Do You Always Address Negative People?

[OhHiMark]

If someone is intentionally trying to get at you or draw out a reaction is it best to challenge this person in a calm and collected way or is it best to realise the situation for what it is and let go?

 

Previously I've been very fiery and tend to have a reflex action of going on the defensive, but as such you don't really control what you say or how you say it so you come across as not in control of your emotions.

When somebody is trying to draw a reaction, make you suffer (suffer being a bit harsh a word here) or play games. Is it best to ignore and see the situation for what it is?

The person in question is my landlord not supplying the correct information to me in order to make my Life harder. Do I approach them in a calm way and "expose" them or do I just wait a few days to receive what I need and let it be? (Need spare keys to flat, landlord says the company hasn't made them yet, I called company and they've been ready since last week) Long history with landlord.

If this was a partner, friend, boss or family I would address the situation but I also want to show myself that not everything needs to be 'won', proved, or otherwise. I can simply identity problems and choose how I react. 

I think a lot has to do with ego, I wanted to address the situation to say "Hey, you're not going to take me for a fool, I've phoned the company and actually they said..." Instead I phoned them and asked for any updates and wished them a good day.

I've watched Leo's video on negative people but I don't believe he mentioned the 'passers by' as much as influential people in your Life.

Edited March 6, 2017 by OhHiMark

[Nahm]

Try to figure out how you attracted them in the first place. 

See they aren't "negative", that's a judgement you created. 

They just are where they are. Offer compassion if you are in a solid place. Otherwise, move on, they're fine. 

 

[OhHiMark]

2 hours ago, Nahm said:

Try to figure out how you attracted them in the first place. 

See they aren't "negative", that's a judgement you created. 

They just are where they are. Offer compassion if you are in a solid place. Otherwise, move on, they're fine. 

Compassion works but usually after a while

It's funny. Compassion in my Life offers immediate relief. Even creating this topic is a relief because otherwise I would have let my ego get the better of me and felt frustrated and anger.

My ego probably hates me right now, which is why whenever I'm compassionate, my ego usually waits until my mood is lowered and then and only then, will question my compassion i.e why were you so compassionate to the landlord who tried to bring you down.

I hope I'm getting this stuff right because it's fascinating.

Edited March 6, 2017 by OhHiMark

[Nahm]

@OhHiMark Awesome. I don't get any of this stuff.  Compassion feels good to me also. Have a great day man.