your hormones are seriously screwed up (which wouldn't be surprising these days) that's the most healthy and natural arrangement.

When you get a child or grow older your biochemistry will regulate itself and become more androgynous, so don't worry about it.

[zurew]

Nilsi is coming with another hot take.

If you only care about sex, then why would you limit It with a random age limit, when there are hot women in a much bigger age range + the older the women, the more sexual exp she will have , therefore the more she will know how to make sex fun.

[Nilsi]

10 minutes ago, zurew said:

Nilsi is coming with another hot take.

If you only care about sex, then why would you limit It with a random age limit, when there are hot women in a much bigger age range + the older the women, the more sexual exp she will have , therefore the more she will know how to make sex fun.

I can live with the idea that it's preference, but 18-20 is how I like mine and that's perfectly legal, so deal with it.

I don't want her to be experienced and I don't need her to make sex more fun - I'd rather have a sweet youthful girl that looks up to me and is still genuinely excited and curious about dating and sex.

Edited March 2, 2023 by Nilsi

[something_else]

19 minutes ago, Nilsi said:

It is a primal urge for the male to be dominant and for the female to be submissive - unless both your hormones are seriously screwed up (which wouldn't be surprising these days) that's the most healthy and natural arrangement.

When you get a child or grow older your biochemistry will regulate itself and become more androgynous, so don't worry about it.

 

 

 

If you want relationships that cannot extend past basic primal urges then by all means go and dominate 18 year old girls until they hit 20 and then dump them for the next 18 year old. Lots of guys have a phase somewhat like that. It's great fun, but it's not sustainable.

If you want a conscious, developed, and happy relationship at some point in your life you might find that strategy stops working because any women with a decent amount of self-respect and maturity who you might actually still enjoy being around after 2 or 3 years is not going to go for a setup where you are bossing her around all the time like Tate, or a 1950s husband.

You can have masculine/feminine polarity without anyone needing to be the boss.

 

Edited March 2, 2023 by something_else

[Nilsi]

3 minutes ago, something_else said:

If you want relationships that cannot extend past basic primal urges then by all means go and dominate 18 year old girls until they hit 20 and then dump them for the next 18 year old. Lots of guys have a phase somewhat like that. It's great fun, but it's not sustainable.

If you want a conscious, developed, and happy relationship at some point in your life you might find that strategy stops working because any women with a decent amount of self-respect and maturity who you might actually still enjoy being around after 2 or 3 years is not going to go for a setup where you are bossing her around all the time like Tate, or a 1950s husband.

You can have masculine/feminine polarity without anyone needing to be the boss.

 

As far as age goes: obviously if you want something long-term, you will have to accept the fact that she's getting older lol.

As far as domination goes: you're just strawmanning me at this point - you can be generally dominant and assertive without being some oppressive chauvinist pig.

[Bobby_2021]

9 hours ago, Nilsi said:

far as domination goes: you're just strawmanning me at this point - you can be generally dominant and assertive without being some oppressive chauvinist pig.

It's so funny.

Me: "I like a submissive feminine girl."

People in this thread: "How dare you make women jump through hoops like a dog you disgusting misogynist patriarchal pig."

Nuance left the chat. 

[Leo Gura]

On 2/16/2023 at 1:44 AM, StarStruck said:

What you guys don’t get is that it is not shameful to be on the lower SD stages.  

It is not shameful, but also keep in mind that it does cause harm to others. Which is why they will shame you for it.

Just because a child is not developed does not mean people will be happy when he starts throwing shit on the walls, even though he doesn't know better.

Edited March 3, 2023 by Leo Gura

[integral]

 

 

17 hours ago, Nilsi said:

Let's be real here: there is no good reason to date a woman over 20.

After that she's already carrying unnecessary cultural baggage and is past her prime physically - so unless she's super interesting or developed, there is really no point.

Obviously not a scalable worldview, but oh well.

There is a point, no one can function with out it. Constantly seeking and longing it. Dating is about getting your biological and psychological needs met. Most people are not sensitive to there needs so they turn relationships into something else. Just keep it simple.

From what ive read you guys enter relationships and sabotage them from the inside out with all your bullshit and then look externally for solutions or blame. "I need to go get me a younger girl" ?

Edited March 3, 2023 by integral

[Devin]

1 hour ago, integral said:

 

 

There is a point, no one can function with out it. Constantly seeking and longing it. Dating is about getting your biological and psychological needs met. Most people are not sensitive to there needs so they turn relationships into something else. Just keep it simple.

From what ive read you guys enter relationships and sabotage them from the inside out with all your bullshit and then look externally for solutions or blame. "I need to go get me a younger girl" ?

         So the millennia of arranged marriages, all misery? It's just relative dude, did Socrates and Aurelias need their wives for psychological fulfillment? Fulfillment is based on the fill mark you draw on your container, you could argue there's no woman on earth you should date because they'll all hold you back from ultimate fulfillment.

[integral]

10 minutes ago, Devin said:

         So the millennia of arranged marriages, all misery? It's just relative dude, did Socrates and Aurelias need their wives for psychological fulfillment? Fulfillment is based on the fill mark you draw on your container, you could argue there's no woman on earth you should date because they'll all hold you back from ultimate fulfillment.

Im placing relationships needs at the same level as food/water, it needs to be handled to focus on higher order things or else what happens is your going to suppress does needs leading to disfunction. 

[Devin]

12 minutes ago, integral said:

Im placing relationships needs at the same level as food/water, it needs to be handled to focus on higher order things or else what happens is your going to suppress does needs leading to disfunction. 

       I really don't think your wife's level of development say above the level of nuisance, inhibits higher order development.

     Aurelias' wife is notoriously known for being a cheater and slept around a lot even.

Edited March 3, 2023 by Devin

[Devin]

"As a consequence of Socrates' attitude towards his wife, Xanthippe is often remembered as a shrew, a scolding wife who was a pain in the rear end for philosophy's most prestigious character. It was said that Xanthippe was so disagreeable that she once poured the contents of a chamber pot over the head of Socrates.Mar 3, 2014 "

https://classicalwisdom.com › people

Five Reasons Why Socrates Was A Terrible Husband - Classical Wisdom

Edited March 3, 2023 by Devin

[integral]

40 minutes ago, Devin said:

       I really don't think your wife's level of development say above the level of nuisance, inhibits higher order development.

     Aurelias' wife is notoriously known for being a cheater and slept around a lot even.

Ye its all about compatibility, eating junk food everyday is not recommended either. 

[Devin]

4 minutes ago, integral said:

Ye its all about compatibility, eating junk food everyday is not recommended either. 

       Integrate junk food eating, don't suppress it. ?